Living In A TOXIC Environment?

 

WHO wants to live in the midst of a TOXIC environment?  Of course, no one wants, regardless if it's at home, at the workplace OR in any of the communities we live in.  There is NO sure-fire solution for us to survive a TOXIC environment BUT experts counsel in unison that, first and foremost, we got to develop that SELF-AWARENESS, knowing your own self so that you DON'T take on other people's insecurities and projections.  And YES, the subtle trouble with living with someone WHO may seem manipulative and hurtful is that IF you listen to them that long enough, before you know it, you would have internalized and embedded their own opinions and even criticisms, ouch.  WHAT happens next, even their own harsh words may become your very own inner voice and that's self-inflicting📗📙📘

WHILE it's a given that we are all humanly flawed and even making mistakes may happen more often than we want it to be, experts advise us to believe in our own innate goodness and learn to accept our own self, regardless if it's our good OR our bad qualities.  And it helps to tune other people out by consistently grounding our own self in the knowledge of WHO we are and WHAT our own GOD has made you for HIMSELF.  And WHEN that moment comes WHEN you end up spending time with someone critical and/or manipulative, let us avoid letting them drag us into matters that may trigger us, dragging us.  And I remember reminding myself several times in the past that I am NOT required to participate in anything I choose NOT to.  Experts coined that as DETACHMENT, LIKE steering clear of subjects that may potentially evoke strong and intense feelings, and WHEN your judgment call comes, choose to walk away if you potentially feel that you may get triggered and drawn to💚💛💜

And one key lesson I did learn the 'hard way' in the past is one WHICH I consider as one of the most essential steps to recover and move on in life and that's ACCEPTANCE.  That word itself even WHEN translated into concrete action is tough LIKE that 'emotionally manipulative person' for WHO they are, LIKE your past for WHAT it was, and the relationship for WHAT it is.  As they say, as long as we keep wishing and hoping for any of these to be different, we may end up trapped that keeps us chained💥💥💥

OH YES, one very 'open secret' I've openly practised is journalling.  Journalling my own thoughts and feelings [especially in those struggling times], getting them out all either in hardcopy or e-Notes just makes sense did translate to put my own jumbled thoughts on paper and lately even on e-Notes.  End-result?  I detected the ominous patterns shaping up and in effect, it guided me as to HOW can I start behaving in a way that will help me regain control, and at times in the past, it even helped me to do either a soft reset OR even a hard reboot.  I CAN'T imagine things if I never had that wiggle room to extricate myself out from those quagmires hitting me from time to time❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  TOXIC environments come in various forms and shapes.  LIKE you feel stressed and yet, still forcing yourself to work despite the fatigue you feel.  OR WHEN you feel undervalued OR NOT that appreciated enough by people around you [either at home OR @workplace] despite all the efforts you have exerted to date towards your self-improvements and worse, at times, you might feel NO ONE wants to acknowledge your achievements.  All these leading your discomfort and tiredness?  Let's go back to basics dude, reinforcing our SELF-AWARENESS way before we can consider ACCEPTANCE as a way out.  YES, it's tough if we end up living in a TOXIC environment dude😡😡😡