Reading The Tea Leaves

 

READING THE TEA LEAVES is something I DIDN'T learn early in life.  NOT until I had that quite memorable very first tete-a-tete with our Managing Director @Goodyear.  For alignment, let us quote its technical meaning WHICH AI defines as the 'LITERAL PRACTICE OF TASSEOGRAPHY, A FORM OF DIVINATION WHERE YOU INTERPRET PATTERNS IN TEA LEAVES TO PREDICT THE FUTURE'.  BUT for our thread today, let's reference this as a metaphorical phrase for CAREFULLY EXAMINING SUBTLE CLUES TO PREDICT [OR at least PREEMPT] FUTURE developments.  BUT alas, a huge sizable chunk of us do miss out READING THE TEA LEAVES.  And to me, this is a huge miss because this hovers almost all facets of our daily lives💥💥💥

Frankly, READING THE TEA LEAVES is NO rocket science.  You DON'T even need to enroll even in a 101 online course.  Instead, this entails quite a list of little-little attributes and deeply embedded behaviors:

LIKE having that eye for detail, not missing a bit

LIKE reinforcing awareness of the world around you

LIKE practising focused reflection of things going on

For one's self-discovery, it behooves that we know fully well WHAT are those stuff that naturally draws you to, e.g. your dreams way back your childhood, the skills you enjoy using, OR even areas WHERE you feel a strong bond.  And then, piggy-back with mindful reflections LIKE asking yourself open-ended questions LIKE WHAT activities make me feel 'most alive'?  OR WHAT issues OR advocacies I am passionate💚💛💜

To reinforce your awareness of the environment enveloping you, observation is key BUT we are counselled to NEVER pass judgment.  Instead of immediately criticizing OR even praising, take your time to be incisive in observing subtle gestures, habits and communication styles.  WHEN do we READ TEA LEAVES?

WHEN in 'discovery mode', you need to understand a situation 

WHEN you want to explore establishing connection 

WHEN there's a potential disconnect you want to pre-empt

WHEN there's a brewing conflict that may turn from bad to worse

WHEN you're transitioning into a new community or company

Our takeaway:  Much as I learned the ropes to READ THE TEA LEAVES much later, I have to admit that READING THE TEA LEAVES helped me transition into new organizations as seamless as it can be.  And WHEN I got embroiled with 'hard ball' commercial negotiations, it was a huge help for me to remain incisive with the intangibles because WHEN gloves are OUT and fists are IN, it's nothing less than those no-holds-barred make-or-break situations.  YES dude, READING THE TEA LEAVES will be a huge help, promise😀😀😀

That Gap Between Our Potentials Versus Results

 

Supposedly, TRANSLATING OUR POTENTIALS INTO RESULTS should NOT be a talking point at all.  BUT the truth is, this is a topic overlooked more often than we thought.  WHY?  Plain and simple reason is that it's very rare for people to initiate a POST-MORTEM to assess the actual results vis-a-vis the potentials way before the results came about.  Problem is, it's our human nature to simply shrug off our shoulders and move to the next pit stop💚💛💜

My take here is that that's the 'GAP OF THE GAP'!  Frankly, missing out to initiate a POST-MORTEM is inexcusable.  And WHILE this is open to conjecture, let's think about it.  IF we're quite consistent enough in initiating a POST-MORTEM, that will go a long way to improve our future performance [even if it's another unique endeavor].  Frustratingly, I DON'T see a solid chunk of buy-in for POST-MORTEMs except in organizations WHERE this is a MUST-DO✅✅✅

The BIG MISS here are the UPSIDEs of POST MORTEMS.  In fact, enhancing one's capability is something that should be part of our 'continuous improvement' mindset.  Let's rattle off the most obvious reasons WHY we need POST-MORTEMs:

• To RIGHT THE WRONGS [obviously]
• To FINE-TUNE [even the correct actions taken]
• To REINFORCE the gains of previous successes
• To INSTILL the 'continuous improvement' mindset

WHAT IF we simply disavow POST-MORTEMS?  True that WON'T burn the house down BUT in the long run, we will be missing on the following:

THAT proactiveness to self-improve regardless if you did things correctly OR wrongly

THAT mindset to constantly self-improve

THAT discipline NOT to accept the status quo [UNLESS that's the only viable option left]

THAT window of opportunity to improve because that surfaces as a low hanging fruit for our easy picking after our completion of an endeavor😀😀😀

Our takeaway:  Let's take a step back as regards the most common reason POST-MORTEMS are NOT part of our regimen.  YES sireeeee, there is that prevailing school of thought that POST-MORTEMS are a waste of time and effort [based on the lame reasoning that there are more urgent and pressing stuff to be prioritized].  BUT dude, you gotta 'throw away' this mindset out the window because your responsibilities on your shoulder more than justifies for you to carry on with those PROACTIVE SELF-CHECKS with the end view to reduce the GAP BETWEEN OUR POTENTIALS VERSUS RESULTS, dude!!!

Life Is Never Cut And Dry

 

WHO says OR claims that LIFE IS CUT AND DRY! No Senor, nunca, never it was.  Truth is, life is so unpredictable, WHICH means, more often than NOT, it can be full of surprises, both good OR bad.  Without breaching confidentiality, first hand, I did bear witness to personal circumstances WHERE everything was shiny and dandy for a particular family NOT until something unpredictable hit them,triggering their direction towards skidding, no thanks to that unabated downturn.  On a different situation, I've known someone and his family WHO have been trying to let both ends meet until earlier this year, they surprised me by inviting me to their newly acquired home📗📙📘

Most common of recurring narratives revolve around health and finances.  Today, someone is so physically fit NOT until one day, we'd hear the sad news that that person is going through challenges in his health.  Another narrative is one WHO would have been struggling financially through the years BUT things become sadder WHEN I'd hear that that person's financial state has taken a serious downturn, from a bad to a worse situation.  At the workplace, I've known numerous workers so capable, skilled and professional enough to be promoted in organizations only to hear one day that he's scouring through the job market because he was part of company-wide layoffs💥💥💥

If we veer into relationships, it's an entirely different solar system, very much having its own universe.  Let's face it.  People come and go in our lives.  You might have a close partner OR spouse today BUT one day, either partner/spouse will decide to move away OR simply end a relationship.  And WHAT's the aftermath?  Obviously, gloom and uncertainty creeps in, and that's besides transitioning from normalcy to unpredictability.  And when natural disasters hit us hard, it could be a triple-whammy, causing destruction to properties and even not sparing precious lives😌😌😌

Two days back, I just drove for 12 hours and thankfully, nothing untoward and unpredictable hit my long drive along with my family.  Otherwise, it scares me much to think of thos tragic stories of families driving for a holiday only to end up with tragic accidents during such holidays.   SO HOW do we handle unpredictabilities?  As there is no DIY solution in handling or containing the impact caused by life's unpredictability, I DON'T get tired preaching the best practice being cascaded over and over again that let's endeavor to CONTROL WHAT WE CAN CONTROL.  Like, for natural disasters, we are reminded to keep and maintain a handy emergency bag containing the most basic emergency kits and that includes emergency flashlights, crackers and bottled water.  And that emergency bag needs to be refreshed every quarter or so [to ensure that the consummables remain good enough just in case something unfortunate hits us hard]❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  Overall, life is unpredictable and there's just NO way to know WHAT the future holds for us.   However, it is simply very essential for us to be quickly adaptable and flexible to cope with the unexpected turns [sometimes, they are 'downturns'] and twists in our life, giving us that 'wiggle room' to move forward [and NOT get stalled OR stuck].  Equally important, by having a manageable handle of our daily lives [even in the midsts of life's challenges], that should help us to continue LIVING IN THE PRESENT.  Horror stories I did bear witness were 'horrorific' enough BUT which makes me hesitate to share because of the dire consequences and outcomes arising from those unpredicted turns and twists.  At the end of the day, much as we continue to be nursing expectations, let us inject some "WHAT IF" assumptions to reinforce our Plan A, Plan B and even a Plan C [because LIFE IS NEVER CUT & DRY]😡😡😡

Are You Treading Above Water?

 

Even If You're Not Good Enough, Are You Treading Above Water?  BUT before we get bogged down with this exchange of 2-cents, with the handful of challenges you seem to be facing at hand, are you determined to stay afloat?  BUT if you have that very commendable mindset, are you confident enough that EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT good enough, you can still end up TREADING ABOVE WATER???

Psychologists in the medical field did recent studies WHEREIN, after understanding the plight of the subjects of the research [WHO were patients with critical illnesses], they were asked:  ARE YOU TREADING ABOVE WATER?  Apparently, many of them got hurt [or worse, offended] because to them, TREADING ABOVE WATER implied that they are NOT exerting enough in their situation and this is where the disconnect arises❎❎❎

To those patients, hearing TREADING ABOVE WATER took it NOT as an encouragement or complementary of their earnest efforts BUT the experts clarified that their intent was to point out just HOW much effort could seem pointless BUT in fact kept them from extricating themselves from their current plight.  Drawing parallelisms to my own plights in the past, little did I realize before that TREADING THE WATER would define much of my own life year-on-year☝☝☝

The thing is, although TREADING ABOVE WATER means that one's head is indeed above water, taking that approach can be likened to like a 'grab bag of negativity'.  This reminds me of that solitary struggle I went through many years back.  Through those years WHEN I hit rock bottom, I DIDN'T realize that WHEN you're TREADING ABOVE WATER, you're left with NOT even a minute to think if you're good enough💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  It's NOT even about WHETHER one is good OR not good enough, our everyday life does NOT deserve to have us simply treading above water.  WHAT IF it becomes 'high tide'?  WHAT IF a tsunami/tidal wave comes rushing?  WHAT IF a huge vessel passes by your rickety single-seater boat?  WHAT IF something cataclysmic hits you WHEN you are in the midst of life's challenges?  Point is, WHY should we aim that we be just TREADING ABOVE WATER?  WHY can't we be a full-body way above the waters?  For obvious reasons, we need more than just enough buffer WHEN things turn awry.  WHY go for hair-line gaps between surviving OR hitting that cul de sac?  EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH, ARE YOU JUST TREADING ABOVE WATER, dude😡😡😡

Hope For The Best, Expect For The Worst!

 

HOPE FOR THE BEST, EXPECT FOR THE WORST! And in real life, expect that REALITY WILL LAND SOMEWHERE IN THE MIDDLE.  Rightfully, this is NOT a discussion point at all BUT HOW often do we continue to be brimming with optimism, still expecting a better than good outcome, all because we're hoping for the best?  YES I do hear you, it seems our thread for today sounds kind of boring?  Of course, because we've heard this phrase OR a version of it most likely countless times.  YES, because it is one of the most recognized and adapted quotes in fact📗📙📘

BUT to be frank about it, it's just NOT good advice though.  And to be brutally frank, me thinks that at least half of it is NOT good advice.  And WHEN one day I did realize the very negative impact on my mindset, I told myself [deep within] to avoid ever let my lips utter it again.  Oh yes, kind of telling myself that my lips are sealed, ouch.  BUT to be honest, I DON'T have an aversion to every bit in that phrase❎❎❎

In fact, I wholeheartedly believe in it as I am a born optimist [as I believe in the power of HOPE so much to a point that that optimism has constantly kept me inspired.  BUT let's take a reality check.  Having HOPE itself is NOT always easy.  It's NOT even served on a platter for one's taking.  Today, we are bombarded with news and images of wars, violence, crime, oh yes, even that dreaded terrorism.  And lately, to paint a murkier picture of things, severe economic hardships [especially in Africa] and the endless natural disasters that have become the 'breaking news' almost everywhere💥💥💥

Much as we can keep talking BUT everything will end up with our mindset, a not so obvious fact here is that a thriving mindset acknowledges the 'WORST' much as it hopes for the 'BEST'.  We DON'T need to look farther than our very own.  A person WHO sees in him as a 'work-in-progress' will likely evolve and grow, inching its way towards one's cherished HOPE.  And studies show that they present that personal sense of empowerment💚💛💜

Our takeaway:  If there's one thing I have always embraced, it is the fact that our mind is a damn powerful tool.  Somehow, that natural tendency of an untrained mind, entrenched in survival, can flip either way BUT in real life, even the experts confirm that it will tilt more likely towards negative experiences than on positive ones.  YES, they coined it as NEGATIVITY BIAS.  And I have to admit, I have NOT been immune to that bias.  Our fix?  Back to our very mindset, dude.  Much as our spiels at home, at work and even at competitions all revolve around optimism, YES, we can continue those traditional rah-rah-rahs BUT we need to prepare for a Plan B WHEN Plan A falls off OR even a Plan C WHEN Plan B goes down the drain as well, ouch😡😡😡

Are You A Dime A Dozen?

 

ARE YOU A DIME A DOZEN?  Oh Oh, BTW, that question is NOT meant to be confrontational OR aggressive.  It's just a casual question that's worth relating to our everyday lives.  If at all, blame it on me for following the NBA's goings-on as 'star' players are angling for ultra huge contracts each time there is that slightest opportunity to extend OR renew [even a live, existing contract].  The question is, is this OR that person A DIME A DOZEN???

BEEN THERE, HAD THAT.  In one of my previous hirings in India, I really invested my time going through the candidates and finally, I zeroed-in on the candidate I'd like to onboard.  And then the J.O. [Job Offer] phase kicked in.  And NOT to bad-mouth Indians, BUT it's common practice there for them to share with you records of every penny they're receiving and that includes the list of employee perks and benefits.  And before you could heave a sigh of relief, before I knew it, I would reach that iteration stage WHEREIN I would run the numbers, doing a balancing act to ensure I can lure my shortlisted candidate without 'breaking the bank', else I'll go through the 'eye of the CFO's needle', ouch😗😗😗

Now, back to the very core of our thread.  Are you a DIME A DOZEN?  Nothing wrong though about it BUT frankly, if we want to stand out from that mamooth crowd out there, absolutely we CAN'T etch our mark by just being a DIME A DOZEN.  In the rough and tumble world of business and commerce, it all boils down to one's COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE.  Simply put, WHAT is it can you offer that would significantly and materially differentiate one from competition?  And it's NO different in our personal lives, dude💥💥💥

Please DON'T get me wrong but this DIME A DOZEN thing sprouts as early as our school days way back.  Every school year, with new teachers, do we expect them to have a good impression of our own selves within the first few weeks of the academic term?  Of course, down the road, this and that teacher will remember your name, BUT probably that's inspite the fact that you or me myself are a DIME A DOZEN, which DOESN'T augur well if our ultimate goal is to etch our mark to the stakeholders, to the bosses, to the mentors.  I might sound like a broken vinyl record BUT as the old cliche goes, IF YOU AIM FOR THE SKY, IF YOU FAIL, YOU'LL FALL ON THE TREETOP.  IF YOU FAIL, YOU'LL FALL ON THE GROUND, ouch😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Let's NOT hold the punches.  Wharever endeavor we do get engaged, let's give it all, pour it out.  While at the end of the day, we may have shortfalls in our actual performances versus WHAT we envisioned, bottomline is, we should be proud enough of ourselves if we have given every endeavor our best shot, even WHEN at times we seem to be running against the tide, WHEN the cards seem stacked against our favor.  So, do we want to remain as a DIME A DOZEN, dude???

Those TOUGH-AS-HECK assignments?

 

Anyone here WHO would disagree that we are truly super-blessed for having faced the worst ever challenges in life?  Compare that to someone, born with a silver spoon on his mouth, living life akin to the scions of business moguls?  How have we fared in our TOUGH-AS-HECK assignments?  WHETHER your record in tackling those challenges is either dismal OR spotty at best, take solace with the fact that it makes you more honed and hardened📗📙📘

Years back, I was confiding with a close friend the challenges I had at hand and he retorted "YOU HAVE MORE THAN IS REQUIRED'!@#$% and instantly, that resonated with me.  NOT only did he emphatically acknowledge WHAT I was dealing with BUT he also reminded me that I had WHAT it takes and it took to face those challenges then.  Alas, like most of us, I've got quite a bit of experience overcoming adversity💚💛💜

Fact is, that selfless counsel from my friend made me remember my own strength and that new found resilience WHICH I admit we sometimes forget in the midst of our difficult times.  WHICH reminds me of this quotable quote I once stumbled across:  "CIRCUMSTANCES DON'T DEFINE YOU, THEY REVEAL YOU".  Verily true, challenges are a normal part of our life.  Sadly, it seems easy for us to forget that facing difficulties directly can help us grow and gain wisdom even though it can be hard😡😡😡

And WHILE I DON'T believe that we have to OR that we deserve to suffer OR struggle for us to evolve, one of the best things we can do WHEN dealing with adversity is to find the 'GOLD' in the situation as much as possible.  The recurring question staring at us is this:  WHAT DO WE DO WHEN FACING CHALLENGES?  Here's my 2-cents:  REMIND YOURSELF OF ALL YOU'VE DONE, EXPERIENCED, and OVERCOME!!!

Our takeaway:  Even though we are all unique and our own stories are different, we have all encountered numerous challenges, triumphs and personal growth throughout our lives.  Comparing myself WHEN I just graduated from university versus NOW, I'll readily admit that it's like comparing the sky and the ground.  And by acknowledging and embracing this fact, we can create an even deeper and more authentic sense of self-confidence down the road,  C'mon dude, let's roll up our sleeves for those TOUGH-AS-HECK challenges in life✅✅✅

Is Skepticism Good OR Bad?

 

Is SKEPTICISMGood OR Bad?  From our old school of thought, you and me will be dissuaded by our mentors and coaches to be skeptical.  Sadly, WHAT I've observed from my limited vantage point is that SKEPTICISM seems to carry that stigma of negativism, defeatism, pessimism, that gloomy outlook that leads one to hopelessness.  Alas, the handful of upsides of SKEPTICISM seem to have been grossly overlooked [OR should I say, ignored]💚💛💜

To a fault, with social media lording it all over us, the stark reality is that misinformation will always persist.  Sometime in the past, in an exchange of views with our small coterie of colleagues, WHEN SKEPTICISM became the main thread, someone blurted out, like 'HOW CAN I BE A GOOD SKEPTIC?'  Immediately, I thought that question was spot on, hitting the nail right on its nail.  And to start the ball rolling, I asked everyone?  As we know live and breath with tons and tons of information, are all those information trustworthy enough???

From a neutral ground, I take it that SKEPTICISM may really be necessary and beneficial in the context WHERE there is a valid concern about potential misinformation, such as social media.  Having said this, social media SKEPTICISM still may NOT always lead to pristine outcomes.  WHILE being SKEPTICAL towards social media misinformation could be a sign of having digital media literacy, people can vastly overestimate the prevalence of social media misinformation and be SKEPTICAL of information that is in fact true.  SKEPTICISM may also be cast through an identity lens and used for personal ends❌❌❌

Mapping SKEPTICISM with CYNICISM should help us and lead us to a clearer picture that, WHEN we compare things apples-to-apples, being SKEPTICAL is way too good to be true versus CYNICISM.  That huge divide should ease things up, for us to embrace the very obvious reasoning as to WHY SKEPTICISM can still be on the good side as long as good faith is manifested therein😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Despite the UPSIDES arising from SKEPTICISM, I'll counsel that we be careful and cautious to ensure that that SKEPTICISM does NOT evolve into a habit formation for it to be embedded within one's persona because, knock on wood, IF that evolves farther, it is NOT far fetched to speculate that, at some point, that SKEPTICISM will likely turn its ugly head leading towards CYNICISM.  Much as there are UPSIDEs to be SKEPTICAL, let us manifest it in good faith dude😋😋😋

That 2-minute Rule

 

That 2-minute Rule To Counter Procrastination is NO rocket science.  It's NOT even like an operational RUNBOOK where we need to follow things step-by-step.  Problem is, many of us are NOT aware [and IF they're aware, they are NOT conscious enough] probably at least 80% of tasks we need to take action will NOT take donkey weeks, months OR years [UNLESS you've got a major project like a house renovation] OR you're planning for a full-blown family holiday in Europe OR the Americas.  Problem is, many of us were reared and mentored with that framed old school approach, WHERE everything is in serial mode, just like those train locomotives WHERE the engine car is in front of the caboose☝☝☝

From pre-school [ooops, we used to call it Kindergarten School], we were taught to literally follow instructions down to a 'T', NO shortcuts, NO cutting corners, only 'sure cuts'.  You misstep OR breach one minute thing, you will be 'dealt accordingly', a euphemism WHICH means NO less than a punishment.  The only variable is the level of punishment!!!

Fast-forward once we plunged into the workplace, it's like a 180-degree turnaround WHERE everything needs to be executed AS PER RUNBOOK.  We were then introduced into SLA's WHICH, in the contact/call center world, just to rattle off a few, ASA [Average Speed of Answer], AHT [Average Handling Time], FCR [First Call Resolution] and of course we were introduced into that 80-20 Rule WHICH literally requires operators [a.k.a. customer service agent] to pick up and answer 80% of inbound calls within 20 seconds, indeed a tough nut to crack, think about it💥💥💥

Back to our lives, the 2-minute RULE should NOT be a hard-sell at all.  Household chores, we can always find a reason [a.k.a. excuses and alibis] that someone takes charge of it.  BUT once we get into the workplace, you've got to do WHAT you need to do.  WHEN I was an entry-level team member @SHELL, to find 50 new emails in my inbox at start of day was like a headline-grabbing thing to talk about.  Today, having a thousand new emails at SOD [start of day] is NOT worth a talking point.  BTW, I run monthly mail cleanups and YET to date, I still got 16,000+ unread mails.  You might confront me if I am ever 'walking the talk' with regard the 2-minute rule.  Without feeling slighted, I'll proudly proclaim with a LOUD YES that everyday [both at work and off work], I do go by that 2-minute rule😁😁😁

Our takeaway:  This may sound petty BUT let's face it, if only we consider those low-hanging fruits WHEN prioritizing, I'm afraid we will reach an overwhelming point WHERE we are so buried deep by all tasks and even priorities that keep sliding and skidding.  And by then, I'm NOT optimistic how one, with little effort, can do a catch-up of at least cleaning up 80% of WHAT's overdue.  Dude, we should not hard-sell this 2-minute rule, right???

Sometimes, The RIGHT PATH Is Not The EASY PATH

 

Sometimes, The RIGHT PATH Is Not The EASY PATH.  BUT NOT to defend those WHO opted for the EASY PATH and fail, BUT the real-life truth is that to everyone of us, that EASY PATH is just too alluring, too tempting to ignore or simply bypass in our considerations for the most obvious reasons.  Least efforts to be exerted.  Shortest time to achieve.  And often times, they have the lowest risks [simply because almost everyone have taken that path and have succeeded].  Fair enough.  At the workplace, entry-level employees these days seem to think their career paths should be laid out like a blueprint.  Graduated with a university degree.  Get the right job.  And then, one thing will follow another until they reach their goal.  BUT for the longest time, I always believed that there is NO such thing as an 'ideal path'.  That blueprint for success is personal to each person as you're the only one WHO can discover your passions and talents by using your intuition and by being curious and reflective enough💚💛💜

BUT here's the thing.  If we can seriously consider to add a few key role models to inspire your own blueprint, your path will likely lead you NOT just to a good career BUT even to a good life.  NOTE that the adjective 'good' has multiple relative definitions.  WHAT is good for me may not be at par to your level of 'goodness'.  True, it is easy to focus on significant milestones likes salaries and promotions as benchmarks for career success and progress BUT there are other ways to mark the richness and prosperity of a career💧💧💧

Without being defensive, if and WHEN we do consider taking another path that's different from most, if not all, the potential discouragement can creep in so quick and fast, and before you know it, that grows [OR worsens] and ends up feeding into your own doubts.  Everyone else seems to be experiencing success BUT you have either NOT had success yet OR repeatedly kept running into failures.  And before you know it, that can make you want to give up your current path and take another one instead [even if you really loved WHAT you were doing before.  After all, you want success too, right?  And if you keep running into failure, you WON'T feel that there is much of a reason to continue.  Quite multiple times in the past, it was inevitable for me to look around people I know up close and start comparing as to WHY they seem to have the 'support structures' in the path they were taking WHEREAS I was forlorn and desolate😡😡😡

During those 'tougher than tough' times,  I ended up with multiple unanswered questions.  WHERE was my success leading me to?  WAS I really chasing the right goals for me?  WAS I doing anything correctly, if at all?  Those were the level of doubts hovering all over me then.  NOT until I reached that realization that for some people, they will have those fortunate events happening much in their favor as they continued to live their lives.  WHEREAS others would have run-ins with failure itself more often than they would like.  In the end, regardless of WHAT was going on, I knew I took the RIGHT PATH, even if more often, they were NOT the easy paths💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  Regardless as to WHICH path you will eventually take, it will be beneficial if you realize that you've worked hard and made those tough choices in order to get there and once you reach it, you will finally be able to say [and beat your chest] that you did achieve that success, proving that you took the RIGHT PATH EVEN IF it was NOT the EASY PATH😗😗😗