Why Coping Is NOT Enough

Why Coping Is NOT Enough

Many of us [that includes me in the past] thought that when we get bogged down with a problem [or even a crisis], COPING is the way to go.  BTW, till today, that holds water.  When I get hit with a problem, COPING is the immediate next thing to do.  So, WHAT's our shortfall?  It is our failure to realize that despite COPING, certainly Coping Is NOT Enough because COPING is just a QUICK FIX, to help us get over the hump, only for that moment💴💷💵

Quick query:  In your past, after you tried COPING, didn't a similar situation repeated by itself [again]?  More often, such situations do recur.  It's like a DEJA VU, like it's all over again.  BUT the question, why do we think we end going through the same gauntlet all over again?  It's because we thought COPING is the 'final nail on the coffin' BUT we are grossly wrong on that aspect because we are sorely missing one thing and that's getting into the ROOT CAUSE📗📙📘

For example, helping someone cope with the loss of a loved one can be invaluable UNTIL the person is ready to face the world again.  Teaching self-care techniques to a heartbroken adult may ease the pain of initial loneliness and heartache and learning COPING techniques while quitting smoking is essential to one's SUCCESS.   This is WHEN and WHERE the NEXT STEPS' should happen after COPING📌📌📌

Frankly, COPING skills are NOT a solution.  While it's fairly universally agreed upon that COPING skills are helpful, we should never lose track of figuring out the PERMAMENT FIX hoping that that recent exception WON'T recur but if it does, we could deftly handle the situation way behind by just COPING.  So, the unspoken and tacitly agreed upon expectations is that after the COPING phase, we should carry on to figure out how to prevent it from recurring, or at the very least, how to manage and contain it, probably with little or no COPING skills necessary✅✅✅

This is it.  More than just COPING, we got to be CONQUERING the issue which is hitting us.  UNLESS we face it head-on and find the FINAL FIX, it may keep haunting us back again and again.  One very prevalent reason why people miss out on figuring out the FINAL FIX, it's because we end up becoming complacent once we [temporarily] hurdle an ordeal.  Takeaway here is that QUICK FIXES are NOT the FINAL FIXES we need to be applied to an issue which may recur again in the future❗❗❗