Can We FIX Ourselves First?

 

Let's LOOK and [maybe] LURK around.  There are one too many things to FIX.  Let's NOT go farther.  Simply ask your local politician.  They have a laundry list of things to FIX in your local district.  NOT to besmirch politicians because there remains a big chunk of well-meaning ones, BUT I have to vent out my 2-cents that in quite a number of Third World countries, there is a huge overflow of local politicians WHO see in themselves as the #1 "MR FIX's" option in their locality.  BUT no dude, we won't get into these politicians but instead, let us focus on our private lives, WHERE we are, as a "MR FIX"💚💛💜

If there is a huge problem at hand, sometimes [and probably many times for others], it is just too tempting to dip our hands into the cookie jars of someone else to FIX that other person's issues or even him/herself.  BUT the much bigger problem here is that it implies that someone is indeed broken and needs to be FIXED??? BUT alas, the bigger question is this:  WHY do we succumb [sometimes faster than the speed of sound] to attempt FIXING others before we should have realized that, of all things, we've got to prioritize FIXING ourselves first?  YES, I totally agree that that urge to FIX someone else and changing someone for the better might sound like the heroic thing to do!@#$%?

NOT to douse cold water even with those best intentions, in multiple researches, results showed that this kind of approach does MORE HARM THAN GOOD.  NOW, please DON'T get us wrong here because in truth, WHILE many fall into this pattern for a variety of deeply human reasons, sometimes deeply rooted in empathy, love and even past experiences.  And it's a fact that some folks may have been raised in environments WHERE they were oriented and probably 'conditioned' to be 'rescuers' of sorts.  LIKE someone WHO grew up being a caregiver [NOT by choice] to a sick family members.  Surely along the way, he will  develop that 'rescuer' mindset😂😂😂

NOW, can we turn things around?  Instead of banking and nursing on the hope that a person will eventually become 'better' with your helping hand, ISN'T it much more worthwhile to shift the focus back to our very own self?  WHAT could be more saddening if someone tends to focus on someone's woes more to deflect from his/her own struggles, ouch!@#$%?  OR maybe we're kind of chasing that 'sweet' validation that comes with miraculously unlocking a struggling person's potentials?  True, we all run in situations WHERE someone close to us is struggling.  Maybe they're nursing a broken heart over a recent breakup?  OR they've lost their job?  OR maybe they're dealing with anxiety OR depression.  The reality is that life can get messy and that can happen to us anytime, no exceptions!!!

Our takeaway:  Nothing wrong for us to get into a "FIX IT" mode, showing up youre supportive and much as likely, you could mean well, be super-duper conscious that you DON'T take it way too far, in the end sacrificing oneself and your own level of happiness, all because you are so embroiled in your sincere attempt to fix someone else's situation.  As the old cliche goes, before you look across the whole forest, ensure you have a good appreciation of the tree right in your face, and that could be your own woes, your own struggles dude.  So, CAN WE FIX OURSELVES FIRST dude???