How ASSERTIVENESS Will Help You In Life

How ASSERTIVENESS Will Help You In Life

For many of us [and that included moi in the past], I never gave that much weight on being ASSERTIVE.  I thought it's NOT part of our core communication skill.  BUT hey I'm grossly wrong because experts tell us that being ASSERTIVE is indeed a core communication skill.  Because ASSERTIVENESS can help you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view.  So, How ASSERTIVENESS Will Help You In Life???

So, WHY exactly ASSERTIVENESS makes sense?  Before we get mixed up, ASSERTIVENESS is NOT being ABRASIVE.  On the other hand, ASSERTIVENESS is based on mutual respect.  First and foremost, being ASSERTIVE shows that you respect yourself because you're willing to stand up for your interests and express your thoughts and feelings.  It also demonstrates that you're aware of others' rights and willing to work on resolving conflicts.  BTW, being ASSERTIVE means NOT being PASSIVE😀😀😀

Let's face it.  If your style is being that PASSIVE or NON-ASSERTIVE, you may seem to be shy OR overly easygoing.  You may routinely say things such as "I'LL JUST GO WITH WHATEVER THE GROUP DECIDES." True, with that kind of stance, you tend to avoid conflict.  BUT WHY is that a problem?  It's because the message you're sending is that your thoughts and feelings AREN'T as important as those of other people💧💧💧

In essence, WHEN you're too PASSIVE, you allow other people to ignore your WANTS and NEEDS.  ISN'T that off-track?  Let's take a real-life scenario.  You would say YES [without any resistance] WHEN your colleague asks you to take over a task OR deliverable [EVEN IF you fully know well that you CAN'T take more workload anymore].  True, your intention may be to keep the PEACE [BUT AT WHAT COST?]???

Our takeaway:  The assumption that being PASSIVE saves you from more trouble OR conflict is an age-old fallacy.  WHY?  Because your PASSIVE behavior OR attitude could even lead you to stress, resentment, seething anger, feelings of being a victim, desiring to exact revenge, OR worst, doubting OR questioning your very own judgment.  NOW, WHAT if you're AGGRESSIVE?  You may come across as a bully WHO ignores others' needs, feelings OR opinions.  You may think that being AGGRESSIVE gets you WHAT you want.  BUT that comes at a cost.  Our takeaway:  Being ASSERTIVE is the way to go, NEITHER being PASSIVE NOR AGGRESSIVE💥💥💥