Can Our Life Be EASIER? Seriously?

 

WHO wants an EASY LIFE?  Me Me Me!  Of course, WHO won't want it, right?  BUT please DON'T get me wrong.  I'm all for doing things in the most straightforward and simplest way possible, however, believing that life should be inherently EASY and that straightforward is often a 'FAST PASS' to dissatisfaction, anger OR even depression, huhuhu.  True, sometimes, things will come easily on us, like suddenly you hit the top LOTTO prize, wow, manna from heaven falling right on your lap📗📙📘

YES YES yow, it is that important for us to enjoy parts of our life WHEN things that seem to slot into place at the perfect time at that.  However, here's the thing.  WHEN people start to assume that things should come EASILY and believe at some level that the core aspects of life such as relationships and work should generally be plain sailing, it often leads to feeling cheated.  Also, it can feel AS IF there is something wrong with you [OR moi] if ever we find certain parts of life challenging while other people seem to be just sailing through.  The trap here is that finding things difficult can somehow become a fault OR worse, even a character defect [as WHAT psychologists opine]💧💧💧

Understandably, this often leads to people giving up OR can contribute to a perpetual sense of failure.  Relationships end because they feel OR seem to be 'too difficult' WHILE careers suddenly get cut short WHEN it gets too hard especially during those economic turmoils when companies would downsize for survival.  Worst thing, heard of those perennial family rifts?  They can linger on and on, unresolved, going unmended💥💥💥

Experts say that we sometimes feel that life should be EASY is that we compare ourselves to other people and tend to compare our 'INSIDES' to the OUTSIDES' of other people.  If other people seem to find things EASY, we would tend to assume that we should too.  BUT as with most beliefs in our adulthood, they often stem from our childhood experiences.  Having a sheltered childhood, cloistered in the confines of cushy homes that involved a lack of adversity in adulthood it feels unfamiliar and frankly, intolerable.  On the other hand, having a childhoo of emotional OR practical hardship can leave us exhausted and can create a sense of wanting❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  Telling yourself HOW things should be is one of the 'quickest' routes to distress.  Believing that even relationships, outcomes, feelings, people, careers and even events should be a 'certain way' is one of the reasons WHY it becomes a road block WHEN you end up finding something challenging.  Having a mindset that things SHOULD and SHOULDN'T be a certain way becomes the very problem at hand.  By changing our 'SHOULD BE' mindset, experts advise that we can likely lessen the impact WHEN something is more challenging than you thought it should [OR would] be.  So, CAN OUR LIFE BE EASIER?  Seriously, that's a question you can answer best😗😗😗