Is Competition Good For Us?

Is Competition Good For Us?

Let's face it, COMPETITION is NOT just about structured games and events.  In fact, it transpires any time an individual pitches his skills against one another.  Social Scientists opine as well that COMPETITION is a SOCIAL PROCESS.  As a child, how we interact and interpret COMPETITION depends on the changes that they are going through.  So, Is Competition Good For Us❓❓❓

So, let's be even-keel here.  Let's look at the pluses and minuses of COMPETITION.  For the upsides, COMPETITION embodies PLAY and PLAY is perhaps the greatest setting for learning social skills and integration.  Then, obviously COMPETITION is exciting and it fosters cooperation.  In this age of the social media and evolving individualism, time spent interacting and communicating with others is waning and reducing💊💊💊

However, our ability to work with others to achieve a common goal is an essential skill to develop, NOT only in sport but in life.  COMPETITION allows us to learn patterns of social cooperation without exceeding critical limits of aggression.  As a bonus, COMPETITION develops our emotional control.  With appropriate instruction, COMPETITION encourages us to reflect on our behavior under emotionally intense situations and develop that strong emotional intelligence📌📌📌

However, we got to be wary of the downsides of COMPETITION as well.  First off, COMPETITION seems to harbor hostility and aggression.  We have seen and heard in the news many times when seemingly healthy basketball games ended up in a brawl, even in the NBA, even in the FIBA world championships.  It's like that attitude of WINNING AT ALL COSTS gets developed and that even leads to aggression and at worse, cheating creeps in.  And from a first person perspective, COMPETITION is 'ego deflating' and this is due to the fact when SUCCESS is measured solely on the COMPETITION outcome [which should NOT be the case]❌❌❌

Since COMPETTTION can deliver both positive and negative experiences [although this is dependent on the prevailing environment], the question staring in our face is:  WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?  Simple.  Let's widen our perspective and understand that great COMPETITION happens at or sometimes above our own ability and that great COMPETITION is focused as it will reveal one's strength and weakness for us to fix✅✅✅

Think BIG, Start SMALL

Think BIG, Start SMALL

Think BIG, Start SMALL.  Is it?  OR should we Start Big based on the argument that our very first step should be as wide as that one quantum leap so we can secure a beachhead ahead of the real grind.  Experts peddled the six words that will matter and differentiate SUCCESS versus FAILURE with the slogan THINK BIG, START SMALL, LEARN FAST, six short and sharp words to kick us up📘📙📗

C'mon dude, let's NOT reinvent the wheel.  Those WHO 'THINK BIG' consider the full range of possible futures and outcomes.  They make sure they understand the emerging context, rather than assume that their current assumptions are right.  A simple example is how large disruptive forces [like technology] will change our personal preferences?  Let's look no farther than NETFLIX.  When Reed Hastings built the DVD business that toppled the video rental business, he had that BIG IDEA that mailing people DVDs was a mere way station on the road to streaming video on the internet.  Then, NETFLIX was born💷💴💵

Contrast that to those who FAIL typically think SMALL.  They assume the future will be a slightly different version of the present.  Its human nature to see change as INCREMENTAL and to think that things will continue to run in our favor.  BUT let's be wary how INCREMENTAL thinking can be dangerous as well.  BTW, where are NOKIA, MOTOROLA and BLACKBERRY now❓❓❓

The biggest problem  with every IDEA is that we inaccurately think of the final effect as the result of a single action.  We're in the current position so we need to do something and in the result we achieve our desired goal,  True, our goal is usually BIG so we tend to change plans and refine things, looking for perfection when we DON'T even know WHAT it means and HOW it looks💎💎💎

Shift things to our personal life.  It's nice to be overly ambitious BUT not at the expense of getting bogged down to even take STEP #1 because you are so enamored with your grandiose plans and vision.  Instead, let's take the INCREMENTAL approach in parallel with THINKING BIG, STARTING SMALL✅✅✅

Why Rework Works

Why Rework Works

No one wants REWORK.  NOT our customers.  NOT our bosses.  NOT you and me.  WHY? Because  Rework has its implications.  COST from the perspective of the company who produced/generated it.  TIME from the perspective of the client.  And even REPUTATION from the perspective of the  producer/source of the output.  And what's the implications to the actual worker WHO performed the output/product?  The implications could be enormous, impacting his work performance record, his work quality record and in the long-term, possibly his tenure with the organization given his performance and quality records💴💷💵

Thing is, customers care only for the product or service they receive.  They're NOT interested as to how much effort it took for you to make it happen OR how many times you had to fiddle with it to get it right.  They're also NOT interested in WHAT it costs you.  So, we just CAN'T make our lumpy processes as their problem.  BUT what puzzles me is this fact.  Most REWORKS, once they are REWORKED, it gets done right📙📘📗

So, WHY does the REWORK does REWORK if at all?  We DON'T want to get bogged down with details which are unique and NOT relevant discussing in this thread.  BUT based on the results of studies, the common conclusion is that 98% of DEFECTS requiring REWORK were caused by minor or petty miscues or oversights which could have been easily avoided had there been a more consistent QUALITY-based approach in performing one's deliverable💎💎💎

Translating this to our personal lives, WHAT is the relevance of REWORK in our day-to-day life, you might confront me with this question.  The answer is plainly simple.  Even in our personal habits and self-discipline, we need to inculcate the QUALITY-based self-discipline in practically any personal action we undertake, regardless as to WHO gets impacted by an action you will undertake.  This could be as simple as personal finance, the way you budget your family's financials.  You just DON'T splurge on a shopping spree, NOT mindful that there is a budget you got to stick to.  It will be utterly irresponsible of you to go home penniless after a shopping spree, not mindful of the family budget which you are even expected to be the vanguard✅✅✅

BTW, although I am highlighting that indeed REWORK WORKS, in the ideal world, and in our personal lives, we want to dump that REWORK mindset out through the window.  WHY?  A REWORK mindset will likely cause us overhead effort and even overhead costs until that REWORK variable gets cast off the variable.  Our insight for today is that our QUALITY mindset needs to be instilled NOT just in our work life BUT more in our personal day-to-day life❗❗❗

Starting On A WRONG FOOT

Starting On A WRONG FOOT

How often have we heard of painstaking efforts exerted to either acquire, bag, grab or signoff a contract whether its for business or for employment.  Then DAY-1 comes and goes with odd stories when one ends up Starting On A WRONG FOOT.  For alignment, what we meant when saying Starting On A WRONG FOOT is that there could be a misstep or a minor miscue or snag hit at the start📗📙📘

To share some first-hand accounts and samplings of Starting On A WRONG FOOT:  On Day-1, the newbie reports for work attired in full business suit.  Fine.  Then on Day-2, the newbie reports for work STILL attired with the same full business suit.  In a short while, his manager talks to him and advises that he does NOT need to wear a full business suit again if there's no spare💷💴💵

BTW, this happens, literally speaking, to weightlifters.  Starting On A WRONG FOOT means NOT an auspicious start in that sports and somehow, that miscue right at the start can trigger an undue buildup of pressure to perform much better in the subsequent tries.  For a Lothario wooing his dream girl, DIDN'T leave a single stone unturned in finding the best restaurant that could be the best setting for that romantic dinner only to cause a SLIP OF THE TONGUE when he greeted his date by another name when she arrived at the restaurant💎💎💎

OR here you are, given the opportunity to be the host and toastmaster for the welcome dinner honoring the new expatriate manager and right at the start of the scripted program, you went BLANK.  OR you could be a hardworking salesman who recently bagged a new client but during the contract signing, you mistakenly mixed up the documents and handing to the client the wrong document to sign [and worse, that wrong document is for another client].  Talking about Starting On A WRONG FOOT💊💊💊

What are our key takeaways here to avert Starting On A WRONG FOOT?  I'll be frank.  Be DETAILED-oriented.  Be DILIGIENT.  Be focused.  Be precise.  And above all, REMAIN "COOLY CALM' because when nervousness creeps in, it may throw a monkey wrench on everything you exerted so much efforts and sacrifices.  Bottomline is, Starting On A WRONG FOOT can be averted.  It can be avoided❎❎❎

Words Of Affirmation

Why We Need Words Of Affirmation

If there is something that makes me kind of sad these days, it is the irony brought about by technology and specifically social media applications.  With the unabated proliferation of EMOJIs, most of us [maybe approximately 90% based on my guesstimate, would rather send EMOJIs in lieu of Words Of Affirmation to me this SADDER THAN SAD because I am a very strong advocate of the Words Of Affirmation as one of the most powerful tools NOT only to recognize people BUT in effect, even further reinforcing and sustaining their MOTIVATION to take to the next level, all via the very powerful Words Of Affirmation📗📙📘

Frankly, Words Of Affirmation have the power to shape our reality and in relationships, they can either BUILD or DESTROY.  When we use these WORDS, we communicate either/and/or appreciation, value and in relationships, love, to the person we are expressing with sincerity Words Of Affirmation which to me personally, CAN'T be overridden or relegated even by tons and tons of EMOJIs💴💷💵

Not to push me up BUT I'll humbly admit I'm very vociferous with Words Of Affirmation as I DON'T mince words.  I call a spade a spade.  Whether at work or when interacting with service providers, I DON'T even have that intestinal fortitude to ignore or shut off my eyes from either mediocre OR middling [I'm sorry I'm hesitant to use the adjective 'LOUSY' but at times, I firmly believe that the receiving party deserves that adjective📌📌📌

Let's put ourselves in the shoes of a girl being wooed by a persistent Lothario.  Would you prefer to receive hundreds of EMOJIs sent via social media in lieu of Words Of Affirmation that expresses to a 'T' the very message you want to impart?  On the other hand, just a word of caution when things would swing to NEGATIVE words because when written or spoken, they can leave lasting WOUNDS that undermine trust and the relationship itself✅✅✅

At my workplace [both from my past and present organizations], I WON'T be the second person you'll hear Words Of Affirmation because likely I'll be the first one.  I would humbly admit that years ago, after I commended a systems engineer from HP, the next thing that happened was he got promoted as a senior engineer the following month.  Till to date, I am the extreme opposite of being STINGY when it comes to Words Of Affirmation because besides entailing so little effort to express those Words Of Affirmation, it means a lot to the receiving end❗❗❗

Anyone Familiar With The LAW OF ATTRACTION?

Anyone Familiar With The LAW OF ATTRACTION?

Anyone Familiar With The LAW OF ATTRACTION?  I'll guess NOT much.  BTW, the LAW OF ATTRACTION does NOT refer OR pertain to romantic relationships only.  NOT at all.  IF you are a student, you need to get the ATTRACTION of your academic mentors, hoping they will favorably recognize your academic performance.  IF you are a worker, you would love to get the ATTRACTION all the way to the top tier CxO-level officers of your organization💴💷💵

IF you're single and available, obviously you need that LAW OF ATTRACTION.  IF you're an entrepreneur, you would sorely need that LAW OF ATTRACTION to lure your potential clients and business partners.  Now, let's zoom-in to the LAW OF ATTRACTION which has gained significant attention in recent years as a powerful tool in our daily life.  In fact, the LAW OF ATTRACTION is much sought after these days📗📙📘

This LAW OF ATTRACTION is based on the belief that our thoughts and emotions have the ability to shape our reality.  Attracting experiences and circumstances that align with our 'dominant mindset'.  And by focusing on our POSITIVE THOUGHTS, feeling and beliefs, we can attract positive outcomes and opportunities into our lives.  The LAW OF ATTRACTION operates on the principle that everything is made of ENERGY, and that includes our thoughts and emotions💎💎💎

And when we align ourselves with POSITIVE energy through conscious intention and visualization, we can begin to manifest our desires.  And that involves cultivating a mindset of abundance, gratitude and optimism while letting go of limiting beliefs or NEGATIVE patterns that may be holding us back.  Be aware that LAW OF ATTRACTION is NOT a magical solution but rather a PRACTICE that requires consistent effort✅✅✅

And the LAW OF ATTRACTION is founded on shifting our MINDSET for SUCCESS.  Belief systems play a crucial role in shaping our thoughts, actions and ultimately our SUCCESS.  By understanding the power of belief and learning how to shift our MINDSET, we can unlock our full potential and achieve greater SUCCESS in the various aspects of our life.  And POSITIVE affirmation is one effective tool for shifting our mindset.  These are the statements we keep repeating [to ourselves] to reinforce our beliefs about ourselves and our abilities.  Hoping that today, you have the basic grasp of the LAW OF ATTRACTION❗❗❗

What You See May NOT Be What It Is

 What You See May NOT Be What It Is

Apparently, there are jobs that may not look like 'PLUM' ones but the incumbent gains enormous life-changing lessons simply by performing the tasks.  And that job I'm referring to is the BANK TELLER's job where transactions may either be interesting, depressing or simply a boring one.  Nevertheless, What You See May NOT Be What It Is💴💷💵

BTW, this is a first-person sharing by a BANK TELLER who retired very much happy with the lessons in life picked from a NOT so glamorous job.  And as the BANK TELLER can easily see all the financial details of a client, they could start telling stories you never asked anyway, adding color to all of the information you can already see on the screen in front of you.  Oh yes, that BANK TELLER can see the client's income and expenses and the icing of the cake is that they can see their nitty-gritty day-to-day spending, like how they had swung through the drive-through on their way to the bank📗📙📘

The harsh reality, however, is that it didn't take a chatty BANK TELLER for the stories to unfold because even the most tight-lipped customers just COULDN'T hide from what the BANK TELLER can see.  It might be the person who is outraged by an overdraft fee after bouncing their rent check [again?].  Then, the BANK TELLER just watches as the client 'sinks' deeper in financial misery as they'd fail to make payments on their mortgages and loans💎💎💎

So WHAT are our takeaways from this short sharing lifted from a BANK TELLER's realizations?  Primero, that EXPENSIVE POSSESSIONS DO NOT SIGNIFY WEALTH.  There was just LITTLE or NO correlation at all between expensive objects and wealth. Ironically sometimes, those expensive objects people owned to look wealthy were the same things that brought them closer to poverty, whew✅✅✅

In these age of venture capitalists, studies show that sometimes, newly funded founders have a tendency to splash out on fancy offices, technology and even high-profile business trips with the idea that if they look like they're SUCCESSFUL, they will become more SUCCESSFUL.  BUT again, VC's [Venture Capitalists] and investors can see through that FACADE of FABRICATED wealth and instead see a frivolous spender.  WHAT's our insight from all these?  It is that WHAT YOU SEE MAY NOT BE WHAT IT IS❗❗❗

Breaking That VICIOUS CYCLE

Breaking That VICIOUS CYCLE

Let's reflect and look back within our daily life.  Do you feel tired of exerting all your energy into trying to achieve bigger and better results BUT all you end up with is the same thing in return?  Did you ever feel that FRUSTRATION burning in your chest the more you think about the VICIOUS CYCLE you're trying to get out of?  And do you wish you could stop comparing yourself to your peers, WHO seem to be doing much better in life?  Well, admittedly, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT but I'm more focused in Breaking That VICIOUS CYCLE💴💷💵

Even taking a positive spin, let us look around SUCCESSFUL people.  True, they made their mark BUT try to observe this if it's still trending.  When they hit a PEAK, and once they do, they DON'T know how to get past it.  Until years after, they might be awakened from their 'deep slumber' and realize that they were NOT doing anything NEW.  Things then had become a monotonous cycle and NOTHING you could change things.  Then, it leads to trying to escape That VICIOUS CYCLE📗📙📘

And at one point in my life, as I kept trying to remedy the problem [sometimes OUT OF FRUSTRATION] by tackling external factors, I never realized that the PROBLEM was in ME.  My internal beliefs were holding ME back from gaining clarity and developing an action plan.  So, how can I ever get to Break That VICIOUS CYCLE💎💎💎

At that point, I wanted to advance and reach a bigger stage in my life, those lofty heights made out of ambitious dreams. I became overly ambitious as I wanted to be HAPPIER and MORE SUCCESSFUL than I already was BUT the state of my mindset was holding me back.  That realization allowed me to analyze myself from within and pinpoint the exact feelings that were holding me back.  Voila, my biggest mental block was FEAR and DOUBT, so those two compelling variables were holding me out from Breaking That VICIOUS CYCLE❌❌❌

Then, things from bad to worse. I never stopped thinking [and OVER-thinking] like all the WHAT IFs.  As a result, I started working from a place of despair then even my decisions were fear-driven.  And as I couldn't get myself out of that harrowing cycle, my sense of doubt intensified     NOT until I realized that I could pursue alternative options to advance my goals and that led me towards Breaking That VICIOUS CYCLE✅✅✅

Why Do We Fail DESPITE Our Best Intentions?

Why Do We Fail DESPITE Our Best Intentions?

Sure I totally agree, everyone of us, regardless of our unique circumstances, everyone of us have our BEST INTENTIONS once we set our mind to achieve a goal. But are we aware that the SUCCESS to FAILURE ratio is pegged to 5:2 wherein on average, for every 5 FAILURES, there are 2 SUCCESSES.  So, the disturbing question is  Despite all the givens in life, WHY Do We Fail DESPITE Our BEST INTENTIONS❓❓❓

Indeed that's the biggest understatement, that 'THE ROAD TO HELL IS PAVED WITH GOOD INTENTIONS' because a lot more INTENTIONS are NOT just GOOD enough but some are the BEST ever INTENTIONS one can have in life.  Yet, based on the 5:2 ratio, we are miserably FAILING?  Where did our BEST INTENTIONS go then❌❌❌

Let's take a moment to think of a task you wish to accomplish in the next 3 months.  It should be something specific, like repainting your room OR completing an online course so that you can judge definitively IF and WHEN it has been completed.  BUT as you think about it right now, how likely would we say it is that you will finish the task by the end of summer💎💎💎

Oh Oh, chances are, your prediction may be too optimistic.  And you are LESS LIKELY  to finish the task than you think you can.  BUT remember, you did have the BEST INTENTIONS right from the start but even BEST INTENTIONS involves various variables such as the feasibility of achieving the goal you set on top of your   BEST INTENTIONS📌📌📌

In fact, various studies all end up with the same conclusion, that says, 'SELF PREDICTIONS' tend to be optimistic because people base them on their BEST INTENTIONS without considering HOW readily those BEST INTENTIONS can be translated into a concrete result in the future.  DON'T get me wrong though.  We're NOT here to dampen our BEST INTENTION.  In fact, let's keep SUSTAINING that momentum of BEST INTENTIONS but let us validate our estimations based on realistic assumptions✅✅✅

Are You White-Hot And Passionate?

 Are You White-Hot And Passionate?    

Are You White-Hot And Passionate?  BTW, I DON'T consider myself  either flashy, boisterous OR kind of a rabble-rousing person BUT I'll pull a fast one to state categorically that DOESN'T mean that I DON'T have the passion, that 'FIRE IN THE BELLY'.  That blaze is within, ravishing me daily , burning me at both ends, heating my mind and fueling my creative fumes.  I even shared this to my teams that each morning [those moments WHEN I'm on my 'morning prayers', I would wake up ignited ready for a new day that has dawned on me.  Was there a morning I DIDN'T wake up that way?  Yes when I was really ill💵💴💷

If there is a fact peddled day-in day-out, it is a fact that successful people. regardless of their personalities, burn on the inside, enough to describe them as White-Hot And Passionate.  We DON'T need to look far.  Look around people you know on first-hand basis.  Pick out the successful ones and circle the ones who are NOT passionate in their work?  Have we ever known someone at the top of their game BUT was only lukewarm in what they do💎💎💎

Thing is, without that FIRE, that BURN that keeps you going, you CAN'T possibly make it in a world with distractions, disappointments, disillusionment and discrimination.  Only the PASSIONATE can push past the obstacles thrown along the way, often producing results that 'LIGHT THE WORLD WITH THEIR FIRE'.  Even writers all write in unison THAT it is NOT light we need but that FIRE IN THE BELLY💊💊💊

When we're struggling to get out of a BAD place, we DON'T know how it will end.  Whether we will break through OR get sucked in.  In those kinds of struggles, however, we should then try to consider TRANSFORMATION.   It is that FIRE IN THE BELLY to CHANGE, to TRANSFORM, to win that pushes some people to do those 'superhuman things'📗📙📘

Many years back when I was quite active in the job market, I ensured that I am able to 'showcase' my FIRE IN THE BELLY' not when I am at work but as early as during those job interviews.  Ever mindful that it was a MAKE or BREAK for me, I had to pull out all the aces from my sleeves if only to convincingly get the 'nod' of the interviewer that indeed I was WHITE-HOT & PASSIONATE📌📌📌