Yes, We Need Our VULNERABILITY Too

 

Many of us [and I'm many times guilty of it in the past] fear and/or loathe VULNERABILITY.  I would openly admit that I both feared and loathed VULNERABILITY countless times in the past, [wrongly] thinking that it was my nemesis.  Lo and behold, after repeating the same mistaken loatheness many times in the past, I was shocked with my own self WHEN I did a 180-degree turn, NOT only to look favorably at my own VULNERABILITY but to embrace it unconditionally as I recognized my ANCHORS IN LIFE in those moments📗📙📘

BUT for now, please lend me your ears.  DIDN'T you gain so much during your VULNERABILITIES?  Especially WHEN you recognized your ANCHORS IN LIFE?  Sadly, the vicious cycle of life brings us to the top of the world, WHEN we have all the material things, all the successes, name it, leading us at times 'intoxicated' [figuratively IF NOT literally] for all those blessings heaped upon us.  NOT until we stumble and fall flat on our face, then we realized our VULNERABILITY until at some point, our yet incognito ANCHOR IN LIFE comes to literally rescue us.  Sounds like a corny stereo-type kind of script BUT let's admit it, this sort of corny narrative is most common to hear💧💧💧

Let's recall those times after we went over a hump, hurdling a challenge. WHAT would we hear often?  I REALLY APPRECIATE THE SUPPORT.  Yes, most of the time, people just want to feel heard and understood [and NOT bombarded with fixes and fault-finding].  Offering genuine emotional support and truly listening and respecting boundaries, and guarding someone's trust AS IF it were his own are WHAT make people realize that they found their ANCHOR IN LIFE💚💛💜

Allow me to ask this sensitive question:  Does VULNERABILITY improve our relationships?  I think so.  SO HOW?  WHEN we're vulnerable, DIDN'T we find our hitherto unknown greater strengths?  OR improved self-acceptance? All leading towards reinforcing relationships?  As VULNERABILITY is a state of emotional exposure that comes with a degree of uncertainty, it behooves that we learn HOW to be VULNERABLE that comes along with our willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved.  And WHILE VULNERABILITY is a very common fear, once we understand that central emotional challenge, experts opine that we can develop a deeper appreciation WHY VULNERABILITY is worth the effort💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Let's NOT debate on this, that our VULNERABILITY allows us to foster deeper relationships and even greater acceptance BUT again, let's temper expectations by admitting that it's always easy.  My personal sharing here is that it was a tough grind spanning rough patches of the long roads as it entails our own selves to talk and admit our own mistakes, being honest with our needs and most importantly, being remorseful and committed to turn a NEW LEAF come NEXT DAY.  Otherwise, NOT to scare you dude, knock on wood, you might end up in that scary VULNERABILITY LOOP.  Oh No😡😡😡