As Long As The Story Goes, There Goes The Smoke

As Long As The Story Goes, There Goes The Smoke

Imagine your partner/spouse suddenly stops responding to your SMS and text messages or worse, returning your calls.  WHAT if they 'GHOST' you without giving you any explanation or even a heads-up if something was either 'brewing' or simply 'NOT OK'?  As Long As The Story Goes, There Goes The Smoke📙📗📘

 

As cruel as it seems, you end up with having NO choice but to accept that they DON'T want to be in a relationship with you anymore.  BUT hey, is that fair?  That's grossly UNFAIR!  It's true in an ideal scenario, your partner/spouse would have given you CLOSURE.  BUT let's face it, in real life, that just does NOT always happen in real life💎💎💎

True, some relationships end so abruptly, leaving hapless and helpless people stuck and struggling to move on from the breakup of NOT getting a decent CLOSURE.  BUT c'mon, let's align, what is CLOSURE?  More importantly, why is CLOSURE important after a breakup?  HOW to ask for a CLOSURE in a relationship and WHAT IF your ex refuses to give it to you?   As cruel as it seems, Arie Krugalankski came up with that CLOSURE jargon more than three decades ago.  He referred to a need by an individual to find a firm answer so that they DON'T have to live with ambiguity💵💶💴

The bigger question bogging some of us is:  IS CLOSURE NECESSARY WHEN RELATIONSHIP ENDS?  Indeed, getting CLOSURE is really important when a relationship ends.  Because when your partner decides to end the relationship without giving you the appropriate CLOSURE, they rob you of your RIGHT TO KNOW the reason WHY they did it💎💎💎

Now let's brace for the scenario where you won't get CLOSURE.  Primero, accept that you WON'T get that and while CLOSURE is essential, understand that no amount of apology will make them come back.  So, it's just a good idea to STOP blaming yourself.  LET GO of self-pity and start taking care of yourself.  And DISTANCE yourself from anything that will remind you of your EX✅✅✅