Stop Wanting So Badly

 

Stop Wanting It So Bad [AND LIKELY YOU'LL HAVE IT].  BUT it's human nature for us to be tempted to spend $$$$$$ even WHEN we are on a budget.  OR even perhaps we are trying to give up watching silly TV programs OR those video games.  SO, WHAT should we do WHEN we want to stop wanting something?  Sometimes, the answer seems counter-intuitive BUT it may be surprisingly simple📗📙📘

SO HOW?  Experts do advise us that as a first step, we should admit that we want something that we have decided it so badly [OR sometimes even so wrongly].  To an extent that we would tell ourselves to ignore that desire and we end up admonishing our own selves if we continue to want it [up to the point of being obsessive].  That dance between our desires and in our attempts at self-discipline creates a tension that, unfortunately, can only be resolved by eventually giving in and having the thing.  Instead, to fully admit that we want WHATEVER it is.  SO HOW did I go through this dilemma before?  After I admitted my own WANTING, I told myself just to get things done [although it may seem admitting that we desire something and then NOT getting it would be torture BUT you'll be surprised to find that the opposite s true.  In fact, it can actually relieve that tension😌😌😌

One thing that challenged me head-on was that inner conflict I had then WHEN WHAT I wanted was sometimes NOT consistent with my behavior then.  YES, I realized then that you can want something and still choose NOT to have it OR do it.  And one way to do this is to make decisions about your behavior before you are tempted with the opportunity.  LIKE if you are attending a company OR networking event for the second year in a row.  Like last year, knowing that drinking alcohol takes you off your game, you decided you DIDN'T want to have any drinks.  BUT once you arrived, you found beautiful glasses full of tasty wine everywhere you turned and then, you caved in.  You would have been much more likely to keep this promise if you had dedicated more than just a passing thought to the goal before for the actual event took place.  WHEN I reached those crossroads, I was confronted with a couple of questions I was hard pressed to respond to💥💥💥

Questions like:  WHY was that restraint important to me?  HOW will I behave if someone offers me a drink?  Would there be any exceptions?  Is there a way my plan to reward myself for complying with my own request?  And HOW can I best support myself in keeping that promise?  I realized that admitting WHAT I wanted and keeping it separate from WHAT I do about is a habit that can build into the discipline we have always wanted for ourself. BUT like all good things, start small and work on it💧💧💧

Our takeaway:  Looking back, I noticed HOW I felt WHEN we do something we wish we HADN'T but instead, pay attention only to the facts.  Another realization was that part of least resistance by learning to become the 'creative force' in my life. Oh Oh, I wish I could say I thought up the ideas on HOW to change behavior patterns all on my own BUT the seed for that wisdom came to me quite donkey years ago.  The hard-earned lessons that resonated through my travails is that, NEVER force your something on something that may NOT be for you.  BUT if at all it is intended for you, it will come.  Trust me, dude!!!