Happier When We Embrace Our Difficulties

Happier When We Embrace Our Difficulties

It's just normal for us to avoid SUFFERINGS and DIFFICULTIES.  WHO wants it anyway?  BUT studies show that embracing DIFFICULTIES helps.  Oh, if we have a commonality, I guess most of us are sick of the news.  Politics.  War.  Protests.  Tragedies.  Ok Ok, I get it.  Life is difficult but what's unfathomable is WHY people seem to embrace VIOLENCE, BAD NEWS and events beyond their control AS IF they are the secret to their happiness.  BUT hey, we can be Happier When We Embrace Our Difficulties📗📙📘

The famous American Essayist, Ralph Waldo Emerson, was quoted: "CAN ANYBODY REMEMBER WHEN THE TIMES WERE NOT HARD MONEY NOT SCARCE?  Since hardship and difficulties have always existed, how can we use them to make us HAPPY?  Is it possible that by embracing difficulty, we can find happiness❓❓❓

For alignment, can we agree that HAPPINESS is NOT the absence of problems but instead it is our ability to deal with them?  In fact, let us agree farther that more GOOD things happen to people than BAD BUT our problem is we have a NEGATIVE BIAS that makes us focus on the BAD.  For instance, when someone looks at us funny, we go on a tailspin.  Or another driver changes lanes a little close to us, we CAN'T wait to reach office and tell our colleagues someone 'CUT US OFF'💎💎💎

In most cases though, people really DON'T look at us funny.  BUT it is our perspective that sometimes distorts things to favor our bias but effectively, it ends up unfavorable to us.  And sometimes, people end up making risky decisions NOT because they want to hurt someone BUT because that's what people sometimes do.  Indeed, we have that pattern of making risky decisions❌❌❌

Our takeaway here is that while most of us probably expect a HAPPY life to be devoid of SUFFERING and full of constant joy, NO one has a life FREE of sorrow or pain and thus we should NOT insist our circumstances to change, that we will land a 'PERFECT' job.  Achieving unwavering HAPPINESS is an illusion BUT we can be HAPPIER when we EMBRACE our difficulties❗❗❗