The Worst Disservice Is For Us To Avoid Our Feelings

 

All along, we're challenged and sometimes befuddled WHEN other people either avoid OR ignore us, much to our chagrin.  BUT can we agree that the WORST DISSERVICE ever is WHEN we AVOID our own FEELINGS?  So, WHEN was the last time we felt anxious, with our body braced and seemingly on the edge?  It could have been WHEN your partner/spouse was late coming home and you couldn't reach him/her on the mobile phone [SOUNDS FAMILIAR !@#$%?] OR at a time WHEN you were beating a deadline to submit a report OR a client proposal, your laptop crashed OR for a family-man, your child on 'full-blown' tantrums at the convi store OR WHILE you await your very own medical test results, ouch😡😡😡

And WHAT's the most curious thing about those scenarios?  We'd like to hear HOW YOU RESPONDED IF you were in any of those scenarios.  Maybe you noticed your heart racing to a beat beyond the normal pace?  OR breathing in a shallow way, anticipating an illness?  OR simply grabbing a bag of cheese puffs?  OR plunging into online shopping and incessantly ADDING TO CART based on impulse?  The experts tell us that any of these behaviors are very normal to be manifested BUT WHAT's interesting to hear is the reason WHY ARE WE BEHAVING IN THESE WAYS???  The long and short of it is that, we are ESCAPING from our inner lives, and the experts opine that this happens in those moments WHEN we are confronted with our own vulnerabilities❌❌❌

To piggy-back in their 'technical' explanations, we are triggered by those uncomfortable sensations in our bodies heralding emotions stirring deep beneath us and we end up doing anything rather than face them.  WHAT's very scary here is that many kinds of sufferings can arise from this dilemma.  Indeed, research suggests that people WHO avoid their own emotions tend to have HIGHER PAIN LEVELS, INCREASED CARDIVASCULAR RISK and HIGHER CANCER RATES [and that's besides depression, anxiety and even relationship problems]💥💥💥

SO HOW?  The experts counsel us that instead of avoiding WHAT we feel WHEN we are vulnerable we need to shift our approach. We need to slow down and truly feel our bodies, so we can soothe our nervous systems and access our underlying emotions.  And the experts assure us that if we take this path, we will be able to LET GO of the urgent need for certainty and control that would lead to anxiety problems, release the self-criticism that leads to apathy and depression😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Hearing from experts, key here is HOW TO RECOGNIZE UNREST [within us] as we are vulnerable with limited control over the things that matter to us.  Verily, true, WHETHER we want things we like to always stay the same, OR we want things we DON'T like to change, it is NOT entirely in our own hands.  And just WHEN we are confronted with our vulnerability, that inner feeling disrupts us.  SO HOW?  Experts tell us to EMBRACE UNREST as part of our journey in life, without a perfect endpoint.  It's about changing the way of being yourself WHEN you DON'T feel good, so WHEN UNREST calls, you approach discomfort and access the power of your emotion.  Only then you can turn things around dude💚💛💜