Those Wild Cards a.k.a. TOUGH EMOTIONS

 

EMOTIONS are cards and TOUGH EMOTIONS are the WILD CARDS in life.  NOT one of us is shielded from all flavors and versions of EMOTIONS.  WHICH reminds me, many years ago, I was caught in particularly strong mental rumination as I agonized over a decision that could be a 'game changer' in my life, WHICH meant my trajectory can go either north OR south.  And for months, I did fight in my head against that situation and my own fears, desperately wanting it to be different than it was💚💛💜

In many particular moments in my past, I felt like standing on my own feet and yet I was being gripped with fear and indecision, all rolled into one.  And in a sudden twist of things, I did turn toward my fear to take a curious and closer look at WHAT was actually there.  I somehow stopped resisting and I let go of the struggle to pave the way for my fears to go away.  From my limited vantage point, I came to grips with very valuable realizations💧💧💧

Underneath all the ebbs and flows of my emotional turmoil, I came to acknowledge that NO matter how much I tried to get a good handle of things and even do all the 'RIGHT' things, I had to come face-to-face with my own vulnerability and putting my hand atop my heart. In the subsequent days, weeks and months that followed, WHILE my situation hardly changed [NEITHER to be better OR to be worse], something did release in me akin to that loud knocking on your main door in the dead of the night WHEN you felt so defenseless and vulnerable.  Within myself, I somewhat peered at WHAT lay behind my fears only to find acceptance of life as it is, with fear only being a part of it💥💥💥

And in my willingness to look at and be with fear itself, I also discovered my courage to help me move forward, WHICH had NOT been present in my resistance and struggle.  Lo and behold, I was able to move forward with much greater ease and trust in my capacity.    Indeed, those unpleasant EMOTIONS often arise WHEN there is a discrepancy between the way things are and the way we want them to be✅✅✅

Our takeaway:  NOT to speak like SUPERMAN but I did learn the ropes of softening those wild cards in life a.k.a. TOUGH EMOTIONS.  Firstly, I would start to think of the circumstance that's causing me a lot of TOUGH EMOTIONS and in the midst of it, I try NOT to get lost too much in a storyline, BUT just get in touch with WHAT it is that's troubling me.  Segundo, of all the EMOTIONS, I'll choose the one I most strongly feel.  Thirdly, instead of resisting, I soften around those EMOTIONS, refocusing my awareness on the edges of the EMOTIONS😊😊😊