How To Be Better At It

 

Take your pick:  ALL OR NOTHING?  Presto, I'm sure we will all pick "ALL" simply because NO one wants "NOTHING".  Problem here is that that "ALL OR NOTHING" thinking can impede our own motivation to improve ourselves, our skills, our capabilities.  Heard these one-liners many times.  I'm NOT GOOD AT THAT.  I'm a math flunker.  I'm NOT athletic.  I DON'T have that glib to interact with people.  NOW, we're NOT implying that those statements are false because very likely, WHOEVER said it, they said it truthfully with NO slightest deception📗📙📘

WHAT is really one of the obvious truths is that people hold strong beliefs around WHAT they are and are NOT good at.  Furthermore, in many areas in our respective lives, people tend to view themselves through the lens of categorical extremes.  LIKE they are either all good OR all bad at something rather than somewhere in the middle.  Allow me to borrow this psychology jargon called "COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY" a.k.a. CBT wherein we call exaggerated thought processes like these cognitive distortions, the term used to refer to common 'thinking errors'📌📌📌

To be specific, that 'ERROR' of seeing things in a 'black OR white' manner rather than in shades of gray is a classic example of that 'cognitive distortion' called "ALL OR NOTHING' thinking.  The problem with this 'ALL OR NOTHING' thinking NOT only [wrongly] influences our core beliefs we hold about our personal beliefs BUT according to experts, it tends to exert a powerful effect on the explanations we give for HOW there can be such large differences in our abilities💥💥💥

As that old story goes, some people have GOT IT and some DON'T.  THAT we are born with certain strengths and weaknesses that predispose us toward certain pursuits, which means, veering away from the activities, hobbies and occupations we WEREN'T made for, so we should discover WHAT we are naturally good at and probably even uncover our possible potentials hitherto untapped and unrecognized [yet]❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Listen dude, our life is a bit like going on a treasure hunt, looking for clues on the map that will point us to the right direction, then sometimes getting lost [and worse stuck in dead ends] over and over again, even as our hopes and optimism seem to flicker and wane until one day, BOOM, that sound of our shovel clanging against a metal, then we finally stumble on WHAT we're searching in our treasure hunt.  BUT until we hit paydirt, WHAT better way to be 'BETTER' than to re-do, re-try over and over again, hoping we never give up along the way😊😊😊