Are We Good Enough?

 

How's your day?  Do you feel GOOD ENOUGH today?  Feeling like a 'GOOD ENOUGH' person in a GOOD ENOUGH body enables us to feel lovable, to love others, and to feel safe and competent in this tough-grinding world.  ARE WE GOOD ENOUGH?  Experts posited that the self-accepting state of feeling 'GOOD ENOUGH' emerges WHEN parents convey to their children acceptance, appreciation, and affection.  YES, we all experienced that, WHENEVER our parents said 'i love you' to us, and in the process, they convey that our mistakes then, as children, are for learning.  NO need to be perfect.  That we love you even though we sometimes dislike some of WHAT you do.  Sadly, some parents convey to their children instead the impression that no matter how good you are, it will NEVER be good enough📗📙📘

Psychologists tell us that ignoring children OR excessively criticizing them OR being mean to them teaches children that something about them is inherently NOT GOOD ENOUGH, OR worse, NOT worthy of love.  Experts advise us that feeling NOT GOOD ENOUGH leaves children standing on a 'shaky ground' WHEN in truth they sorely need those emotional foundations as they get into their adulthood, as it makes them prone to anxiety, depression, and even anger😕😕😕

Worst of all worse things, that may likely undermine their ability to enjoy emotionally-secure relationships.  So, this brings us full circle back.  Are we GOOD ENOUGH either as a leader at the workplace OR as a parent as it behooves that we perform our roles skillfully ENOUGH to accomplish the challenges of every relationship, whether it's at the workplace or at our homes💚💛💜

Verily true, we need to understand and apply the techniques and attitudes that sustain positive relationships.  We need these capabilities to be effective in the world.  On the other hand, we DON'T need to accomplish all these challenges PERFECTLY, NOT AT ALL.  We DON'T have to be the Gold Medalist.  OR the class valedictorian.  OR the board exams topnotcher.  Instead, we just need to be GOOD ENOUGH, feel GOOD ENOUGH.  From there, we can enjoy our relationships, making mistakes along the way and learning and growing from the mistakes and errors along the way❎❎❎

Our takeaway:  You might ask, WHO SAYS IF I AM GOOD ENOUGH?  Sirrrrrrs, no one else BUT you.  Obviously, your loved ones and most trusted coterie of friends too are possible sources of feedback BUT all those inputs will feed into you, for you to come up with an INFORMED JUDGMENT whether you have reached that level WHERE you are GOOD ENOUGH.  At the end of the day, it is YOU [and NO ONE ELSE] who will set the bar for you to achieve.  Oooooops, be cautious WHEN setting the bar.  Too high a bar DOESN'T make sense.  OR too low a bar is deceiving yourself.  So, ARE WE GOOD ENOUGH???