Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?

Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?

Are You The Straw That Stirs The Drink?  No sirrrrrs, we're NOT pushing hard for you to constantly stand out there in that mammoth crowd.  Instead, we'd like to see you being an active party in a discussion but, like a pro boxer, stepping in to unleash a jab and stepping out to avoid a counter jab.  In conversations, however, there is a common recurring trap and those are the questions thrown on you till you get caught 'flat footed'.  So, will you answer all questions thrown to you?  No sirrrrrrs, not at all.  Fact is, DON'T feel obliged to answer every question even if you are either NOT in a position or you feel to be the wrong respondent📌📌📌

So, what do you do next?  Either IGNORE that misplaced question OR ask a question in return.  You need not be non-commital if you would say you'll be responding to it but would like to validate your understanding [of the question].  And if the question is NOT that crystal-clear, request to have it clarified.  In the basic protocols, when a person asks a question, normal social rules say that the questioned person must answer the question⏳⏳⏳

Be cautious though because if you DON'T answer the question, the other person becomes confused not only you do something to tweak the roles.  Besides being reactive, you can actively join the communications by wiggling yourself out of a [pestering or annoying] queston and instead, you start initiating a topic/discussion.  From a POINT to INTERRIPT to and to start a new conversation. this is the BEST WAY OUT [besides interrupting].  

So, here you go, you could be GAME-CHANGER.  And that is often a goodth thing to do when the discussion is flagging and people are beginning to repeat themselves.  And changing the topic is an ACT of CONTROL in a conversation and thus positions you in a position of relative power.  Initiating a new topic is an ACT of CONTROL and thus positions you well in the ongoing discussion.  As the initiator, changing the subject is an ACT of CONTROL in a conversation

So WHAT and HOW do we haggle here ON BEHALF possible collateral damages?  That you are much better off than you really are. So, what benefit do we get out of this aggressive & proactive stance?  First off, we get recognized that you will be able to soluve the crisis but even before going into that, allow me to temper your curiosity, if any.  Instead, you DON'T need to grab the microphone.  You just DON'T want to 'gate-crash' the party and end up as the spoler.  Endeavor to be the STRAW THAT STIRS THE DRINK✅✅✅