People-pleasing, Anyone?

 

PEOPLE-PLEASING, anyone?  Oh YES, you might challenge me, WHY do we need to spend time just to dissect PEOPLE-PLEASING WHEN we have many other things much more important in life than this?  Agree and disagree.  IF you hardly fall into that trap, yes, you may please ignore and skip this discourse BUT I'll still be egging you to join the fray because this is worth a fraction of our time.  Likely, even the most demeanored and disciplined person, at times even IF you're hardly into PEOPLE-PLEASING, you can be on the receiving end dude💚💛💜

Supposedly, PEOPLE-PLEASING is no big thing to bother us BUT generally, these behaviors are often manifested by individuals WHO fear abandonment, isolation OR resentment from others.  And WHILE this manifestation could be in its chronic state for some, experts advise us that healing from these tendencies are very much worth it to pursue.  BUT before going to the possible FIX[es], are we aware that 'PEOPLE-PLEASERS' tend to be known [BUT NOT famous on a positive note] to many more compared to the typical person WHO runs his ship tightly?  And IF we are known to a lot more people for doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to make others happy, it's NOT the best way to be known, right dude😉😉😉
 

WHILE a PEOPLE-PLEASER tends to put the needs of others ahead of their own, that type of person is highly attuned to others and often seen as agreeble, helpful and kind BUT PEOPLE-PLEASERs can also have trouble advocating for themselves, WHICH can precariously lead to a potentially harmful pattern of self-sacrifice OR worse, even self-neglect.  Experts say that PEOPLE-PLEASING is associated with a personality trait known as sociotropy❌❌❌

The bigger question that may pop-up here is IF we are challenged as to WHY we're spending time on this PEOPLE-PLEASING thing WHEN there are more important things to cover in life?  YES dude, this all boils down to the fact that although PEOPLE-PLEASING ISN'T necessarily a bad thing, it can potentially become a problem IF the real reason behind is that we are trying to win 'approval' [OR acceptance] to shore up our weak self-esteem OR worse, if we are pursuing the happiness of others at the expense of your very own emotional well-being😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  The mother of all ironies with PEOPLE-PLEASING is that at the end of the day, we ourselves will end up 'depleted' WHEN we redirect most if NOT all of our energy and mental resources toward making sure that others are happy.  Even some research studies suggests that as our willpower and even resources get depleted, it might feel like you are NOT living your life authentically and worst, it may even mean that you have very little left, if at all, to devote to your own needs.  The deepest ramification of all these is that this may lead us to have weaker relationships as putting the needs of others way ahead of yours may mean that one day, you will find yourself resentful adding salt to an open wound, others will take your kindness and attentiveness for granted.  PEOPLE-PLEASING anyone???