What Wears You Down

What Wears You Down

What Wears You Down will absolutely WEAR YOU DOWN.  But that's NOT the question though.  Instead, the bigger question lurking behind us is, do we know what WEARS US DOWN?  Or are we simply oblivious and unaware of the variables in life that are indeed WEARING US DOWN?  So, what exactly WEARS US DOWN?  That's a looooooong list though if we need to run down.  Instead, let's sit down and focus on the core list of variables that seem to be WEARING you down.  Do you struggle with self-doubt and self-defeating habits?  Do you want to feel more confident about yourself?

BTW, what could be wearing you down is your EXCESS BAGGAGE.   So, the $64 question you need to ask yourself is to identify your EXCESS BAGGAGE. And the best way to start feeling better about yourself is to notice the automatic mental and emotional habits that DON'T serve you well and find more self-compassionate and life-affirming ways to think and behave.  With conscious awareness and a daily focus on changing old habits, you can begin to build new, positive emotional pathways in your brain.  Our brains possess the capacity for neuroplasticity, which means that practicing new ways of thinking.

So how do we overcome the most common barriers to feeling confident, happy and successful?  Let's start with guilt which we learned way back our childhood.  'EAT YOUR FOOD. THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE STARVING' or 'I'VE BEEN WORKING MY FINGERS TO THE BONE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND ALL YOU IS COMPLAINT?!@#% As adults, we can internalize these messages and as a result, feel like we're never enough or can never do enough.

BTW, guilt is counter-productive.  That GUILT about not doing enough to help someone else when in fact you have already done a lot.  That GUILT about having more money or better relationships than friends.  That GUILT about thoughts that you DON'T actually act on, like feeling jealous of a friend who just had a baby.  Thinking about FAILURE is another unknown enemy.  Many of us have a sense of failure that colors our perception of ourselves and our achievements.  If you look at your life through the lens of failure, you will fail to pay attention to your achievements📗📘📙

Oh, are you a perfectionist?  That could be dangerous to your mind and body.  An article in the Review of General Psychology, it found that perfectionists are more likely to struggle with depression or anxiety and more likely to commit suicide.  Perfectionists are also more likely to be diagnosed with conditions such as chronic fatigue.  and can only like themselves if they do well.  But nobody can do well all the time.  So, it really pays to know What Wears You Down⏳⏳⏳