Can We Have What We Want?

Can We Have What We Want?

Can We Have What We Want?  Oh Oh, before we get our feet that wet, we got to set expectations here.  This is NOT going to be like a standard "DO THIS and THAT" thing.  Instead, we'll look behind your desires to discover WHAT it is you actually WANT and HOW you're standing in your own way to get WHAT you want now.  Apologies for those disclaimers before we roll up our sleeves and dissect things.  To start with, can you list [on your own] WHAT you desire most in life.  Is it happiness?  Love?  Financial stability?  Stable family relationships❔❔❔

Thing is, it is damn easy to know WHAT you WANT in life.  It's harder to get it.  OR is it?  True, getting a new job OR a pay raise OR a job promotion can be difficult BUT getting WHAT you WANT can be more BLACK and WHITE than you might think though.  It is then crucial enough that you develop a game plan or an approach.  HOW?  Primero, ASK [and be specific].  This sounds obvious and yet sometimes, we expect to get exactly WHAT we want without being clear as to WHAT that is📗📙📘

Fact is, we CAN'T expect anyone to read our own mind.  So, figure out exactly WHAT it is you want and ask for it clearly and confident enough.  Just DON'T beat around the bush.  Express your want specifically and concisely enough so that there ISN'T any confusion, doubt OR wiggle room on the receiver's end.  Now, this is WHAT most of us are guilty of.  It is sometimes awkward and stressful to ask for something from a 'higher up' at work📌📌📌

So, you might catch yourself starting with, 'I'M SORRY TO ASK, BUT....'.  which sounds you're apologizing BUT you can still be polite without backing down.  That's the thing. People often mistake apologizing for their wants with being polite.  In fact, you can still be polite BUT without backing down.  Else, apologizing for your want comes across as unconfident WHICH can make your superior feel unconfident in granting it to you.  Just DON'T GIVE IN.  Be strong.  You have really nothing to apologize in the first place❎❎❎

So, our takeaway today?  Endeavor to make YOUR GAIN THEIR GAIN.  Unfortunately, the days of helping for the sake of helping are out of the window.  The "WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME" attitude is a cultural norm and you must embrace it WHEN asking a boss or any other superior for help.  It is important that the person in question views your victory as their victory as well.  And besides being PERSISTENT, be prepared for your want to be fulfilled.  Easy to wish for something BUT are you truly ready for it to be bestowed to you?  So, CAN WE HAVE WHAT WE WANT?  Absolutely dude❗❗❗