Control LESS, Move Forward MORE!

Control LESS, Move Forward MORE!

Has anyone been into that situation WHEREIN anything you touch seems to crumble?  YES, donkey years ago, I had given it my all, name it, late nights, relentless planning, endless cups of coffee.  YET, the more I tried to control myself during those times, the more I felt stalled and stagnant.  Control LESS, Move Forward MORE!  True, many of us [and that includes me sometime in the distant past] are OR were CONTROL FREAKS.  BUT NOT to defend the guilty, feeling the need to be in CONTROL is natural.  It is WHEN we try to CONTROL everything that we create unnecessary stress and anxiety that can hold us back.  It's important to realize that we can never control everything.  Trying to do that would lead us to many negative emotions WHEN things DON'T go exactly HOW we try to force them📘📙📗

BUT let's admit it, letting go of CONTROL ISN'T always that easy.  In fact, it's damn tough especially when we face uncertainties in life.  BUT let's get to the bottom of things, that letting go of CONTROL can actually help bring a greater sense of peace.  Add on to that, releasing the things you truly CAN'T CONTROL can give you more time and energy to focus on the things that you can.  My analogy here is in the corporate world.  WHY did BPO services sprout?  It's because companies want to focus and CONTROL operations of their core business💥💥💥

So, this question still bothers me.  WHY do we need the feel to CONTROL?  Thing is, the desire to be able to CONTROL our surroundings and circumstances is ingrained into our consciousness.  This is because the more we know about our world, the safer we feel.  On the other hand, the less we know, the more scared we feel.  The need to CONTROL is directly rooted in fear, specifically that FEAR of WHAT might happen outside our CONTROL.  Digging up for the possible root causes of this CONTROL freakiness, anxiety and past trauma are common causes.  People WHO experience anxiety often have a very difficult time tolerating uncertainty.  They may worry more about future events and ruminate over situations they cannot CONTROL💦💦💦

Psychologists even advise us that sheer attempts to CONTROL does negatively, affect our lives.  It may be natural to want to CONTROL things BUT that DOESN'T make it healthy.  In fact, their studies show that there are many ways in which trying to CONTROL everything could, in the end, backfire in the long run.  Their studies showed that people WHO try to CONTROL everything may even experience more stress and anxiety than those WHO DON'T.  People tend to feel more upset WHEN they feel like they cannot CONTROL the sources of stress in their life.  However, it is the perception of CONTROL that has a major effect on HOW people respond to aversive situations.  That becomes the acid test we need to hurdle😊😊😊

Our takeaway:  Let's put things this way.  Many times in our life, we end up dissatisfied because of our feeling for that need to CONTROL and NOT having it, we end up dissatisfied.  Perceived CONTROL can play an important role in overall happiness.  People WHO have high levels of perceived CONTROL can play an important role  in one's overall happiness.  Because there is NO way to CONTROL everything in life, caring too much about HOW things outside your CONTROL are going can lead to increased criticism about everything that happens.  After all, WHEN you DON'T CONTROL the outcomes you want to, it makes sense that you DON'T like them.  In turn, being more critical can make us more neurotic, leading us to that unending and spiraling cycle in WHICH we get progressively unhappier with our lives.  Can we CONTROL LESS, and MOVE FORWARD MORE❗❗❗