When We're OFF THE RAILS
Our BOUNDARIES are the GUARDRAILS to our life. When we consider them intellectually, most of us feel really clear about our BOUNDARIES what we absolutely will and WON'T accept. Yet when we go back to work, sometimes we're really quick to disregard them. Especially when it comes to BOUNDARIES that protect our time and our bandwidth. NOT until When We're OFF THE RAILSπ΄π·π΅BUT we've got a bigger problem looming in the background and that's WHEN we ignore our BOUNDARIES, that's When We're OFF THE RAILS. If we know this is something we struggle, then I'm right there with you readers. The haunting question that keeps lurking behind us is WHY do we keep going for as long as we could? Too often we say YES to things that violate our very own BOUNDARIES, when every warning sign inside us is already signaling, like 'YOU'RE GETTING CLOSE TO THAT GUARDRAIL, DON'T CRASH"πππSometimes, those SIGNS are physical manifestations like a tightness in our chest , a pit in our stomach, holding your breath or feeling our heart pound. Worse, when violating those BOUNDARIES becomes habitual, we get ourselves into that weight LOSS, hair LOSS, sleep LOSS zones. So, as much as these signals tend to be physical, they can also be emotional. TEARS, ANXIETY, RESENTMENT, or racing thoughts that just WON'T stop, not until you realize When We're OFF THE RAILSπππExperts claim that we have every right within our means to cross BOUNDARIES both when saying YES and saying NO. And if we've ever say 'YES' to do something and found yourself immediately engulfed by a tidal wave of dread, that's it you've gone OFF THE RAILS or even like overly doing that 'verbal gymnastics' of completely over-explaining OR justifying a 'NO' to a client or colleague, or boss, then you've gone OFF THE RAILS✅✅✅
So, what's perplexing is this. If our BOUNDARIES are damn too important to us, WHY do we allow ourselves to go OFF THE RAILS? Tough question but studies cite BAD habits. First, when we let INSECURITY masquerade as 'rational thought'. Second, we fear disappointing others and Thirdly, we get rewarded for disrespecting our BOUNDARIES. Time to get back back on the rails, dude❗❗❗