Your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments

Your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments

Morning morning morning.  Surely you have had your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments [and very likely you had it many times in your life].  Whether it was in school, at your workplace, at your business or right with your relationships, you should have gone through the wringer when protagonists were at opposite poles, with one fuming mad as hot as the iron whereas there you are so icy cold.  Or way back in school when your professor was just in that bad-bad mood he starts shouting expletives to the hapless students?  Or at your workplace when after a hiccup hits you, you end up receiving a tongue-lashing from your boss?

So how exactly did you handle things during your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments?  Did you FIGHT FIRE with FIRE?  Or did you douse cold and icy water to tame off that fire?  Honestly, there is NO sure-fire formula to fix things when you are in the middle of a furious and raging storm But still, you gotta weather it, like it or not.  What is best is we need to agree on some 'ground rules' to get over your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments 

The crux of the matter here is that the common denominator in ALL your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments is that we're dealing with EMOTIONS no less, EMOTIONS that are going opposite directions and differing trajectories.  As our life is full of emotional challenges and all too frequently we seem encouraged to BLOCK OUT and avoid our emotions because of the 'tricks' our bodies use to constrict our emotions which even make matters worse.

When we're into these very difficult moments, behavioral experts always counsel us to go the technique called 'OPPOSITE ACTION'.  Emotions are powerful motivators that mobilize us to behave in certain ways.  Each emotion comes with a related action urge.  When we are fearful, we tend to avoid or escape that anxiety.  When we're sad, we become passive, withdrawn, isolated.

Most importantly, we need to KNOW what we DON'T KNOW, i.e. let's ask ourselves whether the emotion in question fits the actual facts of the situation triggering it and if it will be more effective to act upon the action urge you are going through? Be aware that sometimes, our emotions are disproportionate to the situation.  Example is we're having FEAR not because the situation is a threat but simply because we're about to give a presentation to an audience.  But where FEAR is valid, take the 'OPPOSITE ACTION' by letting thing simmer down when fire is raging.  Else, you lose fighting fire with fire.  Bottom-line, handle well enough your 'NORTH-SOUTH' Moments❗❗❗