When GOOD Intentions Are NOT Enough
Does this sound familiar? When we uttered YES a zillion times when we were prodded to do or perform something. Fast forward, how was it? If I may guess, those zillion YES replies all got stalled. So, what's our issue here? It is WHEN GOOD INTENTIONS ARE NOT ENOUGH that's becoming a challenge for us, even in the most sublime and seemingly mundane fashion. But c'mon, we got to take this seriously⏳⏳⏳
Thing is, good intentions are just NOT enough. We usually expect our gifts and help to strengthen our relationships with our recipients. But that doesn't always happen. Indeed, givers are sometimes taken aback when recipients respond negatively. They often think of things like: I WAS ONLY TRYING TO HELP or WHY DO THEY RESENT ME WHEN I'VE BEEN SO GOOD TO THEM'. Back at work, have you ever worked so hard at something that the more you tried, the harder the task became and the further away your goal seemed to get? In the shortest words, ONE STEP FORWARD, TWO STEPS BACKWARD. Ironically, the same way that fear brings to pass what one is afraid of, likewise a forced intention makes impossible what one may forcibly wish forπππLet's go back to our work scenarios. Our jobs are always MORE THAN OUR JOBS. They represent relationships between us and others within the workplace. And that even extends to our customers. All these relationships weave together through our work, they all have their meanings, both individually and collectively. When we focus too intently on the outcome, these relationships may sufferπππMeaning is then found in our awareness of the MOMENT and when we get too far from the MOMENT we start to lose our effectiveness. Even when the stakes are high and our success is essential, , focusing on the results rather than the process can actually get in the way of a successful outcome. We all know how it works. The higher the expectations are, the more disconnected we are from the actual accomplishment of it and the less able we are to participate when it unfolds✅✅✅To quote Victor Frankl, a well respected psychiatrist, "OUR GOOD INTENTIONS ACTUALLY BECOME THE CAUSE OF OUR FAILURE". When a specific success is so fervently sought that we tend to overlook and neglect the relationships that are an integral part of the process, we lay the seeds for something to go wrong. In the end, we seem to fly in the face of our own success. Really, When Intentions Are Not Enough❗❗❗