Boundaries In Life
Living life with transparency and as an OPEN BOOK will be appreciated by everyone [and NO one will complain] BUT in living our personal life, it CAN'T run that way unconditionally. Boundaries In Life need to be set and demarcated. WHY? In two words, to protect our well-being but that encompasses all the gamut in life, e.g. emotional, financial, physical, intellect and it DOESN'T even stop there💵💴💷
Challenge is, some of us simply want to please others, even if it means breaching their own personal boundaries. NOT being able to set healthy BOUNDARIES can be related to common issues like low self-esteem, needing approval from others, learned helplessness OR the fear of being rejected OR criticized. Frankly, I used to be that person unable to draw boundaries📗📙📘
WHY? Not to blame my culture but I grew up in that kind of culture wherein saying NO is a NO-NO. And if you meant to say NO, least you can do is to give a 'middle of the road' response that's neither here NOR there. NOT to bad-mouth others but people will always be people. UNTIL you say otherwise, they might take advantage of your help, kindness, pain, knowledge OR even your ignorance📌📌📌
Sadly, there are even people WHO will NEVER respect your boundaries, regardless as to HOW much you enforce them. They WON'T listen to WHAT you have to say or act accordingly. BUT hey, at that point, the problem is THEM and NOT you. People WHO DON'T know how to respect other people's boundaries lack self-esteem in their lives and will project it on you shamelessly anytime. BUT hey, there is a reason why BOUNDARIES are imperative✅✅✅
Long time back, even while I was in High School, NO one knew my preferred course in the university. And when I plotted my almost seamless immigration to Singapore, NO ONE was aware of it. WHY? Because I need that space protected by the boundary that gives me the privacy I deserve. With social media running berserk, your most confidential info can spread like the Australian bush fires UNLESS you set your BOUNDARIES IN LIFE❗❗❗
