NO Confidence? NO Problem!

NO Confidence?  NO Problem!

NO Confidence?  NO Problem!  Not too long ago, if you DON'T have that confidence within you, that's it, you're DONE, you're SCRATCHED, you're marked 'X'.  BUT that was the old school of thought.  Today, that DOESN'T hold water at all.  BUT let's align and accept on some GIVENs.  Building SELF-CONFIDENCE is NO mean feat.  It is NOT that easy OR simple.  Although some people appear to be so naturally CONFIDENT, most of us struggle with feeling CONFIDENT in our appearance, our abilities OR in any facet of our life📗📙📘

Regardless, it is essential to recognize WHEN and IF this situation is manifesting OR already happening because it has to be 'ACTIONED'.  Low CONFIDENCE can harm our happiness and well-being, one of those being a decrease in one's self-esteem.  Surprisingly, low SELF-CONFIDENCE could be manifesting even WHEN you feel like you CANNOT do the things you want OR need to do.  WHETHER you dream of travelling OR the world, achieving your dream career, finding a loving relationship OR going back to school💥💥💥

In any of these personal aspirations, LOW SELF-CONFIDENCE can get in the way of achieving these goals and aspirations.  If you frequently underestimate your ability to make your desires come true, that feeling of inadequacy likely stems from issues revolving around confidence.  Problem is, sometimes, these feelings manifest in ways that make us feel like NO matter how hard we try.  We will NEVER be good enough.  BUT there are some ways to counter any of these NEGATIVE feelings or manifestations.  Experts in psychology advise us of COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL therapy which is a form of retraining our thoughts and replacing the NEGATIVE thoughts with POSITIVE ones💦💦💦

Concrete example is WHEN you feel like you should NOT go on a social outing because you will make things awkward, replace that thought with something along the lines of "I AM A VALUABLE AND INTERESTING PERSON AND MY FRIENDS ARE EXCITED FOR ME TO GO WITH THEM".  The idea is, the more we catch these thoughts and correct them, the more our mind will automatically gravitate toward them in the future.  And how's this.  HOW often you feel worried as to WHAT other people will think of you?  True, we CAN'T always please everyone all the time.  It is that implausible that you will go through life and NOT meet at least one person who does NOT get along with you, that scenario is beyond impossible❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  It is harmful to place our worth on WHAT other people think of us.  A sign of low CONFIDENCE is if you care more about WHAT outside people think of you than WHAT you care more about WHAT you know and think of yourself.  Sadly, this way of thinking can lead to other problems such as anxiety and the need to change yourself to suit different people's expectations.  WHAT we need to realize is that if you DON'T have CONFIDENCE, NO problem😁😁😁