The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!!

The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!!

The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It!!! Yow Yow Yow, I have to take back everything in the past WHEN I said that the GRASS IS GREENER AT THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE.  Nope Nope Nope.  Logic, reason and basic commonsense tells us the other way around [ON ONE CONDITION though].  As long as you do water your own grass.  YES, with life getting tighter, the world giving us challenges, it is only natural to reflect on the relationships in our lives [and NOT JUST romantic relationships] BUT on all our life-nurturing connections

To quote American author David Wolfe, SOMETIMES THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE BECAUSE IT'S FAKE.  Oh Oh, Oh, that CAN'T be farther from the truth.  Even as we are concerned in repairing and even strengthening our connections with others, it is appropriate for us to realize those few things in life that impact the quality of our lives more than the health of our relationships.  As to WHY the GRASS IS GREENER WHERE WE WATER IT, the wisdom of this saying is that we are wise NOT to focus on finding GREENER pastures somewhere else BUT instead, let us nurture and grow the vitality of the relationships we already have in life

That wisdom applies to caring to all areas of our lives, and even our spiritual lives, the work we do in this world, caring for our bodies, our health AS IF they are our actual gardens.  Like a garden, all relationships require regular watering and even attention.  NOW let's pull the brakes for a bit and align as to HOW do we really WATER our very own GRASS.  The lowest hanging fruit has always been to show REGULAR appreciation for and the people we care about.  Ooooops, please note I intentionally typed REGULAR in upper case.  WHY?  Because there are many instances of FLASHES IN THE PAN where you blurt out niceties literally ONCE IN A BLUE MOON!@#$%?

Coming close to the heels of APPRECIATING our relationships is to earnestly STRENGTHEN our connection by being BETTER listeners.  HOW many times were you doing your CAR WASH and as your wife is blurting at the background, you kind of shove her off by just reacting LATER LATER, I'M BUSY.  Or if your spouse/partner is tossing up an idea OR suggestion, even before the sentence gets completed, you tend to SHUT IT OFF, shrugging off your shoulder like IT'S MY WAY OR NO WAY???

Our takeaway:  Learning my own lessons [the HARD WAY] from the past, NEVER NEVER NEVER miss out the FUN part of our relationships.  If you take on your relationship as an obligation, a contractual one in fact [no thanks to the marriage contract], NOT to sound like Nostradamus BUT very likely that relationship will be doomed in the long haul.  Even psychologists have chimed in, claiming that 'PLAYING IS NOT JUST A NICE EXTRA' in a relationship BUT it is essential in keeping relationships energized, sizzling and NOT losing the momentum for that matter.  A closer synonym for PLAY is RECREATION and the psychologists encourages us to think of "RE-CREATION" because every relationship we have created in our lives will benefit from intentional times of RE-CREATION and RECONNECTING.  YES YES yoW, THE GRASS IS GREENER WHERE YOU WATER IT❗❗❗