Is REJECTION THERAPY A Myth?

Is REJECTION THERAPY A Myth?

If there's an interrogative statement I'm sure everyone on this planet will agree, it's that NO ONE wants, hopes OR relishes a REJECTION in life, in any form OR shape.  I've heard one OR two friends blurt sometime back: IF I ASK SOMEONE OUT AND GET REJECTED AGAIN, THAT'S IT, I'M DONE FOREVER'.  NOT one to make matters worse, obviously I DIDN'T concur WHEN I heard those words surely uttered out of frustration BUT at the back of my mind, I would then ask myself:  Is REJECTION THERAPY A Myth???

BUT let's face it, everyone of us, at some point in our life, we would have faced REJECTION in various forms, shapes and perspective.  Back in our university days, WHEN I was angling for certain academic honors [BUT failed], I took it like a jab on my chin and a REJECTION no less.  By the time I plunged into the job market, I would always leave NO single stone unturned WHEN preparing for a job interview.  I'll brush up NOT just about the job role I'm eyeing BUT I'd do a due diligence of the organization I want to join💥💥💥

Very true, I can attest to it, REJECTION is damn terrible, especially if you had lofty expectations, brimming with optimistic of an outcome favorable to you, that hurts.  And WHEN relationships get into the picture, that pain could be down deep.  BUT the ramifications are more serious than WHAT it seems on the surface because in the face of REJECTION, human nature tells us to simply give up the pursuit of something if that will lead to another round of REJECTION [even if that thing matters most to us].  BUT WHAT do we hear from psychologists?  To quote them, our goal should be "NOT TO AVOID REJECTION'  [because it's going to happen to all of us, NO exemption].  Instead, our goal is to learn HOW to handle it in the healthiest way possible💚💛💜

As much as you and me all wish to avoid it, REJECTION is simply inevitable.  Early in life, we will realize that your proposal for a date gets declined [sometimes NOT so politely but embarrassingly in fact, ouch].  OR WHEN you thought you were part of a group, unfolding events will prove otherwise.  You end up INSIDE LOOKING FROM THE OUTSIDE.  That's another form of REJECTION.  Along the way, you forged friendships then some of those well-meaning friendships DON'T last as you expected all along.  Oh, your life at the workplace will give you a dose of more REJECTIONS, LIKE WHEN you hoped for a promotion, LIKE WHEN you thought you'll get that plum post, only to find a 'sweet-talking' colleague jumps over you, whew.  REJECTION goes on and on😗😗😗

Our takeaway:  If there's one realization I came to accept over time, it's the fact that we humans are built to suffer WHEN we experience one form of REJECTION or another, especially WHEN our fundamental need for 'belonging' gets denied.  In conversations about REJECTION, a word we would often hear frequently is 'PAIN' because hearing from psychologists, that pain of REJECTION and physical pain are actually processed by our brain in similar ways [for now I'll avoid those jargons like dorsal anterior cingulate cortex] BUT if there's hope, it is for us to figure out WHAT's the best REJECTION THERAPY we can take to get over the hump.  YES dude, just DON'T waive the white flag, NOT TOO SOON❗❗❗