A Crisis Is A Crisis

 

Call anything by any name except a CRISIS because a CRISIS IS A CRISIS no less.   We can downplay things and coax things to reduce the severity of a CRISIS BUT there's no other way to get around a CRISIS except to tackle it, contain it, resolve and the bottomline is to survive a CRISIS even if one does NOT end up unscathed.  BUT before I get read wrongly, I am NOT trying to sow anything that approximates those Armaggedon-like scenario, no sirrrrrs, NOT even my least intent here💧💧💧

In simplest semantics, CRISIS can be anything that comes out of a variety of stressful events in our lifetime.  YES, each of us has unique ways of dealing with these 'uneventful' events in order for us to maintain that level of comfortable emotional balance and WHEN our usual coping mechanisms fail, we tend to seek and find ways of coping.  YES, sadly, a CRISIS state comes into being WHEN those new attempts fail to return us to that pre-CRISIS level of emotional balance.  YES, CRISIS is that state of feeling, an internal experience of confusion and anxiety to the degree that formerly previous successful coping mechanisms fail us and ineffective decisions and behaviors take their place💚💛💜

WHAT happens next?  Your guess is as good as mine.  We would likely end up confused, vulnerable, anxious, afraid, guilty and to an extent, driven to anger and veering towards hopelessness.  In the end, perceptions get altered and even memory may end up distorted, often beyond our control☝☝☝

WHEN we get hit with CRISIS, WHAT most of us miss out like 99% of the time is that we could in the midst of an opportunity.  YES, CRISIS is useful WHEN it causes us to go beyond familiar coping skills and instead, we end up driven to hone new skills, becoming more competent and even autonomous and less reliant on others [sounds familiar in some tightly knit cultures were families are so glued to each other even and most especially even in the midst of one CRISIS after another CRISIS.  To an extent, it's saddening😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  As there is NO ONE SIZE THAT FITS ALL, you might get back to me and ask me, HOW DO WE HANDLE A CRISIS?  Easier said than done BUT let's endeavor to dump and throw out the window our vulnerabilities related to anxiety, helplessness and anger.  WHY?  Because they will do more harm than good WHEN weathering a crisis.  Instead, take things objectively.  Define and clarify the CRISIS you are in and list down your options in weathering it.  Take it.  DON'T rush with conclusions.  Bottomline is reach an informed decision because A CRISIS IS A CRISIS and you've got to deal with it dude!!!

Are You Scraping The Bottom Of The Barrel?

 

ARE YOU SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL?  Per se, there's just nothing wrong with that, right?  Especially if that's your very own barrel.  Agree.  BUT without nitpicking, in a normal day-to-day life, should we be SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL?  No sirrrrrs. It's neither ideal NOR normal.  WHY?  Because it means you have breached your threshold [WHATEVER situation you may be in].  And WHAT does threshold mean?  Simple.  That's akin to the Korean DMZ [Demilitarized Zone] WHEREIN once either of the protagonists will breach it, they could be fatally shot.  Of course, in real life, we DON'T shoot ourselves BUT breaching our own threshold simply tells us that you are marginally within that imaginary line WHERE you need to tap your lifeline no less'☝☝☝

Let's take a leaf from the oil industry WHERE oil is generally measured in barrels.  WHICH reminds me that time I went through a week-long course in Oil Refining, I learnt that straight from the oil wells all the way to the Oil Refining process, the premium and most-sought part of oil are the upper parts.  And the lower sediments?  They will likely contain those sediments that should be extricated from oil itself.  So, WHAT's the ramification WHEN we are SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL???

It may NOT seem to be the 'end of the world' but as we often hear, SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL could be the 'BEGINNING OF THE END'.  And this is nearer to reality and truth indeed.  WHY?  Once you're contemplating to scrape that BOTTOM OF THE BARREL, that would be akin to clutching on straws💧💧💧

Having said that, even if it could sound like the BEGINNING OF THE END, frankly, that's NOT the end yet, right?  YES, it is obviously akin to a 'wake up call' OR even a final buzzer warning as it could imply your back seems to be stacked against the wall.  BUT if there is a 'light at the end of the tunnel' [and BTW, it's NOT an incoming train!@#$%?], it is that obvious fact that you've got a card or two to play out, even as it may sound out to be the weakest cards to play.  YES, having those weakest card is better than nothing💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  We can go on and on BUT then again, SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL is rarely a choice.  Bluntly, once you reach that point of realization, it is because you've got NO choices, NO options, NO cards to play.  BUT as we often hear from any of the self-proclaimed optimists a half-full glass and NOT a half-empty one.  At the end of the day, it's 'mind-setting your mindset'. If you seem flawed inside-out, you may realize that even SCRAPING THE BOTTOM OF THE BARREL may NOT be enough after all😡😡😡

Are You Willing To 'PLAY BALL'

 

Are you willing to 'PLAY BALL'?  So sorry, wrong question dude because that should NOT be asked in the first place.  WHY?  To PLAY BALL in life is NOT a choice BUT WHEN circumstances warrant it, you've got to take the plunge and PLAY BALL.  For alignment, let's agree that to PLAY BALL means embracing challenges, committing to your goals and in the midst of adversities, turning around those setbacks into opportunities💥💥💥

Let's run an iteration of WHAT IFs.  WHAT IF you tend to avoid facing challenges by kind of looking the other way around?  YES you can opt for it BUT NOT to scare you, those challenges will NEVER dissipate in thin air.  There's even that likelihood that they may seem to be 'chasing' you WHICHEVER direction you may be veering.  WHAT IF as much as you're success-oriented and you've got your laid-out goals BUT in the end, you tend to scratch the surface instead of deep-diving and committing with a crusade-like focus.  WHAT IF you had well laid-out lofty plans for you and for your family BUT here you are, half-heartedly in pursuit of achieving those goals?  HOW far can you go dude😡😡😡

Let's not look farther than the NBA, a sports league no other league anywhere else can approximate in terms of magnitude and its impact both from a commercial perspective [YES, just the aggregate value of all its 30 combined franchises exceeds US$ 130 Billion, whew!] and even in the very competitive world of sports, to even have one foot into the NBA world, one has to earn the spurs to even earn the monicker like a 'DAWG'!  BUT before one can even get into that niche of the 'DAWGs', there's this question that will pop-up constantly until you can unconditionally declare that you're willing to PLAY BALL👀👀👀

WHEN I decided to take that quantum leap of taking on the huge risk of migrating to another country, hook, line and sinker, I was committed to PLAY BALL and I knew it that I may be facing several fronts all at the same time.  That 'culture shock' thing I knew would be too steep [akin to Mount Rushmore] for me to climb BUT unlike in technology, there is NO UNDO in life.  You can move forward [OR worse, you can standstill] BUT taking a step back is unthinkable.  This explains WHY before taking the plunge, one has to frankly ask himself, ARE YOU WILLING TO PLAY BALL?  If your response is less than unconditional and rock-solid, forget it, that may NOT be your 'cup of tea' and it behooves that you take stock of things before you reassess your readiness to PLAY BALL👌👌👌

Our takeaway:  If there are variables that should be stricken off once you reach that decision point to PLAY BALL OR NOT, we need to dump out the window even those slightest apprehensions and anxiety of failing.  WHEN those narratives circling around failures went into their post-mortems, the common denominator was their FEAR TO FAIL.  That's akin to an albatross hanging around your neck, whew!@#$%?

Why Is AWARENESS Under-rated?

 

Is AWARENESS that under-rated?  YES it is, dude, frankly!  To most of us, AWARENESS is nothing more than another byword in the English language.  BUT for us to mine and dissect it, many of us would be inclined to think that it's NOT worth it to even spare a second for a quick discourse.  BUT to quote the experts, AWARENESS is 'meditation in motion' no less.   That practice of bringing mindfulness into our daily life.  YES, we can practice that art of being here and there WHILE queued in that grocery checkout counter or WHEN weaving through that chronic traffic gridlock.  BUT can we agree that AWARENESS involves a simple yet incredible shift from our ordinary state of mind wandering to bring our attention to that level of AWARENESS as to WHAT is happening in the moment???

I recall stumbling across this catchy one-liner sometime back:  LIFE MOVES PRETTY FAST.  IF YOU DON'T STOP AND LOOK AROUND FOR A WHILE, YOU MIGHT MISS IT.  Indeed, top-heavy words that speak volumes underneath more than WHAT it's said.  I can attest that a life WHERE AWARENESS is wanting moves pretty fast.  Let's face it.  WHEN we wake up, go to work and do all our other day-to-day stuff, we often operate on 'autopilot' mode, sans that need for AWARENESS even as the days fly as do the weeks, months and years💧💧💧

HOW often do we exclaim "HOW TIME FLIES!"  Quite often, right?  Before we know it, with each passing year, the novelty of our life would seem to be diminishing even as our own AWARENESS level seem to decelerate.  I did come across a very insightful piece about MINDFULNESS WHERE it opines that if we really want to live much longer, our AWARENESS and PRESENCE [and NOT drug, NOT even healthy eating] is the best solution.  True, we may NOT live longer in terms of what calendar shows BUT our AWARENESS level can be a 'shot in the arm' even in the most mundane stuff☝☝☝

Do we recall early in life WHERE we appreciate WHEN the leaves fall?  OR even those pebbles we tend to step on WHILE walking around OR even smelling the scents of that recently cut grass  OR as simple as feeling the warmth of summer?  Probably YES WHEN we were at the Grade School, but that's about it, right?  There were multiple studies sharing the same conclusion that those simple manifestations of AWARENESS and presence does slow life down as they help us go through each day feeling more alive, awake and most importantly, content💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  WHAT do we need to exert OR invest to increase our AWARENESS in our daily life?  Very little, in fact, if at all.  BUT WHAT hinders us to increase our day-to-day AWARENESS are those tons of distractions that tend to drive us off-track.  And a big chunk of those distractions are the challenges we face.  BUT can we shove off those distractions that are beyond our control, if only to enhance our day-to-day AWARENESS in life👐👐👐

Those 'OPTICS' In Life

 

Sometimes, "IT'S OPTICS".  Earlier tonight, I was watching the Netflix Series "The Staircase" and the husband of his late wife was about to be indicted and his lawyer advised him that he has to surrender himself to the police.  And as a piece of advice, bring 50 bucks and a bible.  He retorted, "A BIBLE? HOW ABOUT A QURAN?"  His lawyer then advised him in a serious tone, "IT'S OPTICS".  YES YES Yowwww, there are times in life where "IT'S OPTICS" NOT because one is deceiving OR deceptive BUT it's how things play out in life💚💛💜

Forget about those meddlers, busybodies, chatterboxes and kibitzers BUT the harsh truth is that generally in life, WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET.  Try leaving your home even for just a walkaround in your local community, with your eyes swollen.  WHAT else will folks conclude [much as they are NOT intentionally there to monitor OR track you❎❎❎

HOW often do we see splashed across media a long-wanted fugitive on the loose WHO [finally] gets captured by authorities. And in the next photo-op, you could see him clutching a bible or a rosary [for Christians].  NOT to nitpick on that fugitive BUT that's how OPTICS in life really play out.  And even WHEN all your hands are on deck, that's the most you can do and invoke, to leverage on those OPTICS in life.  WHY?  Because WHEN you are left with very limited cards to play besides being severely handicapped, that's your 'best cards' to play.  Obviously, you can opt NOT to 'ride that merry-go-round' and be WHAT YOU ARE.  BUT WHY NOT leverage on those OPTICS in life WHEN you are left with the least options to play on😀😀😀

YES dude, we're NOT encouraging people to be hypocrites or increase the number of FAKE ones with whom we co-exist.  We can find that cowing lothario WHO is exerting his darn best mindful of that 'best foot forward' mindset and ethically OR even morally, there's nothing wrong with that at all💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Much as life can NEVER be perfect and we ourselves can NEVER be that 'spotless' even for the most petty stuff, at times, those petty stuff do matter and quite surprisingly, at times it does move those 'tectonic plates', either to boost OR shrink the perception people have on you.  BUT hold on, we're NOT encouraging you to keep track of people's perceptions because that's the least you can do except those OPTICS in life😡😡😡

A CLEARING In The Middle of a Fire!

 

A CLEARING IN THE MIDDLE OF A FIRE.  YES, it happens!  We DON'T need to be a meteorologist.  The thing is, FIRES abound everywhere, NOT that we welcome it BUT it's just a fact of life.  WHETHER it's storms OR fires OR even regional and global conflicts, there will always be a CLEARING IN THE MIDDLE OF A FIRE.  Just as WHAT happened in that war between the U.S., Israel and Iran.  After more than a month of unabated warfare, they flew over to Islamabad for ceasefire talks, WHICH, we all know, have failed miserably!!!

Swinging over to our personal lives, WHY are there narratives WHERE a very petty friction turned out into a full-blown fire? Rarely do we hear someone dumping barrels of fuel all over it.  SO HOW?  The most obvious reason is that generally, when friction turns into FIRE, almost every protagonist will add fuel to the FIRE with more fiery words, spewing out anger two, three OR ten times the magnitude.  Until everyone joins the fray and a line gets marked across the sands akin to the DMZ zone❎❎❎

BUT WHY can't we pick up a lesson or two from geopolitical players?  After both players are battered black and blue, seemingly impartial third parties will volunteer to mediate to create that CLEARING IN THE MIDDLE OF A FIRE.  BTW, that's the biggest opportunity for protagonist NOT just to 'recharge and regroup' BUT for 'cooler heads to prevail.  BUT is this really the way to go???

WHY?  For multiple reasons.  WHEN there's that CLEARING IN THE MIDDLE OF A FIRE, it's a given that emotions will simmer down and in its place, logic and reason will prevail [at least generally].  BUT the befuddling question is, WHAT adds FUEL TO FIRE?  Numero uno.  A third person OR even a fourth person joins the fray.  Segundo, the issue blows up and out beyond WHAT it was all along, originally😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  WHO's the culprit as to WHY cooler heads rarely prevail?  Let's all point our fingers to those emotions WHICH CAN'T be kept within those tightly closed jars.  WHAT this means is that emotions can become like those raging bulls in those famous [BUT dreaded Matador fests].  CAN'T we leverage a CLEARING IN THE MIDST OF FIRE???

How's Your OWN Shelf Life?

 

Not too long ago, WHEN we huddled with our Regional CEO, our discussions can cut across from financials to logistics to product sourcing and managing highly demanding markets like the Japan market WHICH was our primary market for our premium fresh produce like Asparagus and even Anthuriums.  Fast-forward to today, I realized that times have changed and they have changed so drastically to a point WHERE I tend to get mixed up and confused WHERE product cycles and shelf life would converge OR part ways.  And it made me realize that looking at our own selves, we as a product must have gone through a 'sea change' the past years.  It used to be, you can hear of an employee WHO started as an accountant and retired as an accountant.  HOW does that sound today???

NOT to sound harsh BUT indeed, times have changed and I realized of late that those changes could come out as harsh for some of us.  Today, one CAN'T start off in that junior accountant job role and feel secure to retire as an accountant.  WHEN the latest software and toolsets get rolled out [way before AI kind of takes over], I am honestly unsure WHAT happens next to our accountant WHO, decades back, would have felt so secure in that job role to even dream of retirement☝☝☝

YES dude, much as food has its shelf life, so do we.  So, WHERE's the distinction between our own shelf life and food itself?  It lies in the fact that WHILE food itself are very much managed in a controlled manner across the food chain, times have [drastically] changed for us humans.  In fact, refurbishing ourselves will be a gross understatement.  IF we needed to reinvent ourselves WHO used to work in a 'brick and mortar' environment, go for it!!!

WHEN I was an entry-level executive trainee in the technology space, I [wrongly] thought that I was at the 'top of the league', kind of feeling I was at the NBA rather than in any of the NCAA Division leagues.  What contributed to my distorted appreciation of things was the coincidence that I was working with one of the biggest global MNC's, an organization that was always tagged as one of the premium and blue-chip corporate accounts of those technology giants, e.g. IBM, HP, Oracle [oh yes, I have to intentionally omit Microsoft because at that point, Microsoft was NOT yet in technology's big league]💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Dude, our SHELF LIFE should NOT be mapped with our human SHELF LIFE WHERE aging mechanisms like DNA decay limit us [despite the fact that human shelf life is generally estimated between 120-150 years].  To manage our own product cycle that trickles down to our SHELF LIFE, catching up with the quantum leaps in technology will be a gross understatement.  Dude, you and me and everyone else would NOT want to end up utterly obsolete and irrelevant, all because of PRODUCT CYCLES and SHELF LIFE😡😡😡

When Is Change Due?

 

WHEN IS CHANGE DUE?  Oooops, I might hear someone question WHY is CHANGE a talking point at all?  YES YES yooowwww, dude, CHANGE is and will always be a talking point.  Of course, we would hear:  WHY CHANGE IF THE CAR AIN'T BROKE?  ok ok ok.  I used to embrace that one-liner unconditionally.  BUT let's do some random samplings.  If we look back in our own life journeys, were everything seem to be PERFECT enough such that CHANGE was NOT DUE at all❌❌❌

WHAT IF in school, you were constantly an A-Dean's Lister from Day-1 till you graduated from university?  WHAT IF you were getting PERFECT ratings in your annual performance reviews at the workplace?  WHAT IF you were receiving salary merit adjustments every year?  WHAT IF your cash register in your startup business never ceases to stop clicking?  WHAT IF you finally have acquired the properties you want in life?  WHAT IF life seems to be constantly shiny and dandy?  WHAT IF year-on-year you ticked all the boxes in your wish list?  WHEN IS CHANGE DUE???

Frankly, if I were right in those random scenarios I listed, I'm NOT optimistic enough that I can ask myself WHEN IS CHANGE DUE?  Sadly, human nature tells us that WHEN everything is good, WHY talk about CHANGE?  Do we throw a monkey wrench when the waters are silent and stabilized?  Kodak.  Enron.  Polaroid.  Worldcom.  This is just a handful of companies WHO were lording it across their industry and eventually succumbed NOT until they folded up.  Question: Did they ever ask themselves as to WHEN CHANGE WAS OVERDUE in their respective organizations💥💥💥

That's the thing.  The path we take, whether it's for our personal pursuits or commercial initiatives, those roads are and will never be paved for us to throw out the window that question WHEN IS CHANGE DUE.  WHY?  Because CHANGE is due even WHEN things are perfectly good.  Because CHANGE is due even WHEN problems have not surfaced.  In our corporate world, we always crafted as SERVICE IMPROVEMENTS😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  NOT to be too pushy but even things are 99% good and almost perfect BUT if that smooth run ISN'T giving you any headaches yet, it DOESN'T mean that you can hold in abeyance your thoughts as to WHEN IS CHANGE DUE?  MAYBE, at that optimized 99% performance, you can still achieve with a slight fractional notch with LESS efforts and/or LESS time to 'deliver the goods'?  Thing is, it's NOT the results that's showing up on the surface.  It's the not-so-obvious need for SERVICE IMPROVEMENTS even when the sun is shiny and dandy.  So, WHEN IS CHANGE DUE dude?  NOT WHEN the red flag surfaces.  NOT WHEN the symptoms are staring on your face!@#$%?

Enamored With Perfect Life?

 

YES, it's a 'FEEL GOOD' day today, WHICH explains WHY we've got this damn giveaway question😃😃😃  ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE?  YES, I'll be the first one to raise my hand and admit that everyday in my life, I've always been ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE?  BUT there's nothing wrong to be ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE as we have every right for that, right???

I DON'T need to look farther from moi.  Right from Day-1 WHEN I could claim to transition towards adulthood, I always thought there is nothing to be AIMING FOR THE SKY regardless of my endeavors and pursuits.  BUT admittedly, I have accepted things all along that there is no such thing as a PERFECT LIFE, nothing, nada, nichts!!! Yet, you might wonder WHY I remained ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE?  There were multiple reasons behind it💚💛💜

Firstly, everyday in my life, I knew it that I really need a CATALYST from deep within me.  WHILE there are multiple external motivators, and that starts with your parents and mentors, your very own self is the PRIMUS INTER PARES, you are first among equals insofar as motivating yourself every tick of the clock.  I DON'T think this is even debatable but if there's a counter-argument on this, I'll take on that challenge to retort because this is simply stating the obvious💥💥💥

On the other hand, there's this other school of thought that tempers us from being ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE, all because of some scary narratives that will, in the end, only push us down deep into that morass.  LIKE it will lead you to a different path which is altogether unrealistic.  OR you will end up wasting so much efforts coupled with stress aiming for something unrealistic.  OR once you have emptied your fuel tank, your frustration will seek at an all-time low😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  YES dude, there are always two sides of a coin.  And that's a-ok.  WHAT's NOT ok is WHEN we end up off-track by being engaged [i'll call it 'hostaged'] to opinions that seem to be veering towards cynicism way beyond pessimism.  If the upsides far outweigh the downsides, WHY shoot down the kite that will bring you to heights hitherto unreachable?  WHY do we end up with those WHAT IFs that are veering more towards pessimism WHEN you have your whole life to pour things out to pursue and aim towards achieving the very end goal you have earmarked for you.  At the end of the day, I firmly believe that we will reap more benefits being ENAMORED WITH PERFECT LIFE than NOT AT ALL!@#$%?

Why Failures Are A-ok!

 

FAILURES ARE A-OK!  Seriously?  YES dude it is. Dan Hurley, today's most revered and respected U.S. NCAA basketball coach was consoling his team at the locker room at the aftermath of their loss to the Michigan Wolverines for the national championship.  WHILE Hurley has always been recognized a 'colorful' person WHO would show up with all his emotions at the U.S. NCAA basketball games, during those moments at the locker room, he was as cool as a cucumber, consoling his team that 'HEARTBREAKS ARE GOOD'💚💛💜

Dan Hulry went farther:  HEARTBREAK MEANS YOU'RE IN THE FIGHT.  AS LONG AS IT'S LIKE JOY OR HEARTBREAK, I THINK YOU'RE ON THE RIGHT PATH IN LIFE.  And as the U.S. national media was following the 'heartbroken' UConn team through the locker room, everyone seemed to be looking for the most authentical emotional version of Hurley, they witnessed on the team's journey from the stadium to the hotel and NOT on the sidelines of the post-game disappointment.  Surprisingly, the very watchful hordes of U.S. media lurking around were expecting more than that👃👃👃

If I attempt to dissect from an amateurish standpoint, Coach Dan Hurley's overall composure after that heartbreaking loss right splashed across national TV is a reflection of the failures he went through in the past, making him much more resilient, very much contrary to WHAT everyone knows him☝☝☝

To share my limited personal journal, I recall the multiple times I fell flat, black and blue at that, right on my fact.  And it was damn hard over and over again.  BTW, I DIDN'T pick up my lessons either instantly OR overnight.  I had to absorb things and learn my lessons akin to those pills tagged as 'time-released'.  Looking back, the job market is a very humbling experience for me because I thought all job markets across all countries are similar in behavior, practices and even in actual execution of company mandates.  Alas, that is farthest from the truth WHEN I took that BIG LEAP to migrate to Singapore💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  This life-long lesson revolving around FAILURES as part of that quite treacheour paths towards success CAN'T be understated.  There is not an iota aspect in life that is exempted OR immune from this given.  I did bear witness [close up front] of some people WHO rarely got hit with FAILURES in life.  NOT until, one day, kaboom, WHEN lightning did strike, they seemingly crumbled like a cookie that has long lapsed and expired way beyond its shelf-life.  Look no farther than the success stories either by business moguls and even in the competitive world of sports.  These all tell us as to WHY FAILURES ARE A-OK😁😁😁