Be Cautious When We're Advised To "JUST BE YOURSELF"

 

Surely we have heard about this social maxim many times, that is, 'JUST BE YOURSELF'.  On the surface, there is just nothing wrong with this as it could even be motivating enough.  YET, researches showed that it's really NOT the best advice to receive IF your very 'own self' is either uninteresting, awkward, and in terms of manner OR in terms of behavior, IF one is rude, abrasive OR even condescending OR if in terms of mindset, one is either prejudiced OR elitist.  NOT to douse cold water on whatever optimism OR enthusiasm that may be enveloping you now BUT if any of these exceptions, outliers they may be, seems to be existing OR being manifested within yourself, Be Cautious When We're Advised To "JUST BE YOURSELF"💚💛💜

HOW often have you heard the buzzwords like AUTHENTICITY and INTEGRITY?  NOT so often I guess BUT it's imperative NOT to lose sight of their value [even IF we rarely stumble across these words] because IF and WHEN we become the kind of person WHO always does WHAT you say you'll do, WHOSE principles and values are made clear, WHO acts in alignment with those values with consistency [and WHICH MEANS, with NO deviation], you will certainly standout even in a mammoth crowd❗❗❗

Through all these years, I consistently embraced this age-old adage "FIRST IMPRESSION IS LASTING".  And that becomes very telling and significant really WHEN meeting OR interacting with someone for the very first time.  One's manifestations during that first ever meeting has been proven to be a 'game changer' especially in the job market.  Remember there are NO second chances as a job applicant.  Once you blinked and the interviewer takes it as a demerit, that becomes a demerit that can significantly influence the final outcome of that job interview😊😊😊

Much as I have had my fair share of experiences as a job applicant [during those years WHEN my RESUME was in the active databanks of headhunters and the latter literally burned the midnight oil to reach out to me for opportunities], the biggest chunk of my wealth experiences is as the hiring manager.  WHILE others would spend time on the academic credentials like the transcript of records, I instead did a quick mapping of the candidate's key qualifications and validate from thereon✅✅✅

Our takeaway:  Lest I get misunderstood, please DON'T embrace hook, line and sinker "JUST TO BE YOURSELF" but instead, spend time on your 'inner game', building the attributes, qualities and characteristics for you to become your BEST SELF.  From there onwards, WALK THE TALK to be your BEST SELF and it will help to benchmark yourself with the "BEST FOLKS' around [i.e. if your performance is more 'AVERAGE' BUT you [wrongly] thought it's your BEST, then you got to calibrate things.  So, BE CAUTIOUS to 'JUST BE YOURSELF'💥💥💥