Transactional Versus Transcendental Relationships

Transactional Versus Transcendental Relationships

YES, this is a no-brainer as we all know WHEN a stuff is tagged as TRANSACTIONAL.  Kind of a one-off thing.  And I'll safely guess that most of us will be inclined to admit that their relationships with friends and relatives [and that includes family members] are Transcendental, WHICH Mr Google defines as that connection that is beyond the normal range of physical human experience, something that goes deeper than just touch or sound.  NOW, let's rethink things over.  HOW cocksure are we that all our relationships NOW which we deem as TRANSCENDENTAL are indeed TRANSCENDENTAL???

A minor mix-up here is that we tend to codify things as simply either black OR white.  While indeed that those stuff we get involved in the groceries and supermarkets are of course transactional, we tend to lump all our other relationships [with work colleagues, business associates and ALL OTHER relatives as TRANSCENDENTAL].  WHICH is intrinsically flawed because those most of those relationships at work or business are purely coincidental, i.e. you happen to relate to that colleague because either of work OR business and NOT because of something deeper.  In brief, those relationships are superficial enough, hence they should be tagged as TRANSACTIONAL as well💧💧💧

WHEREAS, everyone agrees that WHEN a relationship becomes either OR potentially TRANSCENDENTAL, it will be work OR a work-in-progress towards achieving a mutual goal that is deeply rooted and this is where love as a variable gets into the equation.  What sets apart TRANSCENDENTAL relationships is that at its infancy stage, WHICH psychologists frame around the first two years, the relationship becomes easy and almost effortless✅✅✅

And WHEN that first two [to even three] years would lapse, kaboom, that's WHEN things start to pick up and become dicey.  Those are the times WHEN partners will have to rethink things over and YES, this is one of the hardest pills to swallow for many.  Even as a layman, many times I did hear people complain that love should be that easy and IF it is hard, it probably is NOT healthy OR the partner may NOT be the correct person for him or her❌❌❌

Our takeaway:  It should be NOT difficult for us to have a consensus that in a big chunk of our journey in life, more often than NOT, even such TRANSCENDENTAL relationships are a work-in-progress.  WHAT we often miss out here is that there is that existing 'battle' between one's desire to provide agape love and yet make sure one's ego needs are met at the same time.  Call it love's tug of war BUT for brevity here, let us NOT mix up TRANSACTIONAL versus TRANSCENDENTAL relationships because the latter is something you do for someone else, NOT something you do for yourself😌😌😌