Why Life Gets MISERABLE?

Why Life Gets MISERABLE?

Why Life Gets MISERABLE? Good question folks.  Many studies tell us that a big chunk of factors that make our life MISERABLE is our very own selves.  And there are three [3] theories that precisely describe the nature of man.  A lot of people believe that if someone behaves a particular way, it is because they were conditioned like that.  Those theories related to genetics, psychic and even environmental.  For genetics, let's say you have a 'HIGH TEMPER', people will assume that it's in your DNA.  My gosh, since your grandparents were like that, you inherited being short-tempered💴💷💵

On the other hand, PSYCHIC reasons explain that one's childhood experiences have shaped your entire adult life and that your UPBRINGING was done in such a way that you are now afraid to be in large groups and that you CAN'T afford to make mistakes, else you would feel terribly guilty about it.  The third one related to ENVIRONMENTAL says that the ENVIRONMENT is the reason why you behave that way like, 'THAT BRATTY TEEN DID THIS TO ME' or 'MY MEAN BOSS DID THIS TO ME' or 'MY SPOUSE DID THIS TO ME'📗📙📘

Studies show that while we humans are reactive, WE CAN CHOOSE NOT TO.  A subject of a research had a history of torture as a Jew during World War II so obviously, he could NOT do anything about what happened to him in the past BUT he could change the way he perceived and responded to his surroundings.  He had the freedom to choose his response.  BUT when he realized that he could choose NOT to be miserable, everything changed.  BUT that required a hell lot of strength💎💎💎

That experience made people realize the fundamental nature of a man.  THAT between stimulus and response, man has the FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.  And that's WHAT makes us PROACTIVE.  Humans are different from animals because they can choose their response to circumstances.   They can choose to take RESPONSIBILITY [or NOT]❌❌❌

As humans have independent will and self-awareness, we can use our imagination to create things beyond reality.  We have that CONSCIENCE that guides us through what is RIGHT versus WRONG.  Of course, NO one is saying that it's easy.  Becoming PROACTIVE is the hardest thing to do WHEN you have been conditioned to REACT [and worse, BLAME or CRITICIZE your grandparents, parents or the environment].  BUT there is always that possibility for us to REPROGRAM ourselves.  Sadly, a lot of people are playing the 'BLAME GAME', like 'YOU AND I DID THAT, and THAT'S THE REASON FOR OUR MISERY'.  So, WHY LIFE GETS MISERABLE❓❓❓