In Deep Water, You Need A 'LIFELINE'

In Deep Water, You Need A 'LIFELINE'

Generally in life, we should be fine to be standing on our own feet.  But again, as there is NO Superman, sometimes, when In Deep Water, You Need A 'LIFELINE' not by choice but by necessity and based on the circumstances. Sadly, some of us are so confident [a.k.a. cocky] to believe that they DON'T need a LIFELINE.  But again, all things being equal, NO ONE can be on his own when in DEEP WATER💎💎💎

WHY is accepting HELP so hard?  C'mon, everything starts with us asking for HELP.  But how come there seems to be hump people need to hurdle when all they need to do is accept [wholeheartedly] the HELP extended?  We agree that receiving HELP can trigger feelings of shame💊💊💊

Learning to accept HELP requires, among other things, the willingness to drop the idea that one is a 'BURDEN' if they do.  Accepting HELP and generosity can bring out a caring response in others, and lead to deeper emotional closeness.  True, all of us have that longing to be the recipient of caring gestures and offerings that express thoughtfulness and sensitivity to what we need.  However, many of us also experience a certain level of discomfort around when receiving because, even as it may benefit us and be what we wish for, it also challenges us.  Too often, we have grown up believing that the LESS WE ASK for, the better.  Feeling of being a burden or imposition can lead us to avoid accepting things in general📌📌📌

As a result, we are often confused by our conflicted responses to receiving.  So, why is accepting HELP so hard?  These complicated reactions to receiving can partly stem from our attachment history.  Our early attachments HELP shape how we relate to others and how we expect others to relate to us.  Psychologists claim that if we experienced an insecure pattern of attachment, we may feel LESS TRUSTING or secure in our adult relationships✅✅✅

This poster says it all:  UNFORTUNATELY, YOU CAN'T HELP PEOPLE WHO WON'T PARTICIPATE IN THEIR OWN RESCUE.  So how do we challenge our discomfort around accepting help?  In order to accept HELP and even be willing to ask for assistance, we would have to abandon an adaptation that felt necessary for survival when we were HELPLESS. When we allow people to be kind to us, we feel closer to them and they feel closer to us.  Think about it, we need HELP as much as others may need our HELP along the way❗❗❗