NICE Is What You Hear [When There Are NO Inputs]

NICE Is What You Hear [When There Are NO Inputs]

How often do you articulate things so well only to receive a curt response like 'NICE'?  Should be rare BUT when hearing no more than that curt 'NICE', there is likelihood that there is NO substantive response that will be forthcoming response to follow because likely There Are NO Inputs to expect.  So, we got to be sensitive and sharp enough in those exceptions so that you DON'T end up offending the person or worse, so that you DON'T get slighted because you thought you DON'T deserve such a curt 'NICE' after all your articulation⏳⏳⏳

In the past, I did get caught in those 'curt reply' moments and in good faith, I thought I DIDN'T deserve such curtness NOT until I did some dissecting to figure out the situation.  And in good faith, I made the following assumptions:  either the person was NOT comfortable with the discussion topic OR he/she was NOT familiar enough [so that means he/she does NOT have any inputs] OR you and that person are NOT on the same page or wavelength for reasons we CAN'T even fathom.  Takeaway here is that that is the counterpart of body language in verbal communications📗📙📘

BTW, studies showed that communication problems are the #1 reason couples split up with 65% of couples citing this issue as the primary cause of divorce.  BTW, this is NOT limited to romantic relationships as they are often at the root of conflicts in our everyday life.  Perhaps we fail to say what we mean, OR we misinterpret the words of another💎💎💎

Surprisingly, the very #1 most common issue triggering communications problems is NOT TRULY LISTENING.  Sounds familiar?  Your partner/spouse is talking and you seem to be nodding BUT glued on your gadget!  Problem is, when we DON'T actively listen to the person we're speaking to, NOT only do we run the risk of making the person feel invalidated BUT we also miss important nonverbal cues❗❗❗

The #2 trigger of communications problems is ASSUMING YOU KNOW THE MESSAGE [even before the person finishes talking].  BTW, we've all done that. I'm guilty of that quite many times BUT the less here is that WHEN we assume we know WHAT the person will say, we miss WHAT is actually being said.  At the end of the day, if you have NOTHING else to say substantively, think twice if give a curt "NICE" reply because that is NOT ACCEPTABLE by any means❌❌❌