Why Seek A Debt One Can't Pay

Why Seek A Debt One Can't Pay

Not until today, throughout my life, I always believed that we SHOULD see a debt we are owed.  Not until I was watching a Netflix docu today wherein the bereaved sibling was pragmatic to state "Why Seek A Debt He Can't Pay".  That triggered me to really pause and end up in a state of stupor.  And in the middle of getting stalled, I realized how way long overdue my realization is.  Then I challenged myself if I was having a very narrowed view of things for me to realize this late?

For the longest time, I stuck it out with the hardline principle I learned from my father right from our formative years when he'll always push that where you are on the receiving end and shortchanged.  To settle that score, he would always take that hardline approach for an 'eye for an eye' and a 'tooth for a tooth'.  

And BTW, talking about Debt One Can't Pay is NOT all about financials.  It could be more about relationships.  Probably your partner or spouse having hurt you emotionally and obviously you got hurt.  But for the meantime what can you do?  Would you buy time for you to settle a score?  What if there is no realistic 'modus vivendi' to settle things.  Why can't you consider FORGIVING and hitting the RESET button as a safe way out?

Allow me to grab this poster from Project Forgive as it says it all:  YOU ARE GENUINELY HEALING WHEN YOU CAN FORGIVE YOUR PARENTS FOR BEING JUST AS FLAWED AS EVERYONE ELSE.  And BTW, this is NOT just about our parents who may have erred.  Could be any Tom, dick and Harry who crossed paths with you and did owe you an explanation.

BTW, forgiveness means different things to different people.  Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.  The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you.  Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of UNDERSTANDING, EMPATHY and COMPASSION for the one who hurt you.  Forgiveness does NOT mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you or making up with the person who caused the harm.  Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps us go on with our life.  At the end of the day, let us come to terms with the fact that it is pointless to seek Debt One Can't Pay📌📌📌