Where's your ANCHOR IN LIFE?

 

Quick question.  Do we need an ANCHOR IN LIFE?  Yesireee, absolutely, we need an ANCHOR IN LIFE.   So, my next question is:  Where's your ANCHOR IN LIFE?  BUT before we delve into that, let's step back and agree that CHANGE is constant.  Because life is about enduring CHANGE, regardless WHETHER it's positive OR negative, large OR small, simple OR complex.  WHY?  Because we manage CHANGE by finding ANCHORS in our lives, solid and unchanging things we can cling to for stability.  BTW, WHO wants stability?  OR WHO needs stability?  Surely, the answer is so obvious we should NOT even retort, right???

Just a quick rundown of the most obvious things in our life.  Our most common ANCHORS in life are:  Firstly, people OR relationships such as our family OR our most trusted coterie of friends.  Secondly, there's our career, WHETHER that means having our own business or we're in a workplace OR we are in our vocation OR calling.  Thirdly, our hobbies, you just CAN'T take it away from the equation of our ANCHORS in life💚💛💜

LIKE a ship anchoring amidst unpredictable tides, an ANCHOR is a dependable constant in our life to hang unto as we integrate changing aspects.  Oh YES, most of the time, when CHANGE happens, CHANGE works.  BUT WHAT happens WHEN the CHANGE happens around one of the ANCHORS themselves?  The more unexpected the CHANGE is around a s significant pillar of your life, the more difficult it is to process.  And the more the pillar is associated with one's identity, the more an unexpected CHANGE triggers crises of identity and meaning.  I've witnessed lives that were like 'picture perfect' until one gets hit with a tragedy and things would turn upside down💥💥💥

Without breaching privacy and confidentiality, I did see lives going from perfect to chaos no less.  WHEN an accident took away the life of a loved one and a lifetime forward.  WHAT happens next is WHEN the bereaved person goes back home, it becomes a 'prison of memories' triggering intense trauma.  As a ripple effect, I have seen the deepest friendships falling apart, all because of that unexpected loss and grief😖😖😖

Our takeaway:  After all my travails in life, I realized that ANCHORING outside makes us dependent on an 'outside event', and all of it is 'out of control'.  The only thing dependable is our journey with our own self.  ANCHORING inside is an enriching, interesting and sustainable way to experience life itself.  And my best lesson through the years is that the less I was ANCHORING externally, the freer I am.  That internal ANCHOR is something that is part of you yourself.  That way, you know WHERE'S YOUR ANCHOR IN LIFE???