Wiggling Out Of Toxic Environments

 

If there is one commonality we all share across, it's the obvious fact that we all exist and live in our respective ENVIRONMENT.  We may NOT co-exist BUT each of us needs to live and even survive whichever ENVIRONMENT we have.  BUT WHAT is expected from us is our sharp awareness of the ENVIRONMENT we have.  I've seen many people really working hard and NEVER complaining.  And that was GREAT.  BUT it is actually something most people lack sometimes BUT it is NOT the reason for WHATEVER discomfort we would also endure along the way.  At times, we feel that discomfort because we DIDN'T get any recognition from other people, even for just a bit📗📙📘

True, many of us are NOT seeking validation BUT it's just that they know WHAT you do BUT DON'T want to acknowledge it.  As we would try to bring about WHAT we did, WHAT is important in working, BUT we would sometimes find our own self becoming that somewhat arrogant person in the room for the work you have done.  BUT alas, I feel blessed because I was in this ENVIRONMENT only once many years back📌📌📌

IF and WHEN we do realize that we are in that TOXIC ENVIRONMENT, WHAT'S next?  The experts would be quick to counsel us to LET GO OF WHAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL.  And I CAN'T agree less with this.  WHEN attempting to survive a TOXIC ENVIRONMENT, it becomes critical to remember that there are things outside our periphery and sphere of influence.  And WHILE we typically CAN'T control the culture itself, we can control HOW we respond to the situation💥💥💥

If there's one harsh lesson I learnt while going through the gauntlet in a TOXIC ENVIRONMENT, it's that everything becomes draining.  And belatedly then, I realized that it is imperative to develop and enforce boundaries between parties, even with the closest of your close coterie of friends.  A real-life example is WHEN one starts to bad-mouth someone else, WHAT you can do is CHANGE THE SUBJECT.  That way, you can avoid getting sucked into that looming negativity❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  Looking back WHEN I was trapped in that foxhole of a TOXIC ENVIRONMENT, I thought I had to come up with an action plan, WHICH I did.  And I realized that WHEN I was 'into an action', I hardly felt being worried OR helpless as I was in the middle of all the action.  On the tail-end, I realized my career DOESN'T define me because if we become so enmeshed, that locks us in in a TOXIC ENVIRONMENT we need to extricate ourselves😕😕😕