When ENVY Rears Its UGLY Head

When ENVY Rears Its UGLY Head

Generally, we are NOT that envious BUT When does ENVY Rears Its UGLY Head is what matters most because we need to figure out the CAUSE of this EFFECT.  And generally, what CAUSES us to ENVY others is when we start comparing our own self to others.  Nothing wrong admiring what they have, their fashion, their accessories, their car BUT be cautious if you are breaching the borderline IF/WHEN you start comparing yourself to them💎💎💎

It was Monday morning, now you're back to work and as your email InBox got updated, you received that mail notification that your friend/classmate way back university is now a Vice Pres in a global bank.  By coincidence, you were recently laid off from your last job.  Instantly, you feel RESENTFUL.  And you might start questioning things like WHY the trajectories of your friend's career is opposite yours?  Oh oh, while it's true that studies show 75% of us are indeed envious of others, let us realize that comparing ourselves to others can leave us feeling anxious and FRUSTRATED.  But that does NOT help us at all in life📌📌📌

Now let's focus how to put a STOP to this 'JEALOUSY GAME'.  Identify the triggers of ENVY.  Is it when you scroll through LINKEDIN?  Or is it when you hear your friend BRAGGING about her salary increase?  Use such observations to learn about yourself.  Then make a list of WHO and WHAT you frequently ENVY or COMPARE yourself to. Write down how it impacts you and resolve to be more VIGILANT so you can pre-empt yourself in the future⏳⏳⏳

Back in my early school life, I had a classmate who was perennially entrenched as the #1 in our grade level [across 5 to 6 sections per grade] and initially I was really ENVY because he was so consistently entrenched as our #1 from Grade 1 till we graduated Grade 6 till we went to High School.  BUT in a timely manner, I realized that I should be THANKFUL instead if I was receiving 2nd Honors [versus 1st Honors] because I was still at the top tier of our class/  So, what I did then was to FOCUS on my strengths.  I even made a list of my achievements [and I realized that record was NOT bad]❗❗❗

But hold on, there will always be that COMPETITION.  WHY?  Because you DON'T live in your own world.  And that can be helpful wherein you will view people with ENVY as allies rather than as a threat.  If you avoid people that trigger self-comparison, you may miss out on how those successful people can help you.  So, there you are, draw that inspiration from the successes of others instead of getting dragged negatively.  Think about of things you can learn from them and you can even approach them and seek their advice as to how they did it.  In the end, they can be part of your INSPIRATION.  It's NOT too late to avoid when ENVY rears its UGLY HEAD✅✅✅