FEXTNG, Anyone ?

FEXTNG, Anyone ?

FEXTNG, Anyone ?  Honestly, when I came across in ChannelnewsAsia today that 'FEXTING KEEPS LAWYERS and THERAPISTS BUSY' at this link today https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/living/fexting-or-fighting-over-text-message-keeps-therapists-and-divorce-lawyers-busy-338191 .  So, to keep us all on the same page, here is the FEXTING definition:  It is simply FIGHTING OVER TEXT, period.  That simple.  So, I told myself, this is worth dissecting today, isn't it?  No less than U.S. First Lady admitted in the Harper's Bazaar interview that occasionally, she and U.S. Pres. Joe Biden get into 'FEXTING, ouch.  So, I realized FEXTING is not limited to millennials, hehehe.

Apparently, there are zillions of reasons we might end up taking up things thru FEXTING, tapping our phones to air our grievances.  BTW, FEXTING can happen both in platonic  or romantic relationships.  For one, expressing hurt in a live and face-to-face scenario can be intimidating indeed.  Especially if you are into a 'HATE CONFLICT'.  And taking the time tow write out your thoughts can help you stay that composed, most of the time anyway.

And as it is now common for us to live across different time zones, or you DON'T see your partner/spouse or friend in question often, this mode of communication may feel all but natural.  At the same time, leaning on a regular texting practice might not be doing your relationship any favors, seriously.  While it's possible to disagree with your partner/spouse and settle an argument constructively, there are also many ways to go about conflict that will only make things worse.

And when arguing via FEXTING, that becomes risky as the conflict can go from BAD to WORSE.  So, when will things will exacerbate an argument or conflict?  using HARSH words, sending SUCCESSIVE messages to overwhelm, using EMOJIs, photos or GIFs and videos in an immature nature to illicit NEGATIVE emotional responses, STONEWALLING or refusing to respond in a constructive way or TYPING AS IF replying BUT with NO intention of sending it

DON'T get me wrong though.  I grabbed this poster which shows the 'POSITIVES of FEXTING [and I totally agree with this].  So, what's our FIX?  Let us NOT totally shun off FEXTING but that option has to be invoked in a very calculated and cautious manner.  A 'DO IT ALL' solution via FEXTING will turn things from BAD to WORSE.  To be forewarned is to be forearmed📗📘📙