It's NOT The Same For Everyone

It's NOT The Same For Everyone

To borrow one of the oldest and one of the most oft-quoted cliches, '"DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER".  Simply put. let us NOT draw conclusions based on WHAT we see OR what we witness, NOT until you have validated it and did get through it.  Oh Oh Oh, this is most prevalent in today's social media were the recipient/reader tends to draw conclusions based on FACE VALUE, based on WHAT that social media post seems to brag OR scream.  BUT WHAT is lost is that It's NOT The Same For Everyone📗📙📘

Unlike in the old school where we were peppered with endless pitches [we called it 'sermon'] from our parents that we are NOT at the level of Joneses, hence, let us NOT keep up with them, in today's social media, human behavior tends to manifest and happen faster than the speed of sound.  More often, we tend to skip [OR intentionally ignore] that every social media post or sharing needs to be classified as either as FACT or FICTION [a.k.a. FAKE NEWS].  Mother of all worse things, such behavior we tend to manifest later becomes MORE frequent until it becomes a part of our force of HABIT💧💧💧

True, a lot of us [and that includes moi] would have social media posts of our achievements in life.  Whether it's finishing a marathon, topping our class batch, OR buying our dream gadget, one of the common reactions to those kind of posts is how 'EASY' was it for them to achieve those things.  Hey, did they experience hardships?  Maybe it DOESN'T look like it.  Then, here comes our internalized reaction, 'HOW I WISH I COULD EASILY ACHIEVE THOSE THINGS'.  Problem is, we sometimes think that way.  And at times, we see things like that.  In the end, we suffer that way.  WHAT we miss out is that those achievements could be the product of sleepless nights, sacrifice and hard work [NOT just of the person him/herself BUT even the parents, the support structure💥💥💥

Sometimes, we miss out the fact that generally, there is NO EASY PATH in life.  True, from the other side of the fence, things look that easy BUT that's being presumptuous.  Sometimes it is true, one particular achievement was EASY for someone BUT that doesn't mean it would be easier for others to achieve WHAT you've achieved.  BUT hey, NOT everyone has the same resources, same connections OR even those opportunities that would arise❗❗❗

Our takeaway:  The fundamental issue here is that WHEN we talk about fairness and equality, while the appreciation may be in good faith, the understanding is intrinsically flawed.  Even between EQUALITY and EQUITY, there is a huge mix-up because while in EQUALITY is where we treat everyone the same, it assumes the same thing will benefit everyone in the same way.  BUT EQUITY is treating people fairly, looking at WHAT they need to ensure they have access to the same opportunities.  Simply put, NOT everyone can stand on a box and ignoring that fact that in reality, we are still fumbling in that ability to recognize the fact that, in life, it is TO EACH HIS OWN [because IT'S NOT THE SAME FOR EVERYONE]😗😗😗