If It's Meant To Be, It Will Be

 

I've witnessed up front several people WHO were so focused to win the top LOTTO prizes so much so that, everyday they would buy and bet.  And as the months and years went through, his LOTTO betting just seemed to escalate as well.  Similarly, I came to know someone WHO got so focused in that raffle promo of a Mercedes Benz car if you'll buy the telco's prepaid load cards.  He ended up splurging in buying that telco's prepaid load cards EVEN IF he had little need for it, if at all.  Until he had to loan for small amounts to defray his excessive purchases of that telco's prepared load cards.  You might ask me.  DID he win that Mercedes Benz car?  DID he win a major LOTTO prize📗📙📘

Swinging over to relationships, we have seen couples whose relationships are hitting rough patches until things exacerbate BUT either protagonist WON'T let go of the other.  BUT dude, if you love something, set it free.  That's borrowing the usual advice from counsellors.  True, that idea of letting something go that you love may sound noble and self-sacrificing BUT HOW does it actually play out in the real world?  Does the adage hold up OR is it just a way of trying to make heartbreaks sound meaningful and poetic?  In a bigger scheme of things, we are told and reminded that the universe has plans for you, for us✅✅✅

Having said that, we DON'T imply that letting go of things ISN'T hard.  IT IS, in fact and in truth.  We become attached to the people in our lives and permitting them to fly can indeed be damn scary.  It is imperative to remember that we can keep caring about them BUT we CAN'T try to control their choices [and eventual decisions especially if we are oblivious of such].  This is where PERFECTION comes into play as well.  And true, TRUST is a big part of releasing PERFECTION and it's TRUST in our own self that life is happening to you and for you.  PERFECTION says 'YOU HAVE TO FORCE, MANAGE and CONTROL YOUR LIFE TO BE HAPPY'💥💥💥

IMPERFECTION tells us that 'YOU DON''T HAVE TO FORCE WHAT'S MEANT FOR YOU'.  You can be yourself and then everything will fall into place just as it should.  You can then be happy.  In the NOT so distant past, PERFECTION, FORCE and CONTROL used to be my 'jam'.  I thought I needed to be PERFECT for things to go 'MY WAY'.  Lo and behold, it turns out that 'MY WAY' ISN'T always WHAT's best for me even in the long haul. I wanted to avoid messing up or mis-stepping so I used PERFECTION to try and control the outcome.  BUT the thing is, IF IT'S MEANT FOR YOU, you CAN'T mess it up.  That goes for relationships, jobs, opportunities, anything and everything in fact💚💛💜

Our takeaway:  In our various pursuits in life, as we aim to achieve something and we pour it out and still fail, expectedly, frustration creeps in.  So, we could get caught up in that vicious cycle of trying and trying our best [WHICH is perfectly fine].  BUT if we keep falling flat on our face, dude, it's time for us to face the mirror and remind our own selves that IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE.  Otherwise, you could have reached that reckoning point WHERE a forked road needs you to choose and decide between 2 or 3 ways to go.  It just can't be a single-track on an end-to-end basis.  Never forget that you got a foot brake and even a handbrake to pull up, IF and WHEN needed😔😔😔

If It's Meant To Be, It Will Be

If It's Meant To Be, It Will Be

IF there's a one-liner that seems to sound so cruel and overused at that, it's "If It's Meant To Be, It Will Be".  Likely you would hear this OVER and OVER again as people tend to say this quite often with regard any situation that has NOT gone the way they had planned OR hoped.  They put it down to some superior force controlling their lives NOT allowing them to experience themselves.  WHEN a relationship fails, WHEN someone fails a job interview, WHEN a business fails, we would hear this one-liner over and over again.  The truth is, the statement itself is absolutely true BUT the way in which it is used to determine future events is disturbing to say the least because the future can't be combined with the past📗📙📘

The mix-up here is that this one-liner implies that everything is OUT OF CONTROL when, in fact, we have control over our actions at every given moment.  We also have the power to create our realities as we choose, we have influence over matter and energy and it is that influence that creates.  Every present moment represents infinite number of possibilities.  We use our power of choice to determine WHICH of those possibilities we opt for.  If you see the woman of your dreams walking by you in the street, you have a choice which is, you can either walk over to her and say hello OR you can just let her walk by without taking any action💢💢💢

Of course, there is a good chance that she may think that you are a complete 'wierdo'  for approaching her randomly BUT what the heck, you may never see her again, right?  So, you might consider to taking that shot, even it's a long shot and make the most of it, because it is your attitude and conviction then that determines the flow of the situation.  The other issue with that statement is that the underlying thought is that there is a 'Godly' force of sorts that is sitting 'up there' deciding WHAT is the best for you even if it's something you DON'T like.  Can you see the trouble with the thought like that?  If I go for a job interview with the thought that  "IF IT'S MEANT FOR ME, I'LL GET THE JOB, ELSE I DON'T", likely you will NOT get the job because your heart is just NOT there in your head💧💧💧

Got that mix-up?  WHY should you even be angling for that job at all if it is GOD who will decide WHAT's best for you?  And that GOD will deliver to your door the job HE intends for you.  Quite absurd right?  If you ever catch yourself in the act, of having that thought, gently tell yourself: "WHATEVER HAS HAPPENED IS OF YOUR OWN CHOOSING' and you have the power to choose and create your PRESENT and your FUTURE as you wish it to be💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  In life, it's always a CHOICE and if you want to ask HOW will you know it?  Try it for yourself.  Get to the edge and precipice of things and if you need to cross the bridge, so be it.  It's true that the threat of NEGATIVITY is very much embedded within us and it constantly threatens us BUT DON'T let it overpower you because it is you now seated behind the steering wheel and you have to steer yourself towards the path forward.  Nothing should stop you.  NOT even your NEGATIVE mindset because IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE❗❗❗