STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control

STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control

Worrying stems from our common desire to be in CONTROL.  And we often want to CONTROL our environment within us.  OR we may want to CONTROL over the outcome of practically every situation [which is downright wishful thinking].  And the more we try to CONTROL everything around us, the more anxious we become.  Can we just STOP Worrying On Things We CAN'T Control❓❓❓

Imagine when we are trapped in that VICIOUS CYCLE to break, WORRY [to gain CONTROL], then we FAIL, then we WORRY [again].  Then the whole cycle repeats itself.  Indeed, worrying on things we CAN'T control [like someone's behavior] will drain us of that mental strength where we need to be at our best.  Sadly, this dilemma may also lead to other toxic habits [like ending up to be blaming our own self too much [or worse, even micromanaging other people]].  But we are still fortunate because we DON'T have to resign to end up as a lifelong 'worrywart' ❗❗❗

While there are many self-proclaimed experts more than willing to help extricate us from that VICIOUS CYCLE, I stumbled across two tricks [which we all need to patiently learn and develop].  First off, let's DEVELOP A REALISTIC SENSE of CONTROL.  Let us identify WHAT IS WITHIN OUR CONTROL and WHAT ISN'T.  A simple case is you can CONTROL how eye-catching the webpage you will develop but you can't CONTROL whether people will ever visit your webpage and if they, will they positively rave with regard your webpage.  If you're a manager, you can give your team members the productivity tools BUT you can't force them to be productive❎❎❎

If we are able to strike a healthy balance of CONTROL, we should realize that we can choose our own attitude and even our behavior BUT [again], we CAN'T CONTROL numerous external factors.  So, when we're faced with a problem or experiencing discomfort, let's ask ourselves, "IS THIS A PROBLEM I CAN SOLVE?  OR DO I NEED TO CHANGE HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS PROBLEM"?  If it is within our CONTROL, go and tackle the problem.  BUT if it's out of our CONTROL,   let us focus on changing our emotional state.  Let's adopt healthy coping skills, like engaging in a hobby or probably practicing meditation📌📌📌

Now, for our REALITY CHECK, let us 'schedule' a time to worry.  WHY?  It's because even experts will admit there isn't a magic trick or a special pill that will make you stop worrying right away.  Psychologists, however, are egging us for that psychological trick and that trick involves SCHEDULING a time to worry.  Sounds ridiculous but studies back up its feasibility.  Let's apportion that 'DOWNTIME' to worry on 'LEGIT' ones because we got to STOP WORRYING ON THINGS WE CAN'T CONTROL💎💎💎