Cheering, CHECK! Yelling is 'X''

 

Mr AI says that CHEERING in life encompasses both encouraging others and finding ways to uplift yourself [especially during challenging times].  BUT no sirrrrrrs, we WON'T spend time about CHEERING but slightly veer to that loud and rowdy YELLINGS we sometimes bear witness in our interactions.  It's true at some point in our life, we did end up YELLING BUT I believe everyone will agree that YELLING is NOT healthy for any relationship NOR is it a great way to yield any healthy OR productive results.  Good grief, psychologists advise that there are 'cheat codes' we can consider.  LIKE WHEN someone is YELLING, we should stay calm during that moment BUT it's more than that📗📙📘

Experts tell us that WHEN someone is YELLING, they are manifesting an attempt to emotionally rule over you with the end intent of gaining the upper hand in a situation.  In short, YELLING is their means to gain control over you.  In one word, it is intimidation no less.  BUT you might wonder WHY many end up that way?  It's because it yields results for them BUT only in the short-term though💥💥💥

Experts advise us to consider two critical points WHEN someone is YELLING on us:

• Understand the reason behind it
• Be cautious HOW you react to it

One misstep, and that could ignite a bigger fire than WHAT you have at hand WHILE the right approach can help to diffuse things, rather end up escalating the situation❌❌❌

BUT the bigger question is, HOW sure we're NOT escalating things?  Let's pick the brains of experts:

• DON'T mirror that rude behavior of others.  Let's learn the art remaining calm.  IF we react, surely they will react to our reaction and things will likely escalate
• Take a STEP BACK.  Pausing allows us to assess and figure out WHETHER it's worth waiting out that yeller
• DON'T as in DON'T AGREE WHEN you are YELLED.  Doing so means you succumbed to that YELLING
• Regardless of the situation OR problem, let the person know that you will NEVER accept being YELLED
• TAKE A BREAK to collect yourself and that's it

Our takeaway:  Sometimes, pausing can be challenging in a world WHERE things move so fast around us.  HOW I did it sometime in the past.  In those tense and stressful times, WHAT I'll do was scribble things out in a piece of paper as I thought that writing did provide me a distance between myself and my emotions.  Just a few of degrees of separation can be extremely beneficial to our mental health.  And that distance will provide us the opportunity to consider the emotion rather than acting on it immediately.  It also allows us to express ourselves safely without feeling the repercussions OR consequences.  Bottom line, if you're at the receiving end of YELLING, just DON'T stoop down to that very 'gutter level' dude😡😡😡