Stop Undermining Yourself!!!

I DON'T have the data to support BUT I strongly feel that if there's one thing we may be sometimes guilty BUT unaware, it is SELF-SABOTAGING.  THAT behavior which relates to an intentional action [OR even inaction] that undermines our own progress and prevents us from accomplishing our pre-set goals.  Sadly, SELF-SABOTAGE occurs WHEN people hinder their own success.  And WHILE it seems surprising, some people undermine their own good intentions.  Can we please Stop Undermining our own self???

The huge miss here is that WHEN we take self-destructive steps, that harmful behavior can negatively impact nearly every part of our lives and even extending to our relationships and our career, all ending up as collateral damage.  So, WHAT causes that self-sabotaging behavior?  People thwart their progress for a variety of reasons, sometimes, puzzling and unfathomable, quite one too many❎❎❎

As per studies, many times, SELF-SABOTAGING serves as our coping mechanism we use to deal with stressful situations and even past traumas.  Unfortunately, it typically makes problems worse and limits a person's ability to successfully move forward in a healthy way.  YES, sometimes people SELF-SABOTAGING might be aware of their actions, like when you're overweight and on a diet but here you are drowning in ice cream💧💧💧

Oh yes, sometimes, we unconsciously act.  Like WHEN we miss a work deadline.  On the surface, it seems like one is running late BUT the harsh truth is that he's afraid of failure and ends up SELF-SABOTAGING himself by missing the due date, thus thwarting his goal to move up in his dream promotion.  Researches also have shown that sometimes, this is caused by growing in a dysfunctional family, as that can contribute to the acts of SELF-SABOTAGE.  Without that secure attachment style, one might have an ambivalent OR avoidant attachment style.  A typical example would be our earliest engagement with caregivers as it affects HOW we connect to others😌😌😌

Our takeaway:  As we cannot be pinned down for some peculiar causes of undermining our own selves, we need to be actively conscious of our limitations like self-esteem as that could make us vulnerable.  Hey dude, experts tell us that even procrastination and perfectionism are the other culprits that end us up undermining our own self.  BUT we can and should do something and right the wrong, albeit NOT overnight.  Just STOP UNDERMINING YOURSELF, dude!!!