The Weight Of REGRETS

 

Believe it OR NOT, The WEIGHT OF REGRETS takes its toll on us, sometimes compartmentalized [like hitting our mental OR physical health] and worst, it hits hard the very core of our lives.  Having said this life is too short to carry the WEIGHT OF REGRETS.  BUT the harsh reality is that, Numero Uno, we all make and made mistakes in life.  WHO does NOT and did NOT?  WHETHER it's NOT pursuing your dream career [YES, I ended up NOT in my dream career BUT I've let that dream career just as that, as another footnote], missing out on a trip of a lifetime OR wishing you had been able to say that final goodbye to a dying loved one, REGRETS can be truly damn hard to move on from📗📙📘

BUT let's call a spade a spade here.  REGRETS and disappointments are a burden as they hold us back mentally and even emotionally.  In the end, that keeps us stuck in the past.  And WHILE we may NOT be consciously aware of them, our REGRETS can be a real heavy weight, and WHO knows, we can end up associating with that emotional weight with any physical weight we may be carrying.  And the truth is, it will be real difficult to feel lighter so long as our 'lost dreams OR aspirations' translated into past REGRETS continue to loom❌❌❌

BUT studies over time have shown that as long we are unable to address the emotional weight of a mistake OR a disappointment, NO amount of physical weight loss can give us that much deeper experience of lightness we deserve after all.  BUT here's the silver lining we deserve.  Sometimes, we do make the right choice.  And then, sometimes we then spend the next months OR even years dealing with REGRET.  Maybe it's because of a missed opportunity OR a hasty decision [maybe decisions either rushed OR uninformted decisions] that continues to gnaw at you.  YES, that can leave you feeling more than just down BUT even angry on yourself and in the end, empty.  BUT please DON'T get me wrong.  It's NOT only you ruminating over past decisions.  All of us do it at some points in our times.  We may feel as if we're stuck in a loop of 'SHOULD HAVES' and "WHAT IFs".  BUT IF we can travel through those negative emotions by learning HOW to deal with REGRET and moving forward💥💥💥

Truth is, even the best and the brightest made and continue to commit mistakes even now.  And REGRET is an inescapable  part of our human experience.  It is a universal, albeit uncomfortable, teacher.  YES, it DOESN'T mean you WON'T be happy again BUT somehow that reminds us of the sheer power of our choices.  And WHILE it can feel relentless, truth is, REGRET usually fades over time✅✅✅

Our takeaway:  One observation I did witness at times is that we can be REGRET-aversive and that means, PLAYING SAFE, making choices and decisions designed to sidestep future feelings of REGRET.  And that means, fear of feeling negative emotions, like awkwardness OR sadness, WHICH can steer your decisions.  Knowing that feeling REGRET is likely and preparing yourself for it might lead to making necessary choices that at times yield better outcomes [and mitigating that risk of REGRETS]😀😀😀