Tired of STARTING OVER [Again]? Then, DON'T Give Up!

 

Tired of STARTING OVER again?  YES you're NOT alone in that dilemma.  BUT ever thought of GIVING UP?  YES you're NOT alone too.  Been there, done that [and it's damn hard dude].  I do hear all the noises around.  I am aware of the struggles and call it 'agonies' one has to go through in STARTING OVER all over again, WHETHER it's in the workplace, in a relationship, in one's business, OR even in one's finances.  I guess we DON'T need to qualify as to WHY indeed it's hard to be STARTING OVER.  I remember many years ago, someone was jobless for quite sometime and I sensed his deep frustration.  Straight from the cold, I counseled that I have a suggestion based on the following pre-conditions he has to agree:

1. THAT he has to switch careers [from Engineering to Technology]
2. THAT he has to start @entry-level [at my friend's Tech company]
3. THAT he will undergo trainings with NO PAY, NOT UNTIL he completes all trainings & GOOD TO GO [as a full-fledged developer]

Fast-forward with that narrative, in less than 3 months time, he was deployed as a full-fledged developer seconded to one of our country's major GOCC [government owned & controlled corporation].  Since then, he has become a seasoned Oracle expert, WHICH probably explains WHY he seamlessly settled in Singapore WHERE he's a Singapore citizen alongside his family.  Indeed, that was a 'HARD RESET' and WHAT that means, for him to 'START OVER', he had to acquiesce to a list of pre-conditions for him to RESET, WHICH a.k.a. STARTING OVER [again]💚💛💜

Bottomline here is that wanting to 'GIVE UP' and START ALL OVER [again] can be a fleeting feeling BUT it can also be a percursor for things to go from bad to worse.  BUT rather than leaving us to fix things reactively, let's figure out as to HOW can we preempt and prevent STARTING OVER and most common questions we need to face head-on are:

• I HAVE NO OTHER PURPOSE TO CARRY ON
• I CAN'T DO THIS [OR BE IN THIS] ANYMORE
• I DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING.  JUST GIVING UP!

True, NOT until you're either in the line of fire OR you're right on the frying pan and ready to jump straight into the fire itself,  things could NOT be more tumultuous than that.  MAYBE you're done with pain, with frustration and you just want to end an unbearable toxic situation.  LIKE if you want to literally move out and settle in another state, then having few or NO friends at all, with NO family and NO job, likely you DON'T even have a clue WHERE TO START❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  STARTING OVER again is absolutely NOT the end of the world BUT for anyone to pull out that last card, one has to ensure that he has exhausted everything else such that all boxes are now marked 'X', leaving the person just one option, WHICH is, to START OVER again and if this is the last card to play, so be it.  That's a natural part of evolving into a smarter, better and stronger version of yourself and NO ONE should eve make you feel bad for pulling the trigger and STARTING ALL OVER [again], hoping that's your last HARD RESET.  Else, DON'T GIVE UP [if STARTING OVER is NOT an option]😡😡😡