When The SIZZLE FIZZLES Out
WHY is there so much EXCITEMENT at the start? WHY are we oozing with ENTHUSIASM at the start? WHY is our energy level at its peak at the start? When The SIZZLE FIZZLES Out, what triggers the SIZZLE to FIZZLE Out? Frankly, there's a zillion of reasons why The SIZZLE FIZZLES Out๐๐๐Look no farther from this world map as it shows that divorce rates are high across the Americas and Europe. But that is just one dimension when The SIZZLE FIZZLES Out, But this encroaches our daily lives, even when we're still in a school, OR at the workplace OR in our entrepreneurial initiatives. So, we need to figure out, WHY are we suffering from a lack of ENTHUSIASM? OR are we facing difficulty to MOTIVATE ourselves? OR are we struggling to rekindle that fervor to achieve something❓❓❓No one size fits all. That explains why we're here, to share my 2-cents where it's worth it.
Monday, June 19, 2023
When The SIZZLE FIZZLES Out
Sunday, June 18, 2023
Is Cyberbullying An Issue Now?
Is Cyberbullying An Issue Now?
Is Cyberbullying An Issue Now? Very much it is. And this chart says it all. 79% of Cyberbullying is happening between Facebook and Instagram. We can even close our eyes with the rest of the social media platforms like Twitter and YouTube but this statistical data should raise alarms no less because the segment of society who is most impacted by Cyberbullying are the young lives. And if do a random sampling of statistical data, the numbers will send out shivers no less๐๐๐Separate studies in the United States and Singapore have found that almost half of respondents in these countries have experienced Cyberbullying. But the bigger concern here is that this Cyberbullying problem could be under-reported as many youths tend to SUFFER IN SILENCE. Experts opined that victims should turn to a trusted adult for help while parents need to take more preemptive measures๐๐๐Now, let's pull the bull by its horns and face head-on what Cyberbullying really is. IT IS bullying with the use of digital technologies. IT IS taking place on social media, messaging platforms, gaming platforms and yes, even on smart phones. IT IS repeated behavior aimed at scaring, angering OR shaming those targeted. And the real-life testimonials are scary⏳⏳⏳Cyberbullying is spreading lies about OR posting embarassing photos or videos of someone on social media. Cyberbullying is sending hurtful, abusive or threatening messages, images or videos via messaging platforms. Cyberbullying is impersonating someone and sending mean messages to others on their behalf or through spurious or fake accounts✅✅✅Cyberbullying can even happen in parallel with face-to-face bullying but the biggest challenge confronting us all is that Cyberbullying leaves a digital footprint. This nightmare worsens when we consider the fact that Cyberbullying is happening even across online gaming communities and online forums, message boards such as Reddit. What's our FIX now? When you perceive someone within your family is going through Cyberbullying, LITERALLY CLAMP down on the connectivity. Move that person on a hiatus but be convincing enough that this is for his own interest❗❗❗
Saturday, June 17, 2023
Are You Parachute-ready?
Are You Parachute-ready?
No sirrrrrrrrrrrs, our thread today is NOT about skydiving and the like. Instead, it's to ask you if Are You Parachute-ready? In life no one will bother to ask Are You Parachute-ready since more often than not, human nature tells us that to talk about PARACHUTES IN LIFE is nonsense, because it's all a figment of one's imagination. Oh really? Much as we should be brimming with optimism, it should not be misplaced just NOT to be pessimistic๐๐๐Bluntly, 'PARACHUTES' are what we need in life, when we are embroiled with problems, when we are zapped by failures, when we get hit with tragic things NOT least expected, when suddenly a tightly-knit marriage ends in divorce. We can go on and on, the list of bad tidings can go on and on. And it's infinity because we DON'T see any visible end to those unexpected turn of events that is way beyond our control๐๐๐
Very much akin to parachutists, in life, we got to fully prepare ourselves the worst possible scenarios, sometimes some scenarios are damn so scary and dreadful. When our family goes to our annual overseas holidays [not until that pandemic stalled us all at home], I prepared for all possible WHAT IF scenarios. WHAT IF I lose my wallet, my $$$$$, my credit cards. Within myself, my WHAT IF scenarios included WHAT IF either my septuagenarian father-in-law falls when we are on holiday overseas⏳⏳⏳Thanks to our ancient ancestors, our brains are designed to expect the WORST. When early humans wandering our planet Earth, underestimating what was around the corner [or in those bushes and forest] could be deadly and dreadful. That explains why the primitive parts of our brains take a 'BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY' approach to those uncertainties, both big and small✅✅✅Fast-forward today, it might be easier to think of it this way: our brain is like a smoke detector. So in our daily life, uncertainties are like smoke. Your job is to figure out whether the problem is burnt toast, a house on fire, or just a false alarm, then we'll respond accordingly. In the simplest terms, we all should be prepared for the gloomy days, for the heavy downpours, for the worst things that can turn out its ugly head. ARE YOU PARACHUTE-READY❓❓❓Friday, June 16, 2023
That 'Bandwagon Effect'
That 'Bandwagon Effect'
Supposedly, That 'Bandwagon Effect' is NOT worth as our 'talking point' today but what eggs me to bring this on the table today is because it is a two-edged sword that can go either way, depending on the circumstances and its context. But before meandering into That 'Bandwagon Effect', let's agree on this Webster definition that it 'refers to our habit of adopting behaviors or beliefs because many other people are doing or practicing the same thing๐๐๐Let's NOT look farther than in sports, politics and marketing. When the NBA Golden State Warriors [GSW] kept winning, you would see people [including those you hardly know] wearing GSW jerseys and during games with TV telecast, over at the pub or restaurant, the TV is tuned to the GSW games where you see the pub clients swarming all over the place during GSW games⏳⏳⏳Prior to the pandemic, we witnessed long queues at the cinema for box-office hits. At the shopping mall, we would see customers swarming a place where it is filled [and sometimes overflowing up to the rafters]. For smokers, when vape was launched in the market, we all know how it got its captive market๐๐๐In brief, that BANDWAGON EFFECT can extend beyond sports, politics and marketing. It can affect all sorts of decisions we make in our lives. The primary worry is that it can override the individual CRITICAL THINKING that often goes into making good and informed decisions. Decisions that benefit many other people do NOT always benefit us. Consider going to the university. While it's ideal, it's NOT the best option for all✅✅✅What's left often forgotten is that ROAD LESS TRAVELLED. A ;ack of individual CRITICAL THINKING can have particularly damaging implications when it becomes widespread. At the height of the pandemic, people who joined the ANTI-VACCINATION Movement become less likely to have their children regularly immunized. History is also littered with dangerous populist movements driven by snowballing effects. Unless you are on the right side, be wary of that BANDWAGON EFFECT❗❗❗
Thursday, June 15, 2023
Bent But Not Broken
Bent But Not Broken
As much as we all live in a very imperfect world, many of us are still caught up with the fallacy that we can still live in a perfect world. NOT shaken. NOT threatened. NOT frightened. NOT scolded. NOT lost. NOT falling ill. NOT running out of money and we can go on and on. BUT hey, it is fine to be Bent But Not Broken๐๐๐
Oh, isn't this easier said than done? Absolutely. BUT in real life, there's enough elbow room for us to wiggle out. HOW? First off, DON'T allow your emotions to get in your way. You should NOT wear your EMOTIONS on your sleeves. We should NOT even yell or get overly animated when TIMES GET TOUGH. Let's endeavor to have that EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL that even our body language would NOT give us away. Otherwise, when we allow our emotions to get in the way, it could be interpreted as a sign that we are NOT being objective enough and too passionate about the situation at hand✅✅✅
You're bent? That's fine. You'll be fine but DON'T take things too personally. Decisions and circumstances DON'T always play out logically because of human dynamics that factor into a situation. It becomes imperative that we remain CALM and let us NOT be defensive or think that we always need to justify our thinking and actions. Otherwise, even a slight bend will worsen⏳⏳⏳If there is something where we need to invest, it is to develop that FORTITUDE, that positive mental attitude. If you're a parent, children will always watch your actions, behavior and overall demeanor. In your most difficult times, we need to maintain that positive mental attitude and manage a narrative that keeps our children inspired and hopeful. A positive attitude can neutralize CHAOS and allow us to course correct through the negativity. Keeping that positive mental attitude and never stopping to move forward would go a long way to ensure that you may be BENT BUT NOT BROKEN✅✅✅To quote the famous and respective Indian nationalist Mahatma Gandhi, 'STRENGTH DOES NOT COME FROM PHYSICAL CAPACITY. IT COMES FROM INDOMINATBLE WILL'. Our realization should be on comparing the efforts between starting back from ground zero versus standing up and picking up the pieces. For sales folks, it's a no-brainer to convince them that the costs to maintain an existing client is significantly much lower compared to the costs entailed to acquire a new client. Even if we get bent a hundred times, as long as our backbone and resolve does not waiver, then we'll survive with our heads up high❗❗❗
Wednesday, June 14, 2023
Composure Amid Chaos
Composure Amid Chaos
Ive got NO intentions to sound like Nostradamus, the French astrologer most famous for his book of prophesies but let's admit it, in life, CHAOS is another harsh reality we got to face. But hey, do you agree Composure Amid Chaos is our antidote to such a dilemma? Whether you are a leader in the workplace or one of the team members. Whether you are a parent or a entrepreneur, got to have composure๐๐๐Tuesday, June 13, 2023
The TOUGHEST Moments Are The Most INSPIRING Moments
The TOUGHEST Moments Are The Most INSPIRING Moments
The TOUGHEST Moments Are The Most INSPIRING Moments. Yesirrrrrs, I hope this is non-debatable. Recall back your past failures in life that sent shockwaves deep within you, those moments when you thought the whole roof was about to crumble down, pinning you deep down. Miami Heat Coach Erik Spoelstra recalls this back when one foot was 'in the grave' when they lost the first NBA Play-in game against Atlanta Hawks and when the Miami Heat team was in the cusp of bidding adieu to the 2023 Season in their final Play-In game against the Chicago Bulls until Miami Heat, behind star player Jimmy Butler, triggered a 15-1 run that ultimately led to the last nail on the coffin for the Chicago Bulls. As Miami Heat prepares for the Eastern Conference Finals, Spoelstra looks back at that heartbreaking loss to the Atlanta Hawks that pushed them against the wall. Fast forward, they are now NBA's Top 4, four wins away from the 2023 NBA Championship Finals๐๐๐Monday, June 12, 2023
Coping With Loneliness, Anyone?
Coping With Loneliness, Anyone?
LONELINESS? Such a boring thread today you might blurt. Let me share an extract from the www.statista.com fact sheet: In the NOV 2022 global survey, 33% [that is 33%, whew❗❗❗] of adults experience feelings of LONELINESS. So, let's agree that indeed LONELINESS is impacting our global village. So, it makes sense that today, our thread will be about Coping With Loneliness๐๐๐BTW, this prevalence of this LONELINESS dilemma should NOT be attributed to the recent pandemic, NOT at all because in fact and in truth, these numbers tapered off during the pandemic [when we were all locked-out at home together with our families]. So, no thanks to the pandemic, LONELINESS is a legitimate issue we need to look deeper. The U.S. Surgeon General, Dr. VIVEK MURTHY stated that this pervasive dilemma in the U.S. where MORE THAN HALF of Americans are lonely [inclusive of young adults]⏳⏳⏳Not to unduly blow-out this dilemma because majority of us still live within the urban and metropolitan suburbs but this is the ugly head rearing behind us. Factor-in social media and we end up with a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde problem because social media goes either way. Lo and behold, for those wired and connected, they can proclaim 'I CAN LIVE WITH IT' but for the isolated ones, it's kind of pushing them deeper in those trenches๐๐๐So, regardless whether you're out there in the countryside or within urban areas, we're all in the same boat, dude. What's our FIX? First of, RECONNECT. It's true social media can be toxic BUT hey, you DON'T need to get 'toxicated' right? If a classmate or teacher from way back sends an FB Friend Request, give it a serious thought [of course you must ASSESS + VALIDATE a request]. Next, let us try to be LESS DISTRACTED. How often do you look at your phone when someone speaks with you? For QUALITY, focus on the conversation, give justice where it's due✅✅✅Hey, while we're egging you to reconnect via social media, do SCALE BACK on social media because Virtual connection is NOT a replacement for IN-PERSON TIME [except if your BFF is 10,000 miles away]. Dr. Murthy says IN-PERSON TIME helps us understand others via the tone of their voice and read their body language. C'mon, LET'S DO IT, DON'T belittle LONELINESS❗❗❗
Sunday, June 11, 2023
IT's OK Not To Feel GOOD ENOUGH
IT's OK Not To Feel GOOD ENOUGH
Are you stuck looking at yourself across the mirror? Not literally though but from a SELF-JUDGMENT context? But not to dampen us, psychologists advise that if you have DOUBTS on yourself, you're NOT alone. In fact, a plurality of us do get into these SELF-DOUBTS from time to time. Experts tag those moments of our SELF-DOUBTS as "SELF-EVALUATIVE THOUGHTS" that rattle through our brain. Whether it concerns our performance at work, some boiling turmoil' in our relationship with our spouse/partner or that unexpressed nervousness if we are capable to climb a 'steep' challenge we doubt but again, as psychologists say, IT's OK Not To Feel GOOD ENOUGH
All these are NOT our faults according to experts because long way back, humans had to compete with others for STATUS. Comparing ourselves to others was then once a SURVIVAL SKILL. And during those tribal ages, being 'EXILED' from one's tribe was a matter of LIFE and DEATH. That explains why we humans ended up with that FEAR of REJECTION, until todayHumans are too hanged-up with so many WANTS. WANT to get good grades. WANT to have more monies. WANT to be attractive. WANT to be in the center of everything. Just one too many WANTS
At times, we try to do everything we can to PROVE to ourselves and others that we are the VERY THINGS we want to see ourselves: as GOOD, MONEYED, STRONG, ATTRACTIVE, INFLUENTIAL but again, things DON'T work that way. Bluntly, it is actually our relentless trying to FEEL GOOD about ourselves that causes much of our distress. Isn't that a gross irony? When it is ourselves causing it❓❓❓
Saturday, June 10, 2023
Anxiety Anyone?
Anxiety Anyone?
Oh Oh Oh this seems a NON-NEWS to us, right ? Once we raise up Anxiety as a topic, many will protest, that's NOT worth to be our thread. But c'mon, we can flip things around so that Anxiety may lead us to clues if only to improve and make our lives better. We know for a fact that ANXIETY can feel like a heavyweight that we DIDN'T ask to carry in the first place. Of course, WHO would NOT want to get rid of it. Anxiety Anyone❓❓❓Neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki points out that Anxiety is a natural human emotion, one that evolved to serve a purpose. We feel anxious when there is some kind of danger as it seems to prime our body to FIGHT or FLEE from that danger, hoping that we'll end up BETTER off. In the same way, our modern anxieties can be a warning signal for things that are wrong. Not having enough rest, lots of multi-tasking, isolation from others. Our anxious energy alerts us to change our lives for the better, according to Suzuki but sadly, majority of us [and that includes myself] are NOT aware of this proven premise๐๐๐Apparently, if we simply approach it as something to AVOID, get RID of or dampen, we NOT only DON'T solve the problem but we end up actually missing an opportunity to leverage that hidden power of ANXIETY. From an expert viewpoint of Suzuki, to do that, we first need to turn down the VOLUME of our ANXIETY so that we can listen to what it [our ANXIETY] has to say. Now, it might help if we go back to the very basic definition of ANXIETY which is that FEELING of FEAR or worry typically associated with situations of uncertainty⏳⏳⏳Apparently, GOOD ANXIETY comes with a better awareness that ANXIETY is protective, and going through all the exercises to allow us to take advantage of what ANXIETY originally evolved to do, which is, to put into action that will give us a better outcome๐๐๐So what's our FIX? Let us know the difference between GOOD versus BAD ANXIETY in our body. Chronic anxiety and stress is VERY bad for all our systems in our bodies. High levels of stress hormones can damage THEN KILL cells in our brain. On the other hand, GOOD ANXIETY is that 'warning system' that helps put us into ACTION. We heard about 'FIGHT or FLIGHT' versus the 'REST & DIGEST' part of our nervous system. And that is what we need to activate to bring us back to equilibrium when stressed. ANXIETY anyone? Not for me, not for us✅✅✅Straight from my thought processes...
Going Against The Odds
Going Against The Odds I believe this is a GIVEN . Before you make a choice, you usually evaluate the odds. As any rational thinking perso...
Sharing the most popular posts till to date
-
Be Warned About PARADOXES In Life Not to create an unnecessary scare BUT one fact we tend t overlook is that throughout our lifetime, there ...
-
If You Are in the Building, ARE YOU THERE? Of course, you were at work when at work. Of course, you were home after work. Of course, you w...
-
Stop Taking Things PERSONALLY When people disrespect you OR do not treat you well, it is indeed that easy to take their behavior PERSONALLY ...
-
Keeping Up With The Kardashians [Not the TV Series] No Senor, today's piece Keeping Up With The Kardashians is not about that very succ...
-
Rain Falls Harder On A Leaky Roof Rain Falls Harder On A Leaky Roof, that's a common expression in Japan. Simply put, this Japanese pro...
-
What 99% Of Us DO NOT DO This is strangely interesting so I thought this is our thread today. What 99% Of Us DO NOT DO [and I admit I am...
-
How Do We Handle CRITICISM? WHO wants CRITICISM ? Absolutely no one amongst us. Many times in the middle of nowhere, we will hear somethin...
-
Never Reveal Your GOALs Social media is saturated with GOALS and DREAMS . Nothing wrong sharing it in those platforms BUT here's a big ...
-
Be Genuine, Period Not to be defensive but the real truth is I have tons and tons of imperfections BUT NOT being GENUINE is NOT one of them....
-
Do We Embrace FAILURE? FAILING is an inevitable part of life, BUT feeling like a FAILURE should NOT be the case. Point is, we need to sepa...