When We Get 'WRONGED'

 

It's true that besides being 'WRONGED' sometimes, everyone of us could have been the very cause of having other people 'WRONGED' but due to the sheer complexity of hitting two birds with one stone, I'd rather be modest and simply limit our thread today WHEN we are 'WRONGED' by others.  It is a fact of life that very unfair and unjust things can happen to really good and well-meaning, good and decent people like you.  And in the wheels of justice, we should have heard narratives of a wrongly sentenced man serving his life sentence💧💧💧

BUT we WON'T dip our fingers into that cookie jar of injustices ironically happening within our judicial systems.  Instead, let's keep things simple enough here.  Abandonment, Betrayal.  Complicity.  Deceit.  Evil intentions.  That's just the A-B-C-D-E and the alphabet is more than two dozens to go.  BUT an undeniable fact is that WHEN our sense of right and wrong, of morality and justice, gets violated, it can rock our world and leave us awash in a swirl of emotions💥💥💥

Anxiety.  Anger.  Blame.   Confusion.  Despair.  And even outrage and sometimes, even grief for WHAT's been lost.  Those swirls of emotions will continue to hound us like the hanging swords of Damocles.  On the other hand, if it's were on the right flank of things, we can witness certainty, friendship, Security and even Trust.  Those were exactly WHAT I felt the past days I finally got reunited with a close friend from way back our school age until we charted different courses!!!

NOW, WHAT if someone does 'WRONG' us up front?  Tons of researches the past decades delved on the impact of FORGIVENESS, which often described it as one that can benefit relationships with loved ones, work colleagues, friends and even the communities.  Scientific research detailed HOW it can lead to lower cortisol, WHICH is a primary stress hormone, and higher oxytocin soon after experiencing it.  It also revealed HOW heart rate variability, WHICH is a measure of one's ability to 'self-soothe', increased😃😃😃

Our takeaway:  I WON'T reinvent the wheels here BUT instead, quote EN TOTO WHAT scientists advise us:

• Ponder how FORGIVING helps the FORGIVER.
• Then, we must understand the perceived injustices to help us deal with the injustices life throws at us along the way
• Third, we can use many ways of dealing with injustices and FORGIVENESS is one of them and by thinking about the benefits of FORGIVENESS, we can get a leg up on FORGIVING.  Merely dwelling on the benefits for about 10 minutes can motivate FORGIVENESS.