Spend Time With Someone & You'll Read Them Well

Spend Time With Someone & You'll Read Them Well

Lots of things in life are superficial and very much on the periphery.  Lots of things are literally visually visible but that's all there is to it.  For you to know a person profoundly, it could even take a long time, if not a lifetime.  The recurring problem is, often times [especially early in life], we thought we have know the person enough for us to reach an informed decision.

Oh, time is fleeting.  It is the one resource which in no way we can ever recover.  Sadly, most of us only realize this once it is too late.  The life that we would have taken for granted is coming to a close [before you know it] and immediately, most of us would then wish [of late] that they had learned a few key lessons much earlier on in life.  And when we meet people in school, at work, in business or in our various endeavors in life, we tend to fall prey on that notion that you've known a person INSIDE-OUT just because you were office colleagues who would take coffee breaks at the same time, including lunches.

That's NEVER the case, though.  In truth and in fact, few couples will disagree with me if I vociferously attest that you would get to know that person INSIDE-OUT with no slip-up once you share the same roof everyday onwards.  People get to know each other, then they go on dating till it becomes an exclusive one till they get engaged.  Alas, at that point in time, they thought they knew well each other LIKE THE PALM OF THEIR HANDS.  No Senor.

And then, here's social media creeping in as the spoiler.  With SocMed lording it all over our lives, with endless private messages, with incessant tweets, with all the adulations we give and/or receive via all the LIKES, emojis, re-TWEETS and even endless capture of memorable moments via IG, we all end up misguided, thinking [WRONGLY] that we know well our partner that much.

When do problems start to creep in our lives ?  It's when we realize there is a gap that's shaping between EXPECTATIONS versus REALITY.  At work, we expected the applicant to be a too good to be true and finally, he comes out as a lemon.  In relationships, we end up with a bum choice.  In business, we end up with premature decisions causing us to bungle on opportunities.  LESSON: Get to know deeply before you take that LEAP of FAITH❗❗❗