Does Knowing What We Don't Want Matters?

 

Does KNOWING WHAT WE DON'T WANT really makes sense?  YES we normally know that we want something in our life to be different even if the specific thing we want to change ISN'T quite clear enough.  At times, it happens WHEN we experience feelings of dissatisfaction OR even an all-consuming sense of despair.  it feels like there's something [OR a lot of things] left unsatisfied and it may be sometimes overwhelming to think about.  OR maybe sometimes we seem to be fed up with those prolonged feelings of sadness, exhausted by experiences with anxiety throughout our day OR sometimes straight up done with always feeling angry OR at least frustrated with our own self OR at times, with anyone💚💛💜

Being smart persons [most of the time anyways], at times we could have found ways distract from our own despair.  True, those tactics [call it workaround] do help us avoid those feelings of distress for a period of time.  The downside of that is that that distraction DOESN'T last forever and in the end, we are faced with a deep longing for something more permanent to change itself.  As unlikely as it may sound, it is necessary for us to be, as our feelings are giving us that loud and clear message we need something better💥💥💥

WHAT is not so obvious on the surface is the fact that our feelings go hand-in-hand with particular kinds of actions.  WHEN we're happy and excited about life, we're probably NOT spending the days hiding under the covers and wishing things were different.  And as responsive beings, we DON'T just have feelings about the things we experience BUT we also have feelings about our responses to those things.  Sometimes, I myself would blurt out "I'm tired of feeling this way"  and I realized that that also implicitly meant that I was tired of behaving the ways that correspond with HOW I'm feeling then❎❎❎

We DON'T need to look too far away from WHERE we stand now.  At times, we may tend to be sick of binge eating OR drinking excessively OR worst, even succumbing to drugs to escape the reality we're going through.  We could be fed up with procrastinating on the things we think we should be doing.  OR perhaps we just DON'T have the energy to argue with our partner OR spouse any much longer.  Though all these may seem to be concerning, psychologists warn us that these manifestations and behaviors do offer a stepping stone towards something that feels better.  BUT the complexity of life lies within.  WHETHER it's feelings, behaviours OR a combination of both that we may feel ready to address, we tend to know that we want to see a real change.  And yet, sometimes, we're confused WHERE to start😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  I can quickly recall in the past WHEN sometimes I felt frustrated because there were times WHEN I tend to be focusing my attention on WHAT I DON'T want.  Looking back, someone in our life could have counseled us that the kind of focus can undermine our ability to bring our own goals to life.  WHAT happens next?  We tend to worry that we're going to be stuck in that place of despair forever?  BUT contrary to that perspective, realizing WHAT you DON'T want is a worthy endeavor because KNOWING WHAT WE DON'T WANT MATTERS!!!