The 'TUSH PUSH' In Life!

 

That 'brotherly love' in football popularly coined as 'TUSH PUSH' was popularized by the Phiadelphia Eagles which is a variation of the traditional quarterback sneak.  BUT NOT to worry, we WON'T get deep into football because I am more 'outside looking in' by then.  Instead, the insight I'm endeavoring to draw here is the rationale behind strengthening one's 'TUSH PUSH' , that ability to stand on your very own feet WITHOUT losing that balance💥💥💥

There's that thing.  One can have all the possible strengths in life BUT everything will go for naught UNLESS and UNTIL he stands his ground especially in the midst of those storms in life, those hurricanes and tornados that would spare no one and nothing to crumble down.  Looking at things from a balanced perspective, everyone of us can boast [and even brag] of the tons of strength we have.  Some may even point to his very foundations, much sturdier than the most concrete reinforcements in life✅✅✅

I've seen and known folks with seemingly super sturdy foundations in life, with all its robust support structure reinforcing it 360 degrees.  NOT UNTIL one day he gets hit with furious and turbulent weather, and much to my shocking surprise, that person's cookie jar suddenly crumbles down📌📌📌

BTW, this 'TUSH PUSH' insight is NOT limited to our physical strength in life.  This goes way beyond our character and values.  How both our feet are firmly on the ground even in our character and values would speak volumes about us.  And if we replicate this 'TUSH PUSH' insight in a workplace, indeed it will work wonders and I'm even tempted to prematurely exclaim, it's 'freaking exciting'!!!

Our takeaway:  WHAT this tells us all is that, much as we go through that lifelong learning process and even become equipped and ready to face the world by the time we leave our school's portals, everything may seem like a huge hollowed cookie WHO seemed so grandiose only to crumble down in the midst of those acid tests in life.  Frank question for you dude.  HOW's your 'TUSH PUSH' in life?  Are both your feet standing with firmer ground bolstered by your 'TUSH PUSH'😡😡😡

When A 'SNAP OF A FINGER' Becomes Impactful

 

Can a 'SNAP OF A FINGER' be impactful?  YES YES yowww, dude.  Things can change in a moment.  WHAT seems out of reach today may soon arrive in your life effortlessly.  Oooops, hold on, before we start dreaming to hit the LOTTO jackpot, ouch.  Seriously, barring those once-in-a-lifetime streak of luck in life, sometimes, support can come even from unexpected sources and new opportunities can open doors we DIDN'T know were there at all💦💦💦

And WHEN KINDNESS gets into the equation, there's NO such thing as small acts of KINDNESS.  That 'SMALL' kindness you manifested for the deprived folks can be something 'BIGTIME' for them, especially if it alleviates [even in the short-term] their basic needs for food and shelter.  During that dreaded Covid-19 Pandemic, the soft side of mankind was manifested many times across countries and cultures.  We witnessed middle class folks hosting/initiating small-scale 'food pantries' during the pandemic lockdown WHEN there was hardly any food especially for the poor and destitute.  BUT even post-pandemic, that should NOT taper off because even as we speak, many more unfortunate souls continue to struggle [although to a fault, it's their fault and shortfall]💥💥💥

NOT so often, we would hear someone's unexpected generosity for a few suddenly spreading its benefits across its community.  And NOT to be defensive for our own human shortfalls, small tidbits of positive narratives can be more than just uplifting because many times, roll it over, these positivities are effortlessly contagious across.  I remember watching one Youtube shared video where a single-parent mom goes to the Costco supermarket just to buy her family's MOST BASIC needs BUT WHEN the cashier's cash register rattled off, the groceries totaled more than WHAT was in her small wallet.  Here comes the guy queued right behind her, offering to take on the tab [and the single-parent mom cried and hugged the good samaritan]!!!

WHILE this poster is 'spot on' that our LIFE WON'T CHANGE OVERNIGHT, there are one too many hapless souls WHO live on a day-by-day basis, WHERE even as they live life at its very fringes, it's a constant struggle for daily survival.   And WHEN a good samaritan pitches in, the question is:  HOW much did his one-off monetary help impact his financials and cash flow?  LIKELY, it DIDN'T even cause a dent, NOT AT ALL😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  Let's look around our global village.  WHILE there are parent-less and homeless children struggling day-to-day, in fist world countries, there are couples WHO have been dreaming and hungering to become foster parents, if only to make their life complete.  And there are zillion heartwarming narratives of a homeless child finding his foster family WHO will be there for his future.  Indeed, WHILE a SNAP OF A FINGER just seems to be a SNAP, sometimes it becomes impactful.  God bless the good samaritans💚💛💜

What 'HIGH PRICE' Are We Paying Off [For All Those Distractions]?

 

PRICES are going up everywhere, not to mention the Israel-Iran War triggering the $$$$ price per oil barrel.  BUT there's another PRICE and that's the PRICE we need to involuntarily pay for all the DISTRACTIONS we're facing these days, NOT our fault BTW.  BUT many times, we're NOT just another accomplice BUT at times we could be LIKE the most guilty party.  LIKE WHEN you unlock your smartphone to check on notifications and an hour later, you realized you really CAN'T remember WHY you picked it up in the first place??? NO, if at all, you're NOT the only guilty party because it happens to everyone [and I'm one of the guilty parties as well]💚💛💜

NOT surprising and definitely NOT worth to be a narrative anymore WHEN we feel like our days seem to have vanished between notifications, open tabs and even half-finished tasks.  For those WHO suspect, even if they CAN'T explain it, that something is OFF with the frantic pace of life that our societies seemed to have normalized.  Instead, WHAT's kind of bothersome is that HIGH COSTs of DISTRACTIONS💥💥💥

No need for us to look farther.  Our friend, Mr ChatGPT says that, statistically, DISTRACTIONS total a whopping $650 bn annually in the United States alone.  BTW, the quantified DISTRACTIONS here are business-related.  It does NOT encompass your own DISTRACTIONs at home, LIKE a family member damaged the Sony Bravia LCD OR the split-type aircon malfunctioned OR you were driving WHILE texting and driving until you side-swept another vehicle, LIKE your child was reminding you that today is the deadline for the school payment tuition [else he will NOT be allowed in the exams & indeed that cost him bigtime]!!!

In a nutshell, DISTRACTIONS are NOT just impacting business enterprises BUT also, there are [unpublished and unquantified] costs even to our daily life.  Let's face it, some DISTRACTIONS are way beyond our control [and let's leave it at that], LIKE WHEN your next door neighbor is playing his audio system with the maximum decibels.  BUT there are tons of DISTRACTIONS WHERE we have very much control and influence.  LIKE always holding on to our smartphone except WHEN you're taking the shower.  LIKE WHEN your partner/spouse is talking to you on something serious BUT your mind [and your ears, in fact] are somewhere else and the concern raised was urgent and critical😡😡😡

Our takeaway:  WHEN DISTRACTIONS happen, we would see people shrugging off their shoulders AS IF those DISTRACTIONS are outliers and one-off!@#$%? NOT until, knock on wood, a certain DISTRACTION causes serious consequences OR damage on either something OR situation, LIKE a worker getting fired from the job because of recurring mistakes and he hit the 3-strike rule.  That's the worst part, WHEN DISTRACTIONS get embedded within you UNTIL it becomes part of your behavior and self-displine, ouch😡😡😡

Ambition Cuts Both Ways

 

AMBITION CUTS BOTH WAYS.  From our childhood till now even as we speak, everyone advocates and pushes for us to drive AMBITIONS [and I am one of them no less].  BUT alas, not to douse cold water on our motivated approaches towards our AMBITIONS, sometimes we would hear discouraging narratives WHERE someone got stuck up in life all because of AMBITION.  Heard of someone WHO, from his childhood, with all the guidance and encouragement from one's parents, was so glued to become a doctor, WHATEVER it takes, WHATEVER happens.  UNTIL he hits a wall OR an immovable force and yet, we will admire that person's singularly obsessive goal to become a doctor in his life, again, WHATEVER it takes📗📙📘

Sadly, WHEN we become so obsessed with a goal to a point WHERE there's nothing else you want to achieve except that goal, that could be the best motivation ever.  BUT WHAT IF you hit a wall that just CAN'T be hurdled?  Sadly, I have seen people so focused with that AMBITION to the extent that he will literally wait till that wall crumbles OR collapses.  BUT think about it, WHAT's the probability of that wall crumbling OR collapsing😡😡😡

This sampling may seem to be an outlier BUT frankly, I did witness these kind of narrative multiple times, making these outliers as seemingly less like an outlier.  WHAT's pitiful [if NOT despicable] is that I did witness well-meaning people patiently stretching their perseverance for the sake of that AMBITION which is a stretch.  It's like hearing all I want in life is this goal OR bust.  WHERE does pragmatism come in?  As we often hear, we can be overly ambitious but NOT to a point WHERE our obsession becomes like those 'misguided missiles' coming from Iran intended to Israel [or vice versa].  Point is, pragmatism must come into play💙💚💛

In a world we live WHERE the word 'hustle' has become the mantra for quite many of us [and that included me in the NOT so distant past], individual goals and dreams often take precedence over a person's well-being.  AMBITION has often been heralded as a quintessential ingredient for success.  This burning desire for achievements has been the wind in the sail of voyagers and dreamers alike💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  NOT to douse cold water on our well-meaning AMBITIONS in life, there are one too many narratives WHEREIN because of our darn focus on our AMBITIONS, it led quite some of us to burnout and worst, even health-related issues, all because of our focus on our AMBITIONS.  And to add salt to those 'open wounds', heard of relationships weakening OR crumbled because either of the partner/spouse was so focused on that AMBITION.  Dude, AMBITION CUTS BOTH WAYS.  BALANCING ACT dude❗❗❗

Clarity Helps [A LOT]!

 

One oh-so boring topic very rarely discoursed, if at all, is CLARITY.  For many of us, CLARITY is just one of the one too many moving parts that is NOT worth talking about because the pervasive misconception is that CLARITY is and will never be a needle-mover or even a game-changer.  BUT the undeniable fact is that it really is a needle-mover and a game-changer.  We can go on and on with iterations of all possible scenarios and I'll pose this simple question:  IF THINGS ARE LESS CLEAR ENOUGH, WILL YOU STILL ACHIEVE THE SAME RESULT💚💛💜

NOT to gloss over OR hype CLARITY, we can rattle one setting after another and I can tell you right straight to your face that without CLARITY, goals may NOT materialize, plans may NOT come into fruition, initiatives may NOT succeed, relationships may fumble and eventually flounder and fail, business ventures may NOT achieve the pre-set targets, and yes, even one's health may fail with no CLARITY!!!

I rattled all these scenarios because I was like seated at the front seat WHEN I did bear witness to all these floundering, foul ups and failures in fact.  At work and in business, this is an ingredient that should be defined crystal-clear up front.  If there is no clear alignment from amongst the stakeholders and down the line of the work force, a potential disconnect will continue to haunt us down the road.  Relationships can be dissected at a unique dimension because generally, we feel there is enough CLARITY between couples and partners.  BUT NO dude, as it has been proven time and again, one can woo and court his/her eventual partner and spouse in life BUT they WONT really get to know each other deep enough way beyond the surface NOT until they live under one roof and be constantly together most of the time💥💥💥

Common question here:  Can we push that need for CLARITY at the backburner and tackle it down the road.  Obviously we can always say, YES by all means BUT that is a highly risky approach to take.  It's very akin to taking on a vehicle, steering it forward BUT there is NO clarity with your end-point destination and even the pit-stops were NOT even pre-determined.  HOW can you finalize your execution plan, including provisioning and budgeting time and all the resources needed?  WHAT IF you tackle CLARITY on the fly?  YES dude, you can BUT it could be a case of a TOO LITTLE TOO LATE📙📘📗

Our takeaway:  Let us NOT gloss over and give little value to the not-so-obvious need for CLARITY in every pursuit we get engaged in life even if it's NOT perceptible on the surface.  Giving lip service to the need for CLARITY is even one of the root causes of gaps that leads to arguments before it worsens as full-blown conflict.  If there something that scares me, it is that post-mortem finger-pointing, passing the blame and fault for fiascos and failures.  YES dude, CLARITY HELPs [and it helps a lot]😗😗😗

Those Noises In Life

 

Those NOISES IN LIFE, from where are they coming from?  Tough question.  Any guesses?  YES dude, those NOISES IN LIFE do come from everywhere and BTW, one of its very sources are from within us, our own selves either WHEN we are so self-conflicted OR even maybe simply overthinking.  Think about it, if the decibels of those NOISES outside our own selves are obviously way beyond manageable, those NOISES from within us are WHAT we can manage and even control💜💛💚

YES, it's a fact that some of us do face those sensory processing challenges and NOT surprisingly, those challenges can create that impact in our everyday life.  WHETHER we take things literally OR figuratively, our own sensitivity to NOISE can make things hard for us to filter out those unimportant ones versus the valid and legitimate ones.  Imagine stepping into a room with 20 of your friends and WHEN you toss an idea, expect 20 versions of opinions💥💥💥

I heard this sage advice many times from just one too many sources but it tells us that we need to optimize our brain for us to be success-driven, we are counselled to reduce excessive and negative NOISE.  BUT HOW?  Let's step back a bit.  Researches say that on average, our brain receives 11 million bits of information per second from the environment.  Now, hold your breath.  Do we know WHAT's our capacity to process?  Yes dude, DON'T fall off from your seat because we can only process 40 bits of information per second😡😡😡

SO HOW? Experts encourage us to train our brain to notice more of the POSITIVE NOISES around us.  And this could be a huge challenge for us [and it was too challenging for me in the past too] because this means we need to either ignore OR dismiss a huge chunk of unnecessary information a.k.a. NOISE NOT only those hovering around you BUT even those internal NOISES within us.  SO HOW?  Experts advise us to "BLOCK OUT" those NOISES as early as the point WHERE we perceive it NOT to be worth it!!!

Our takeaway:  Translating all counsellings into our layman's terms, allow me to share my 2-cents:

• RECOGNIZE NOISES as early as possible.  If you miss this out early on, this could be a HUGE MISS
• Some NOISES may NOT be necessary.  Like if there is a breaking news of an earthquake in a far flung province of Myanmar, would you like to retain the name of that province?  Unless you intend to pitch in and help the victims out there?
• Those HYPOTHETICALS, there are one too many of those "WHAT IFs" LIKE WHAT IF it rains, WHAT IF there is a typhoon and those WHAT IFs never end

Those NOISES IN LIFE, let's be more wary dude!!!

Go For A 'CLUTTER-Free' Life [Where Possible]

 

YES YES yowww, can we go for a CLUTTER-free life [as much as it may be feasible and possible]?  Unfortunately, more often than NOT, WHEN we hear DECLUTTER, often it is assumed to pertain OR refer to organizing and/OR getting rid of some belongings in our homes, and at times, it all starts from our bedroom, our desk, our closet. BUT no dude, DECLUTTERING is way beyond clearing through stuffs at home, personal items, kitchen stuff and everything at your homes.  Doing and infering to that literal interpretation can be huge miss we can be guilty of [WHICH can happen in good faith].  Verily frankly, DECLUTTERING starts from our own persona, from within, our internals, our mindset, our habits, our discipline and even our approach in life.  And if we rattle those off, combining it all can be as huge and as enormous as the Milky Way OR even the solar system💚💛💜

As the old cliche goes, a journey of a thousand steps starts with one small step.  So, can we self-reflect and ask ourselves some frank and inquisitive assessments:

• HOW do we live life?  Do you look around before you move?  Do you think of WHAT others might react [behind your back even it's NOT their business]?
• HOW genuine is your helping hand?  WHAT motivates you to extend a help?  Is it because you're affiliated in a non-profit OR church-affiliated organization?
• HOW's your self-discipline?  Before you crack the whip like a stern taskmaster, do you have double-standards between yourself and others?

BTW, please DON'T get me wrong.  I'm NOT trying to be EXTRA hard on our own selves.  Because again, DECLUTTERING is way beyond ourselves.  Let's assess our associations and affiliations.  Are you often in the company of people WHOSE interests [and even ethics and discipline] are NOT aligned with WHAT is prim and proper?  As that one-liner goes, TELL ME WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE, I'LL TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE.  Nope dude, I DON'T mean you should dissociate yourself from your circle of friends now because that's your choice BUT think about it before you get innocently drawn to an aggrupation OR circle of friends WHOSE interests [and even values] may be aligned with yours because at times, we DON'T mean to go astray BUT we still end up astray, sometimes out of our sheer innocence😌😌😌

Now, let's move to your goals and plans in life.  Are you having one too many pre-set goals in life such that your head sometimes spin out of sheer dizziness?  Probably, you're in a situation WHERE you're attempting to take things more than WHAT you can chew and digest.  Nothing wrong being overly ambitious [because I was there in the past, quite several times] BUT think about it, are your goals and plans one too many that's now akin to CLUTTER.  Think about it dude💥💥💥

Our takeaway:  NOT to meddle into your personal domain, take time to revisit the way you've been doing your decision-making in your personal life.  I did bear witness to folks WHO, before coming up with a decision, will consult his partner/spouse, his parents, his in-laws and sometimes even relatives and friends.  Rightfully, one is NOT breaking any laws for that kind of decision-making BUT that's a setting WHERE we would strongly encourage that you consider DECLUTTERING your decision-making process.  Fact is, the shortest distance between two points is a straight line [and NOT a hypothenuse].  YET, let's figure it out.  WHEN you have to consult 5 to 10 people before you come up with a personal decision, ISN'T that one too many to consider?  UNLESS it's a life-changing decision like getting married OR abandoning one's vocation as a priest and those outliers WHICH are few and far in between😡😡😡

'LET IT BE' In Life!

 

Nope sirrrrs, I'm NOT trying to relive and reminisce the Beatles' all-time hit LET IT BE.   HOW often do we want to control OR at least influence things?  Surely, that happens many times everday, whether it's at your home, your business OR even @workplace.  I'll be the first one to admit that although I am NO control-freak, many times I wish to had at least an influence on either/and or its progress.  BUT sometime in the past, I thought I've spent the better part of my life trying to get things in control [WHEN I CAN'T, ouch!].  BUT NOT to be defensive, many times, our tendency to control things emanates from something much deeper.  LIKE WHEN I was a kid, I want to play more and enjoy things.  LIKE WHEN I was in high school, I was looking forward to college.  LIKE WHEN I graduated, I wanted a plum job no less💧💧💧

And even for the most diehard fans of The Beatles, my frank question is, do OR did they really take the lyrics seriously, by heart?  Maybe yes for some BUT I doubt even among the plurality.  And I was guilty of this in the past as well.  LIKE WHEN I just CAN'T accept the fact WHEN I failed.  LIKE WHEN I blamed myself WHEN I didn't hurdle a job interview for a juicy corporate role I dreamt💚💛💜

LIKE WHEN you left no stone unturned in wooing the girl of your dreams and YET you were spurned again and again.  WHY CAN'T we LET THAT BE IT?  LIKE WHEN we're finally in a relationship but after perennial arguments that worsened as full-blown wars, WHEN your partner walks away, WHY CAN'T we LET THAT BE IT???

LIKE WHEN here you are, an aspiring and budding entrepreneur BUT your business ventures flops upside down, pushing your financials to the lowest point?  WILL you find another investor OR source out another loan WHEN all the results point that your strategy and execution just DOESN'T and DIDN'T fit to a 'T'.  WHY CAN'T you LET IT BE then❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  This may sound poetic BUT WHY CAN'T we LET LIFE FLOW akin to the waters finding its way from the mountains down to the springs, streams, creeks and rivers until it reaches the mouth towards the open seas?  And our stumbling blocks to LET THINGS BE?  That sense of entitlement WHICH makes us believe that something is ours, WHATEVER it takes.  WHY force ourselves on something we have proven that it just CAN'T be ours dude😡😡😡

I'll Tag This As 'LABYRINTHs Of LIFE'

 

Even as I grabbed this poster, allow me to tweak it as the LABYRINTHs OF LIFE.  WHY?  Because, as defined by Mr Webster and AI, it is a "complicated irregular network of passages" BUT I think life CAN'T be as simple as that.  We all live a life with multiple LABYRINTHs, so complicated to end up with networks of convoluted and entangled LABYRINTHs often leading us to a worst bedlam we least expect!@#$%?

And when do we find ourselves stucked OR stalled in those LABYRINTHs?  Many times we're right in the midst of it especially WHEN things are triggered by the ironies in life.  LIKE WHEN we stumble across quite nosey and probing folks WHO ironically will be the first to 'cry wolf' if your body language will be suspected as over-stretching your curiosity by prying across the fence?  LIKE WHEN you bear witness to an over-bearing person WHOSE presence pushes everyone to the background only to find out he is no less a hollowed version💥💥💥

As this poster goes, LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.  Not until a monkey wrench gets thrown upon you.  WHAT happens next may not be far different from bedlam.  YES, those ironies in life lead us to more LABYRINTHs than ever.  LIKE you thought someone so articulate is the right voice to heed and follow only to realize that that was no less than a hollowed spiel and worst, disinformation.  LIKE you thought someone is a legitimate authority weilding the credibility you thought as 'legit' enough❎❎❎

BTW, irony is no mere figure of speech.  It is a reality we bear witness almost on a day-to-day basis.  NOT to downplay the normal 'good faith' of being noisy and even sometimes over-bearing BUT from my vantage point, generally, WHEN we do engage and interact with the 'noisy' folks, we may have to be more discerning and accepting hook, line and sinker may NOT be appropriate at all.  Please DON'T get me wrong as there will be outliers, those folks WHO by their nature are 'noisy' enough BUT at times, even the most braggadocious can be a legitimate one.  Just need to be more discerning😒😒😒

Our takeaway:  Verily true, many of us are truly blessed to have the well--meaning friends, folks WHO you can seek refuge in times of turmoil BUT without encouraging you to be cynical, it still pays to be judicious enough especially if you happen to be associated with 'fair weather friends' because WHEN bad weather hits you, you may find yourself alone and forlorn.  Dude, let us sharpen our awareness and consciousness with all these LABYRINTHs OF LIFE😡😡😡

When It's Worth To 'ROLL THE DICE'

 

Peaks and valleys, the UPs and DOWNs, they all come and go in life.  So, WHEN IS IT WORTH TO ROLL THE DICE? Good question with no single correct answer to it.  We could end up running an iteration because of those multiple WHAT IFs in life.  With so many moving parts in the equation of life, it could be mind-boggling no less because WHETHER you ROLL THE DICE as early as possible OR after a quarter of the way OR midway OR towards the final quarter of your journey, you need to factor-in one too many variables.  Having said this, we can simplify this huddle without over-simplifying it lest we end up in a self-inflicted trap👎👎👎

BTW, let's take things literally for now if we're using the dice as an example.  Assuming we have a standard six-sided dice, the odds of rolling a particular value are 1/6 and there is that equal probability of rolling each of the numbers 1 to 6.  BUT WHAT IF we have 2 dices?  the odds are NOT as simple as it seems.  Swinging back to our life, do we say that life has 6 dimensions and that's all?  NO WAY JOSE.  Much as things are finite enough, our life has many more sides and dimensions than any of those dices rolling out💥💥💥

Back to the question:  WHEN DO WE ROLL THE DICE?  The long and short of it is that, generally, it becomes one's judgment call.  WHEN you are the driver steering the wheel from the time you ignited and started your journey, generally you would have a good feel as to WHEN will you go full throttle.  And if there is a hump down the road, that's WHEN you go back to the drawing board and do an apples-to-apples comparison of ALL your options!!!

I did bear witness multiple times WHEN people did ROLL THE DICE and the end result was showing that they did a fumbling act?  WHY and HOW?  You might wonder, you thought it all hinges on one's judgment call?  YES and YES dude, it still on one's judgment call BUT one's judgment call must NOT stand on sands OR worst, on shaky grounds.  One has to come up and reach an informed decision for the best timing to ROLL THE DICE.  The thing is, DON'T ROLL THE DICE as if you're in one of those casino tables at the Las Vegas strip❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  WHILE I am no expert in counselling, these are the very tenets I have embraced all throughout my decision-making phases in life:

• DON'T ROLL THE DICE out of pressure
• DON'T ROLL THE DICE with a gambling mindset
• DON'T ROLL THE DICE because you're keen on it
• DON'T ROLL THE DICE because you've got to do it
• DON'T ROLL THE DICE NOT as an informed decision
• DON'T ROLL THE DICE because you want to take a risk

Bottomline, ROLLING THE DICE doesn't mean you've to play the high-roller's game😡😡😡