'PEOPLE PLEASING' And How To Overcome it

'PEOPLE PLEASING' And How To Overcome It 

PLEASING is one of the most popular [and admittedly] overused word of intent ever in life.  From our early formative years, no less than our parents and teachers all immersed us with the age-old value of pleasing people, starting obviously with your family, your relatives, your friends till it gets an extended coverage to encompass friends and even friends of friends.  But how about PLEASING Customers as a best practice?

Being someone who PLEASES people sounds on the face of it, like a very good idea.  But it is a pattern of behavior riddled with problems as much for the perpetrator as for its audience.  The 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' is someone who might at times be oneself who feels they have no option but to mould themselves to the expectations of others. The irony here is that one could be harboring all manners of secret 

Putting it bluntly, we could say that the 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' is a liar.  It sounds brutal but the 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' may be lying for poignant reasons and NOT in order to gain an advantage but because they are terrified of the displeasure of others.  To understand the 'PEOPLE-PLEASER', we need to look at their past which almost invariably involves an early experience of being around people who may seem radically incapable of accepting and forgiving certain necessary facts.

If there is any exception where we will all welcome the 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' approach, it is for CUSTOMERS.  DON'T look far.  We can attest to how easy and quick [in two steps] one can cancel his NETFLIX subscription when he opts to, all thanks to NETFLIX for being focused to be the same reputed 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' to its customers.  But other than this exception, 'PEOPLE-PLEASER' has no place in our life.

So how do we fix this conundrum of being a 'PEOPLE-PLEASER'?  Simple and easy.  Be WHO YOU ARE.  Be WHAT YOU ARE.  Make your judgment calls on your very own volition.  NO ONE and NOTHING should push you to the corner simply to be a  'PEOPLE-PLEASER' because that doesn't make you and your life true and genuine enough.  Enough of being a 'PEOPLE-PLEASER'📌📌📌