Let People Be WHO They Are

Let People Be WHO They Are

Awhile ago, I was streaming the Netflix docu on Aaron Hernandez, the recognized NFL Patriots football player whose star just skyrocketed.  As much tragedy that docu ended, the human side of things showed us that he had a girlfriend and a daughter.  BUT apparently, that is NOT the end of the story because WHAT unfolded in the docu was his sexuality hitherto even his girlfriend was unaware of.  Indeed, Let People Be WHO They Are📗📙📘

Alas, the men he got entangled in those 'gay' relationships WEREN'T even aware at those times that they were in such relationships.  BUT in unison, they quipped, LET PEOPLE BE WHO THEY ARE'.  In life, we may have partners OR spouses BUT we will realize that he/she is different from me and you.  The way of dealing with things will be DIFFERENT.  The methods of handling and fixing an issue could different between two people💦💦💦

Like for a problem at hand, you OR me would prefer to immediately 'attack' and fix that problem.  Someone else could advise you OR me to take a walk for a while.  So, our ability to be true to ourselves and different from someone else WHILE still remaining connected creates a paradox, one that generates great freedom.  Many of us believe that to have connection with someone else, we have to be the same???  Unfortunately, this approach will limit us in relationships because each person is unique.  BUT we are NOT the same as anyone else, even if you were born twins.  Sadly, many relationship fights are about the struggle for each member of the couple to be themselves💧💧💧

Let's face it, in these struggles, we often look at the other person as the enemy [much as you WON'T admit it].  Many of the worst struggles take place WHEN we have similar longings BUT different methods OR approaches.  Let's run a reality check here.  WHEN we first meet someone we like, OR WHEN we fall in love, we are willing and able to let the other person be themselves.  YES we re curious about about the other person and we want to get to know him OR her.  We may see some limitations BUT at that point in time, we are willing to overlook them, because we see the appealing characteristics💥💥💥

Now, reality kicks in WHEN later in the relationship, we may become more critical of the other person's limitations.  We then see those flaws as seemingly harmful to us.  And while some characteristics really are harmful, I'm referring as to how we 'surrender' ourselves to the other person's limitations.  This then creates that unexpected conflict because we expect the other person to change to make us happy.  BUT that leads us 'OFF TRACK' because our takeaway is that we should LET PEOPLE BE WHO THEY ARE😃😃😃